Do You Think It's Wrong for a High School Teacher to Sleep With A Girl Who JUST Graduated From High School?

[Anonymous]

I'm a high school teacher, and I'm planning on having some fun this summer

Basically, there is a student I have who turns 18 years old on May 29th this year. This works out PERFECTLY, because the school I have graduates on June First of this year. It's still wrong to to have sexual relations with an 18 year old student if they are still IN high school, but what about when they graduate?

This girl flirts with me every day (Trust me, I know she likes me), and I flirt back, but I won't do anymore, because I know my boundaries. She has an incredible body, and I find her face cute too. I l want to wait until she has a graduation party, and go to her party. I want to have sex with her right after she graduates. If she's a virgin, this will be a bonus.

I don't want any of my co-workers to know, because this won't look good, but really, when she's graduated, AND 18, she's now an adult. It could cause me to get terminated, since it's still unprofessional (even if it's legal).

I've had a fantasy of having sex with an 18 year old for so long now. Do you all think this is weird?

[Anonymous]

"I personally don't think it's wrong at all"
Then
"it could backfire, and cause me to get terminated."
(You posted this on a pink anons opinion)

While you may not see it as wrong clearly enough people do, most importantly the ones that can destroy your career.
So... is fucking some 18 year old that's hot and *croses fingers*, hopefully, a virgin worth destroying your reputation? Really?
I try pretty hard not to make snap judgments but you're making it extremely difficult not to. I'm sorry but you sound like an asshole right now. You want to have a sexual relationship with a student, whether it's started now or not you're setting it up that to happen. That's not ok, it's highly unprofessional.
So she flirts with you, great.
You flirt too... I'm sorry, but you're not very smart if you don't think people are noticing that. That can't be great for your reputation.
The other part I noticed is you saying something like, she's not really college material so, what? Is she not very book smart? But she's hot! Did it ever occur to you that she's trying to manipulate you? Hot girls tend to do that, they use what they have to get what the want. Maybe she isn't manipulating you but since I'm not there and I only have the information you're giving me I can't really make that call.
The other part that's troubling to me is that you're obviously not interested in her for anything other than sex. Not once did you say anything about her that wasn't about appearance or that wasn't sexual. If you could have at least said something that wasn't shallow I MIGHT have been able to see some glimmer of hope here but, sorry, you're not being a good guy here. So then what happens next year? You're going to continue to see school as your virgin hunting ground? That's pretty messed up.
You're in a position of authority over this girl and while you're not pursuing that relationship at this moment you intend to and WHEN it comes out, because it will, you will have such a backlash from other teachers and parents. No one is going to want you near kids.

[Wonderer89]

So you’re a predator, taking advantage of your position to influence people under your tutelage in the hope of sexual gratification.
Not only have you acknowledged that you know it’s wrong by trying to hide it from your co-workers and peers because there are repercussions, you’ve continued a borderline obsession by counting down the days.

It’s fine to find people attractive, that’s life. It’s 100% NOT fine to take advantage of your position as an educator to meet young and impressionable girls and you know it

[Asker]

I actually didn't acknowledge it was wrong. I specifically said I was hiding it because I didn't want to lose my job. It was an April Fool's Day joke anyway! :)

[Wonderer89]

Yes, rules and policies regarding employment termination are generally based on totally acceptable and moralistic behaviour. Get real; you’ve acknowledged you would lose your job over it ergo it’s unacceptable behaviour which is the same as wrong. Whatever you need to tell yourself mate, whether that’s true or not (and I doubt it, I think you’re more likely trying to save face given the backlash you’ve received) you’ve displayed seriously questionable behaviour for someone in your position

[Asker]

Work on your reading comprehension skills. Again, it was an April Fool's Day joke :)

[Wonderer89]

You should look for another job if you think there is something wrong with my reading and comprehension. I’ve already addressed my disbelief at that statement.

[Trump2016]

Lmfao a "predator"? When I was in high school, I knew 18 year old girls who would pursue adult men. Quit pretending like these girls are innocent victims. I don't really see how they can fire a teacher for having sex with an adult who has graduated from high school.

[Trump2016]

by the way, he posted this question on April 1st, so it probably was an April Fool Day joke. I figured it out a few days ago, but I didn't want to spoil it on here.

[Wonderer89]

@Trump2016 he can pursue any 18 year old he wants; so long as she wasn’t under his tutelage. Just because you don’t understand or agree with how educational institutions set their moral code doesn’t negate its rule. I’ve already addressed the lack of belief at that, and even if it was true it doesn’t negate this stupidity of a so called teacher, posting his face, location, occupation with these kind of statements. Any teacher who thought this would be an amusing joke to put online knowing it would jeopardise their employment deserves the repercussions that everyone here including myself has outlined. Good for you if you find it acceptable behaviour, but the majority of society doesn’t and those rules enforce that opinion

[Asker]

Right now, I'm a substitute teacher looking for a full time job. I don't have my name on my account, or even my exact location. It's highly unlikely this account will be found within my area. If I did purposely post this on April Fool's Day to trick people into thinking it was a joke (which I didn't), then why wouldn't I just post anonymously? Wouldn't that make tremendously more... sense? Clearly, I didn't post it anonymously because it was an April Fool's Day joke in the first place. If I posted it anonymously, people would think I'm trolling anyway.

[JimRSmith]

Look, she just owned you here. You've reached rock bottom, and you're starting to dig. I'd recommend giving it a rest before you get any deeper into the quagmire.

[Asker]

@JimRSmith No, she didn't "own" me. It's pretty common for 99 percent of the population to make April Fool's Day's jokes on April 1st of the year. It happen every year. Like I said, why wouldn't I just post anonymously if I was going to admit something like this? OBVIOUSLY, I did it non-anonymously on purpose BECAUSE it was an April Fool's Day joke. I think you, and her are going through cognitive dissonance because you fell for an April Fool's Day joke.

[Wonderer89]

Uh huh. Whatever you need to tell yourself but I’m not the one who jumped in on a fake account to garner some support. As I’ve said; I highly doubt it was a joke - and I think that you weren’t astute enough to put some thought into what saying those things means for someone in your position, and even if it were a joke it was in such poor taste it STILL puts you in the same class as above. No employable teacher goes online with their face and location and says they want to fuck their students to teach them how it’s done, admitting they would lose their job over it. People simply aren’t that stupid to think it’s a reasonable joke when it can cost their job; yet they are stupid enough to air their sexual proclivities as has been shown time and time again. Think it’s butt hurt all you want, doesn’t change the fact you’re the only fool here regardless of your intent - even based only on your reaction to people calling you out on your unethical behaviour. Good luck with your future jobs

[CHARismatic110]

This sounds so wrong. You're a teacher. A young one, but a teacher nonetheless. You're not there to flirt with students and look at their underage bodies. You are there to teach them. Stuff like this ALWAYS comes out. You don't seem like you try to hide your flirting so I'm sure someone else has observed it. And you're literally waiting for her to be legal. You don't see the problem there?

[desidoll]

By law it isn't wrong but morally, you aren't being professional. I'm a teacher too and I know I won't throw myself in this kind of trouble. You are risking your career and reputation. No matter how sneaky you are, one day people are going to find out. You can go nowhere. by the way if one day both of you broke up, how far are you sure that she won't blackmail you?

[NYCQuestions1976]

Since I sense that you're going to do whatever you want to anyway, I'm tailoring my response accordingly:

This isn't a baseball post. You better be clear on the rules and regulations of wherever you're located, you better be sure that there's ZERO connection between you and her (real, fabricated, and/or otherwise) before the school year ends, and you better be sure she's not jealous or vindictive when it all goes down in flames.

[NYCQuestions1976]

Nice. One of the better April Fools jokes I've encountered over the years. Well done, Sir. However, if for whatever reason the "update" happens to be the joke/curveball, seriously heed previous post above.

[Asker]

I think it's funny how people are denying this was an April Fool's Day joke in the first place. I wouldn't post it non-anonymously if it wasn't an April Fool's Day joke. These people are mad they fell for the joke.

[Zereo]

It's not weird. We all have fantasies.
Although, I usually follow the "4-5
Year rule" when it comes to sex though.
But. . . Never hurts to have fun right?

[Asker]

Right. When I'm 65 years old, I wouldn't mind screwing an 18 year old.

[MlleCake]

Highly unethical. Do not do. Get professional help if you are going to continue to teach teen women.

[Trump2016]

It might be unethical in the sense he's a teacher, and he has power, but that's not an age issue. It would be unethical for a manager at a store to have sexual relations with his/her 30 year old worker under him.

[peachblossomluck]

This would be a fatal move on your part, because it may appear as you were grooming her and then it would cause people to think you may have done this sort of thing before. Your reputation would be ruined.

[Jmcmanning]

It should be technically be in the contract you signed with the school. If there is nothng mentioned in it, you should be okay when it concerns your job. If you think having a fling with a newly 18 year old is that important - only you can make that choice. It's not the best example if anyone ever finds out (like other students)

[Cwazzycwafter]

Whether I think it’s alright or not doesn’t really matter, because the consensus on the part of your community will be that it’s unethical, and they might even call it illegal. You’ll probably lose your job.

[JimRSmith]

I honestly think you're in the wrong profession.

This is unethical, and you really shouldn't be thinking about it.

[jimyee]

Well you seem like a prick so I'm going to say yes.

[Asker]

I am a prick, but what does that have to do with whether it's morally wrong, or not to sleep with an 18 year old former student?

[jimyee]

Because the way you want to do it and that if she's a virgin is a bonus makes it morally wrong. Not to mention you're grooming a minor for sex which is obviously morally wrong. Just because you wait until she's graduated doesn't change it.

[Asker]

I can't think of one place in the world where an 18 year old is a "minor." Even at 16/17 years old, they are usually considered Emancipated Minors, meaning they can make their own decisions similar to an adult (not saying I would do this-just explaining my point).

[jimyee]

17 year old are absolutely minors. They can become emancipated if they chose to forgo their minor rights but that is pretty rare. 99% of 17 year olds are not emancipated minors and therefore are minors.

[Asker]

Nope, this isn't true. Research age of consent laws around the United States, and you'll be surprised at how many states have their age of consent at 16/17 years old. In some other countries, the age of consent is absurdly low (like 14 years old). It also doesn't take much of a brain to know that a 17 year old is more developed than a 10 year old. I personally wouldn't screw anyone under 18 anyway. But I refuse to believe a 17 year old having sex with an adult is automatically rape like some people have you think.

[jimyee]

"A minor who is "emancipated" assumes most adult responsibilities before reaching the age of majority (usually 18). Emancipated minors are no longer considered to be under the care and control of parents -- instead, they take responsibility for their own care." "Usually, parents or legal guardians are responsible for children who haven't reached the age of majority. This age varies from state to state, but it's usually 18 or 19 (it's 21 in Puerto Rico). Until a child has reached the age of majority, parents are expected to provide them with shelter, food, and clothing. Parents can also decide where their children will live and go to school and can choose what medical care their children will receive. If a young person under the age of majority is emancipated, the parent or guardian no longer has any say over the minor's life. An emancipated minor can keep earnings from a job, decide where to live, make his or her own medical decisions, and more."

[jimyee]

"Eligibility can vary depending on state laws, but usually minors can obtain emancipation from parents or legal guardians by:
getting married
joining the military, or
obtaining a court's permission."
www.nolo.com/.../emancipation-of-minors-32237.html
Cleary you are incorrect.

[trumpetplayerforlife]

If she's or has been your student she's off limits til she goes to college because if word get a out or you piss her off and say you to dis it while she was a student you will lose your license

[Asker]

She's not going to college because she's not exactly what you would call "college material." She's going to work as an STNA as soon as she gets done with high school.

[trumpetplayerforlife]

Still it's not a really good idea it's not worth your career just for a good time

[Asker]

I'd love to show her how a real man takes care of his woman :)

[trumpetplayerforlife]

I really hope you lose your job because if your going to do that it shows your not fit to be a teacher

[Anpu23]

Yes she is legal, but it is not ethical as she is a former student. If the two of you hadn't had the a prior relationship where you had a position of power over her, then it wouldn't be an issue. But, as that is not the case...

[JubJub_Hi]

It is normal guy thing. It psychological also. Some 25 yr old girl look 18. Maybe you like the idea of sex with 18 more than anything 🤔

[Asker]

I don't see much of a physical age difference from 18 to 25(or even 29). This girl has an amazing body, and I would love to be the one to show her how it's done in the bedroom :)

[JubJub_Hi]

So I thinks it have nothing to do with her being 18. Unless you think 18 make girl have no or little experience. Maybe you like girl with little experience from 18-29 not so much 18?

[Asker]

I'm just horny, and this girl likes me. As soon as she graduates from high school, I'm getting her number.

[oldoldold]

U seem to think it would be wrong to do. But if legally you're consenting adults. Maybe don't do her at the graduation party which is so public

[Asker]

I don't think it's wrong, but I know the educational system will think it's wrong.

[oldoldold]

Well it's not like you teach anything of value... Have fun.

[Trump2016]

I know this was an April Fools Day joke, but I'm going to give the super unpopular answer here, and say it's not wrong at all. If it's wrong for a 27 year old to have sexual relations with an 18 year old, then I guess it's wrong for adults to have sexual relations with adults. The truth is these 18 year old "kids" know what sex is, have probably had sex before, and aren't these innocent little wallflowers like this GAG community seems to be. I was scrolling through the answers and I am shocked at how sheltered the people on this site are. Do they not know there are teen girls who pursue men your age? Of course, it's up to the teacher to show self control, but these girls are not "innocent" like people would have you think.

[Anonymous]

Once she’s 18 she’s all urs buddy

[Trump2016]

I mean, this might seem weird, but it's true.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s weird you’re counting down technical days til you can fuck your students, yes. Only a few mental gymnastics between that and sleeping with a student. Fantasizing about them isn’t good, man.

[Opinion Owner]

You sound like a terrible teacher.

[Opinion Owner]

I had a “friendship” with one of my basketball team’s boosters like this where he groomed me and pounced right when it became legal, tbh and I ended up hating this guy in time and now he’s a sad loser. You’re a mess, OP.

[Trump2016]

You weren't "groomed" if you were 17/18 years old. You clearly made a mistake, and you want to blame it on everyone else. Admit your fault.

[Opinion Owner]

Nah. It was straight effed up. I never slept with the guy, so I have no regrets but I can see now how inappropriate the whole thing was. He started buying us booze & taking us out riding around at 15-16. Doing weird things. A 30+ year old booster shouldn’t be doing that.

[Opinion Owner]

Anyway, when he made his move we made out for a short time & I realized how gross it all felt and stopped him. He started shaking & ridiculing me for weeks, calling me a tease & shit when I honestly did not realize that’s what he was going for. This was a grown married man bullying a teenager for not wanting to commit adultery with him. These are the types of jackasses that try to start something with high schoolers.

[Opinion Owner]

If this guy was some dirtbag, he wouldn’t have to be held to a higher standard but teachers shouldn’t be planning how to screw their students.

[Anonymous]

Of course is wrong and you know it, that's the reason why you are asking and you don't want your co-workers know it so Yeah is wrong. You're a unprofessional perv you should not be a teacher

[Asker]

I'm asking what other people think about it. I personally don't think it's wrong at all. The only reason I don't want my co-workers to find out about it because it could backfire, and cause me to get terminated.