He doesn't make a sound during sex?

Question

So me and my new boyfriend had sex 3 times. We both enjoy it and eachother. I moan during sex, because well i like sex and i express it like that. My boyfriend however doesn't moan/grunt or whatever. When we make out or during foreplay he he does let out the occasional moan. I asked him about it and he just says that he feels no need to moan during sex and that if i insit on vocal cues of enjoyment from his side that he has to force/fake it (i dont want that). He shows other sings of clear enjoyment but its just a bit of a thing for me since when im enjoying myself i dont hear a sound of contentment.

x3mtsjovt · Accepted Answer

Well you have done the very importabt thing and talked about it between you. In this case it seems to me that you even though you would like for it to be differently should accept that it is not.

To me you put it very clearly:

"We both enjoy it and eachother. I moan during sex, because well i like sex and i express it like that."

So you are both enjoying you do one thing because that is how you express it he does not because that is not how he does (he would have to fake ot and you do not want that) - however you are not in doubt he enjoys it.

So if there is love and satisfaction it is to keep going and who knows perhaps he will sound some day (and perhaps he won't)

GingerGuy · Accepted Answer

It's a guy thing (normal) I think. DO NOT take this personally. It DOES NOT mean he's not enjoying it. I understand how you feel, but for me (and most guys probably), we just aren't "moaners". And as ridiculous as it sounds, when I do it, it's just feels weird/strange even. Like "it's something women do" or something lol. It's hard to describe, but it's a feeling, not just a thought. It's not something I can fake either, if it happens at all, it's got to be real/genuine. But if you're not sure if he's enjoying it, just ask him. But again, do not assume he's not enjoying it because that's simply not the case at all!

mooky06 · Accepted Answer

To you that may be weird, but it’s just how he is. Just because your vocal doesn’t mean he should be vocal to

justabadassgirl · Accepted Answer

He either moans like that naturally or either he thinks it's not manly to moan cuz of porn

LuWe22 · Accepted Answer

I also don't make a Sound. I don't see it as a Problem

BigChris · Answer

hmmm, well that used to sort of be the case with me, its probably because he is trying to focus on the moment and thoroughly enjoy it, at least that was the case with me

Nuespeed · Answer

I am one of those guys myself. Many people show that they enjoy sex in other ways like heavy breathing etc... But I dont get the natural feeling to moan I have to well "Fake it"

Krokodyl · Answer

It depends on person. Sex is not like in porn, sometimes even the girl doesn't moan.

Dargil · Answer

Sounds like we are sleeping together. Do I know you? No, really. I'm soundless to except for breathing and the very occasional "mmmmh" when she's getting something particularly right. She's more vocal than I am. It is what it is.

memyselfandiamhere · Answer

I moan when i smell my favourit Scotch but Not during Sex. Just how it is i guess

Meninist · Answer

He’s a listener.  He’s more interested in doing his thing, making you cum and finding satisfaction in pleasing you.  It’s not about him, it’s about you.

Browneye57 · Answer

Boys generally have to keep quiet when they masturbate - so it becomes their standard M-O. Does he have his own house? Likely this will all change when you two have your own place.

RenegadeSailor · Answer

Ever seen a man hurt himself and then go quiet?  It is a survival instinct for us to be quiet.  It is just how many of us are wired.

Roy431 · Answer

Ur bad luck honey. Try to insist him make bad words during sex time

Snowman666 · Answer

i make no noise either. Unless it is forced/fake. My enjoyment isn't expressed like that. I really do enjoy it. Just put on music if you need noise.

Goninjago · Answer

Everyone's different some girls moan some don't, same with guys, it's not a porno where everyone is mosni g at the top of there lungs

Omets · Answer

He wants to keep it cool on the camera.

StickStickity13 · Answer

I'm the same way, my ex girlfriend wanted me to make noises but I had to fake it and it distracted me to the point of it being less fun. We still enjoy it, but we aren't as vocal

FreePrometheus · Answer

I'm the same way. My ex loved it when I would moan or say her name, but I had to force it. To me it just isn't how I show my enjoyment. I think it has something to do with having to be super quiet while masturbating when I was younger