Why do girls give sex to some guys right away but make others guys wait?

[Logan27]

Girls *usually* wait about 1-2 months of dating before having sex with the guy they're seeing. Right? They want to get to know him and feel comfortable with him. This is how girls *usually* act in the early stages of dating. They don't want to have sex with him right away. Well they do but they hold off on it for multiple reasons, reasons which I'm not going to get into but I'm sure you know some.

That's all good. However there's a slight contradiction.

Hookups. Casual sex. One night stands. While they don't happen as often as people think they do, they are still quite common. The average American woman has 6 one night stands in a lifetime. To some people that's a lot but to others it isn't... but... let's just look at what casual sex basically is. It's meaningless sex with a stranger for pleasure.

That's all good but here's the problem...

> Why do girls have sex with some guys right away, guys they don't even know, yet they make guys who take them seriously wait. It seems a bit unfair doesn't it? Why should a guy that is interested in something other than sex have to wait, yet other jerks just get a free pass? No, I'm not trying to advertise that whole "nice guy" bullshit. Attractive, high quality guys that want relationships have to wait to have sex with a girl they're seeing. Yet previously that same girl gave a few other guys a free pass. Guys she didn't even know. She's denying a guy that is interested in her but she didn't deny a guy that she just met. <

Why?

I know that a girl can have sex whenever they want and with whoever they want but doesn't this seem a bit unfair to the guys that want to take her seriously. No, she doesn't have to have sex with him right away but she should sooner than girls *usually* do. Otherwise it's unfair in my opinion. And before anyone says anything, yes I know girls sometimes have sex on the first date. I know some girls don't have casual sex at all, but the behavior I have described is the norm.

[jakeforfun]

Some guys are hotter than other guys. Some guys exude "one night stand only". Some girls who are super horny on a given day jump a guy to relieve the sexual stress. And, if a girl really likes you, for a relationship, ltr, then she might just wait that 1-2 months. The other guy (who she did today) isn't relationship material. he's a boytoy.

[Berethor]

They might use the excuse that they don't want to rush him with a guy who they want something serious with, but if it's the same girls, you right about it being quite hypocritical, but then again a truly serious girl should never have a one-night stands, a girl who had a one-night stand is a big red flag, as it's an very slutty action.

[Berethor]

I mean "they might use the excuse that they don't want to rush it".

[bknigrl]

As if sex were some gift that is somehow arbitrarily earned...

Is it equally fair that guys generally stick it inside anything with a hole then expect it to be "given" to them because of such and such reasons?

[DevilsAdvocator]

If it isn't something that can ever be earned, then why should we bother trying to earn it? Why not just steal it, use you and con you into handing it over to us freely instead? "Guys generally stick it inside anything with a hole"- really? How few guys have onaholes and sex dolls, compared to the hordes of girls who have dildos and who'll stick literally anything in their vaginas? We don't stick our dicks into anything with a hole- if we did, and we were content with that, then we wouldn't care in the slightest about whether we got sex from you or not. You lot, on the other hand, will stick anything and everything into your holes. Cause who needs guys when you've got your trusty dildos, right? And guys are nothing but meat dildos to you anyway, right? You always project your own shitty mindsets onto us.

[bknigrl]

Whoever hurt you is not the next girl you meet, boi.

[tzdc21]

Totally valid question

[Robertcw]

One to two months? ?

Isn’t it like the second or third date?