Why do girls have so much meaningless sex?

[Mike100745]

I'm not saying that girls can't do what they want with their own bodies and I'm not trying to "oppress women" or whatever. So Feminists, please don't get "offended". Now...

I know that not all girls are the same. Some girls won't have sex with a guy that isn't their boyfriend. This applies to the minority of girls (maybe 10%). I also know that a small amount of girls won't have sex until marriage but lets be realistic, probably less than 1% of Western Women actual follow this.

So MOST girls have casual sex. I read a study that stated "66% of Americans have had a one night stand". So I'm not wrong in saying the extreme majority of girls have got fucked by a guy they weren't dating.

If you're not from the US let me enlighten you. It's NORMAL for girls here to go out, get drunk, meet a guy (a complete stranger they've never met), dance with him, make out and then go home with him and let him fuck you. It's not like this is a once off. Girls here do this quite often, usually every month or two. At college, girls do this every couple of weeks. At spring break they let a new guy fuck them like every day or two. So girls are constantly doing this.

If I was a girl I would never do this as I wouldn't let a guy that only thinks of me as a sexual object, use me for pleasure. But I suppose girls have their reasons. Once again I'm not saying girls are "bad" or that they "shouldn't". I'm merely saying how I don't understand why they do it so much. If I was a woman I would only want to have sex with a guy that means something to me and I would make sure he cared & respected me before sex.

Look I'm not trying to offend women here, I just don't get why they have so much risky, meaningless sex, rather than look for a partner (doesn't have to be a romantic relationship as such) that means something to them. Seen as girls get pregnant and are more vulnerable to STDs I wouldn't want to have sex with lots of strangers like girls these days do. So, why are most girls so promiscuous?

[Anonymous]

I'm a girl, who in my lifetime, has had meaningless sex. There was a bunch of reasons looking back, low self esteem, hoping the guy would want more and validate my shitty life. Past shitty long term relationships. Looking to 'have fun' before settling down, etc. While only the first two were me, in 2 instances with 2 guys, was the case. The first guy, I entered into with him knowing that I was interested romantically. Slept together for about 6 months before he ended thing because they were becoming too serious. The other, I had just left a long term engagement, he was abusive, I finally gained my confidence and was wanting to see what else was out there. Both ended in heartbreak for me. But that was the reasoning behind both.

Currently, I am sleeping with someone. A friends with benefits situation. I am in medical school. I work a full-time job. On my days off I babysit my nieces and have one night a week to watch t. v. or drink a little or do what I want to do. I am too busy in my life to seek out a relationship, but I still have needs. Unfortunately, casual sex is apparently not my thing. I'm beginning to have feelings for this guy which makes things ultracomplicated. Point is, most girls aren't just doing it because whatever. Most have a reason you may not be aware of.

[coralee]

If it's a one night stand I have no intention of seeing him again why would I care if he's dumb enough to view me as an object? You seem to be under then impression that women have casual sex for different reasons then men do. We don't, we do it because it's pleasurable and we have desires. As for pregnancy and STI's, they have a nifty new contraption that greatly reduces the risk for both. Maybe you've heard of it, it's called a condom. Having sex is always a risk, even within a committed relationship. And in personal experience people who engage in casual sex tend to be far more careful about minimizing those risks because of the perceived risk. I know guys who have never been checked out even because they've only been in "committed" relationships despite the fact that they have had partner's cheat on them.

[Astria]

To me, it isn't feminist behavior because you are reducing yourself to a sexual object in the most basic way you can. I think if women respected themselves they wouldn't act like that. I want a guy to love my character, my personality first and then have my body as icing on the cake (literal if he likes). I like the chase as much as I like everything that follows so I never understood why girls just give such close intimacy away to a stranger. Sex is not nothing, it's a very powerful connection between two people that, in my opinion, should be in love.

[lilaqua]

Why do guys do it? Most people are sexual and if they’re single its great to have a hookup. Just because it’s a one time thing doesn’t mean you’re not respected, and it’s generally accepted that the people use each other. In my one night stands dudes have been very attentive to me and never made me feel like I was used. I think what you don’t understand is that most people can derive pleasure from sex without loving the other person and sometimes it’s nice to experience someone you wouldn’t normally date.

[Mike100745]

That's understandable but why do so many women complain about men not wanting relationships when women seem to think the same as guys?

[lilaqua]

If you’ve been on here for any length of time you’ll notice that 90% of the posts asking why the opposite sex doesn’t want a relationship it’s men.

[lilaqua]

Also those two men who thumbed me down, why?

[Mike100745]

Apart from this site, it's always women complaining. When they just want sex they don't care about the men they hurt and lead on. They say they only wanted sex and the guys should have know better. They say its their body so they can do what they want. I agree. However I think that they should complain and look for attention when guys do the same thing. So if girls don't wanna date and just have sex, they shouldn't complain about "fuckboys" but they do.

[lilaqua]

Doesn’t the fact that dudes complain about it on this site where they’re anonymous away from the pressures of society make a lot of sense? The truth is likely both genders feel very similarly. I think the issue comes about where one party wants a relationship and the other doesn’t. It’s all a lack of communication and unequal feelings.

[lilaqua]

can you follow me mate I want to message you

[MrMAC777]

Because they can... they usually hold most of the control when it comes to deciding if sex is going to happen, in the west anyway. If guys had the control, we'd fuck a new person every 30 minutes. So they are exploring their desires thats all.

[CT_CD]

It's normal for women to be sloots now. Even encouraged. Not uncommon for college aged women to have already slept with 10+ men. They do that but yet they want men to respect them and not view them as just a sexual object.

[Mike100745]

Yep. They seem like massive hypocrites to me.

[Cacacac]

Just because a woman chooses to have sex with multiple men does not mean they should be less respected. Why is this not true for men? Men have always been praised and whatever for banging x, y, and z girls. So why is it different if women do it? If i wanted to pursue a relationship with someone and the number of guys I've slept with reduces their respect for me then they're not worth it. It's not like a lose a piece of myself every time I have sex? Like y'all sound crazy. Every dude I've slept with has been on my terms and cause I wanted to, and you better believe I've always demanded my respect. Even if you're a hookup you're not gonna walk all over me

[SammyGurl]

I love sex, but I've never engaged in anything but meaningful sex with the guy who is now my husband, he can say the same about me. As pleasurable as sex is, I'm just not the type of person who would jump in bed with just anyone. I have to be loved and in love with them to even think about sex with them. Strange by today's norms I guess, but it just feels right in my heart so why change.

[angelin]

It’s become normal. Most girls don’t believe “Mr. Right” is out there, anymore. Maybe they hope to find it in a one night stand. Got to kiss plenty of frogs to find your prince, right. Sexual morals are not taught so much anymore either. It’s quite normal for guys and girls just to tinder it up. Thinking sex is actual fulfilling attention. 1 our of 10 girls I know find a new person every weekend or every other weekend. Girls are honey too. It was normal for men to do this not to long again so women are just doing it to.

[Moonchild714]

Same reasons guys do it. As a man what's your take on men having so much meaningless sex? As a man, do you not want women or men treating you like a sexual object? As a man, do you only want to have sex with someone that means something to you and cares and respects you? Also, 60% that's just 60% of those surveyed not 60% of All of America. I think your numbers are way off. Also, I don't understand why this question is always just posted to women?

[ChronicThinker]

I hate to be that bitch but: for the same reason lots of people have meaningless sex. The thrill, for self-esteem, to add notches to their belts... whatever.

[TazWax]

Because we like get our nuts off too.

[Mike100745]

Why so many women complain about guys "only wanting sex" or guys "not wanting to date"? If girls view sex the same as guys why do they complain?

[TazWax]

I've never been that kind of girl. The problem most girls have though is the fact that most men aren't honest about it. They will lie to a female just to get some and after the get some the feel like they didn't do anything wrong.

[Alessus]

Maybe the pleasure derived from the sex is the meaning. Perhaps you don't feel that way and that is your prerogative, but the fact that you consider those one night stands meanigless, doesn't mean it applies to the people who do it.

[melanieeeB]

The same reason why men do it lmao

[Mike100745]

Which is? Pleasure. Why do girls complain about men only wanting sex when women are pretty much the same.

[melanieeeB]

Cause not everyone wants this, some women and men don't want sex to be something that casual and then others have no problem with this, what by the way is definitely the minority

[Mike100745]

Exactly, the minority of women value sex but most don't. Yet the same women that fucked 58 guys last year complain about fuckboys and how there are "no good guys". Girls are just fucking hypocrite losers these days. All they can offer guys is pussy. Doesn't reflect well on women as a whole.

[melanieeeB]

Lmao guys are also super hypocritical losers "oh I'm a good guy but no girl wants me"

[Mike100745]

Girls don't deserve relationships and they deserve for all their boyfriends to cheat on them.

[Nattybaby]

I agree, but its definitely is applied to both sides. :)

[Trisha13]

Why do guys? Same answer

[Mike100745]

But guys don't complain about women "Only wanting sex" and guys don't really get too upset when girls cheat on them but women make it out to be such a big deal when women don't value sex either.

[Trisha13]

Well, I'll disagree on a few things. I have never, ever been one to take do casual sex. I take pride in my body and believe it shouldn't be used up. So not every girl has meaningless sex. and I disagree that guys don't care. If he moves his girlfriend, he will definitely care. But everyone is different. I've also never cheated, but I've had had a few flings.

[slatyb]

Because sex feels REALLY good. Duuuuh.

[Streak]

You sound lik3 you are ranting because you're not part of the statistic

[Mike100745]

What's that supposed to mean? Iv'e had sex with a girl I wasn't dating before, it's not very hard these days. I honestly don't get what you're trying to say, buddy.

[Streak]

So what's the point in making it seems as though you don't get why people have sex?

[Mike100745]

For pleasure yeah I get it. I just thought women put more value into sex than men. I guess I was wrong.

[Streak]

Never put anyone on a pedestal for whatever reason. That's a great lesson, haha

[girlsfunfirst]

Its fun

[Dabare]

Yes it is

[Mike100745]

OK but can I ask why do women get mad when guys cheat on them. Its clear that women don't value sex at all really and therefore why do they get upset? Or why do women complain about guys only wanting sex then? If women are the exact same?

[girlsfunfirst]

Different women treat or feel about it differently We are not all clones

[Mike100745]

Women view sex the same as men. Therefore women should shut the fuck up about "fuckboys" and "guys only wanting one thing".

[girlsfunfirst]

Nasty little boy

[winterfox10]

Because it's not meaningless to the women. Many women these days try to use sex as a way to entice the guys they like into having relationships... usually unsuccessfully

[Wwwyzzerdd]

Women have the outlook of fucking guys until they find one they really like, then only fucking that guy.

Whereas men spend all their time trying to fuck and end up fucking one chick because she's the only one that agrees to sex.

[JennieF]

We like sex.

[cj72323]

I bet you do !

[Dabare]

I think men have more meaningless sex

[rogermclain]

Same outcome