boyfriend cums as soon as he’s inside me?

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 months, about 2 months into our relationship he started cuming as soon as he would put it in. Prior to that the sex was never more than a 5-10 mins but we only saw each other once a week and he’d been single for a while before we met, so I just thought once we were able to see each other more and have more sex, it would change, we aren’t seeing each other much more than in the beginning, but as I mentioned now he’s cuming as soon as he puts it in.
We both are frustrated, I keep telling him it’s ok and I’m trying to be understanding but it’s getting harder. I’d honestly rather just make out then have sex and left feeling disappointed and like I’m somehow at fault since it didn’t start out that way. We tried using the desensitizing condoms, they add maybe a min or 2 but no more, we’ve tried even getting him off on a BJ and waiting a bit and going again, but still this is only getting a min or 2 more.
Any suggestions?
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  • The guy is probably still just sensitive. I think it happens to everyone in the very beginning when they just start exploring their sexuality.
    In my opinion this stems from a lack of regular masturbation. If a guy masterbates at least once a day, he would be able to last longer. Daily sex could also help with this. Another tactic to try in the beginning is to try and think of something else right before climax, or to start counting on fives (not too diffucult to do, but a much needed distraction). Once the guy avoids cumming at the first near climax, he could be able to control his climaxes from there on out. It is possible to easily go an hour of more with this tactic. It just takes some practice

    • We work 100 opposite schedules and don’t live together, daily sex is out of the equation for now,

    • Well, are you okay with it if he masturbates and build up a type of tolerance?

    • He already does. He was single for 5 years, so he’s well accustomed to porn and masturbation

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  • What if he goes down on you so you orgasm, then have sex? It will still be fast, but at least you both got to orgasm.

    • We do, but it’s about the same as the 1st

Most Helpful Girls

  • Give him head in the morning, then make love that evening. He should last longer that way.

  • Try a cock ring... if not make him use a strap on after he cums

    • Lmfao

  • I don't really know. I would say practice makes perfect maybe.

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  • Get the guy obscenely drunk and just keep having sex

    • That doesn’t work, he gets whiskey dick, tried that

    • Then just keep fucking, he'll simmer down at some point,

  • Yes. Stop sleeping with 20 year olds.

    • Ruthless

  • It sounds like he has ED , or it's a psychological issue , I can see why You're frustrated but honestly it sounds like he has ED how old is he

    • What is his health like? Does he drink or smoke? Does he eat unhealthy foods? Can be a lot of reasons , best to tell him to go see a doctor , has he tried Viagra?

    • He’s 35, heathy, eats well, goes to the gym.

    • Then it must be a psychological issue , tell him to try Viagra

  • Two or three orgasms during foreplay before putting it in

  • Delay spray.
    Double condom.
    Or maybe psychological councillor if it keeps happening... Get the guy to jack. off twice an hour before and if it still happens

  • Worse case, there are pills and shots to solve this kind of problem.

  • Go for a second round.

  • When he premature ejaculates just go again. He'll last longer each time.

    • Tried that, he cums just as fast the 2nd time. It wasn’t like this when we 1st met, it seemed like it started around the same time as he started developing deep feelings for me.

    • It's because of the deep feelings then.

    • I don't know what else to tell you then. Unless you make him him 4 times before trying again, but by then it'll hurt so much, he won't even be able to get hard. But after a while he should get used to the sensation and not be so turned out by it. I've never heard of anyone developing a premature ejaculation problem LATER in the relationship.

  • Wait you're tell us that he cums as soon as he inside

    But you then said that he last for 5-10 minutes... and that's the average time for any guy to cum once he's inside

  • He needs to do pelvic floor exercises everyday. Tell him to do about 50 a day for 10 seconds each rep then build up to longer. The second exercise is similar, bring himself almost to the 'point of no return' then squeeze as hard as he can on those pelvic floor muscles untill that 'need' goes away, then continue fucking u.

  • Double bag him or have him think about baseball when he's f*cking you or trying to f*ck you keep his mind preoccupied on other stuff other than your tits and pussy and ass then he won't cum so fast

  • wait should he wait for you? if you guys can't cum together you are on your own sex is not a government job where you have to work from 9-5

  • Premature ejaculation. im not a doctor, but there is plenty of stuff on the web, at least you know he's probably not fooling around lol

  • Dump him.

  • Lucky woman, you got yourself a true man

  • Licking May be the best option

  • Asked him to play with himself and cumming before making love. Should sort things out...

  • His age?

    • He’s 35 and I’m 37