If you plan to have sex with a virgin for her first time but you dont like to use a condom?

[Anonymous]

Would you take the chance and risk at the possibility of getting her pregnant just because " you dont like to use a condom and it does not feel the same"? Like I said im talking here about a virgin and due to her status she is not under any BC method or had been under one before, so lets say the easy way to protect her in her first time if it the guy at least wears a condom but the guy says "it does not feel the same I know how not to get a woman pregnant". I heard nowadays are condosm who are thinner in the skin.

Im talking about 2 mature adults (the lady is in her early 40´s (the guy too) and yes she is a total virgin but she does nto want to have kids), who are not in serious relationship or even they are a couple, but they are not strangers they had known each other for a while (3 yrs) lets say they are more like Friends and even the guy has Friends in common with the girl: her relatives., they had even gone out on dates twice with a make out session at the end of each date (but never had been real intimate before the 2 of then in those 2 dates) but only had seen each other from time to time not real often as like if they were super close Friends but the lady do liek the guy and she is attracted to him, and he knows that, so for him he believes it is time to have sex they known for a while now even if they are not a couple and dont hang out much either. The guy told her too "it does not feel the same but I know how to have sex withotu protection without getting a lady pregnant" That is the guy MO.

I mean I think sex should be performed responsable and maturely

Imagine this lady in plain sex act if the guy does not wear a condom worrying about getting pregnant, each time he strokes hehehe!! Where is the fun in that?

[Intraluminal]

I suppose if he were willing to be tested for STDs AND show you the results, it wouldn't be too bad to use the "pull out" method. Women over 40 have low fertility (not zero, but low) and the pull out method works fairly well even for kids (although it's still risky and I don't recommend it, especially for kids).

[jdrrichmond]

For God's sake men, don't be selfish. If she wants to use a condom, use one. If you both prefer not to use one, be sure to use alternate birth control and make sure both of you have been tested for STDs. A hard dick has no conscience. Try think with the big head before the little one takes over.

[Asker]

Read some of the replies above some gusy dont liek to use one at all beause theh stupid statement It does not feel the same" Yeah right so who is going to carry the baby in herh womb? The guy? No, is the woman. SO if the guy dont want kids better to use one. And also soem say the woman has to be protected too or use an alternate sure I do understand. But how can people ask for a virgin to use an alternate beause there is a reason she is still a virgin right? DuHHH! She has never been on any Bc method before becauase she is a virgin!!! And this being her first time she still is not under any bc method she has never fooled around or is sexually active cause SHE IS A VIRGIN!!

[jdrrichmond]

I agree

[PrincessProtection]

You can still get pregnant even if he wears a condom keep that in mind, but the odds are reduced.
If you aren’t comfortable then don’t do it. If he wants you he’ll comply. It may not feel the same but your vagina with a condom on feels better than his hand without one trust me

[Asker]

and he be prrotecting himself also from kis he does not wnnt but guys dont thinkl about it throghly

[jokercard]

Girl just get him to wear a condom. It'll protects you from stds too

[Asker]

Sure i agree but the guy insists he knows how not get a lady pregnant as he is cleaned

[listen4380]

The only way a guy can know not to get a girl pregnant is to not have sex. Pregnancy can occur with the pull out method as well as with condoms. There is no guaranty and any guy that says otherwise is a liar and asshole. Use the pill and use a condom for your best protection but at the end of day of your willing to have sex then you have to be willing to accept the possibility of getting pregnant.

[Asker]

@listen4380 The thing is that lady is in hher mid 40´s and even though the chances of contraception is low she can still get pregnant and the lady for the mere fact she is a virgin she never need to use any kind of BC method because she is a virgin, she never fool around before or sleep around so why she had to be on BC in her past if she never sleep around and never had any intiamcy with men. At her age using pills can develop blood clots for her age, DUI and other forms are expensive and to get them for free in governmentall clinics she has to get a lot of red tape procedures but not only that the public clinics if u want to get them for free do not give the contraception to ladies in certaing age group and 46 is too risky they only give it to younger ladies, they dont give contraception to very mature ones for free at public clinics and sheh can't afford to wear contraception in private ones. So in he mean time for her first time for her the condom is the most easy method u can buy

[Asker]

@listen4380 buy the condom anywhere and it is cheaper.

[listen4380]

Life is all about risk and reward... i was just making the point that sex has risks with pregnancy being one, if your willing to take the risk then be willing to accept the consequence. If the pill creates health risks then you have to decide whats the greater risk... pregnancy or blood clots. I'd agree the pill is the bigger risk. However whats the risk in using a condom at least... loss of some pleasure for lower risk of pregnancy? It's all about person choice... with all that said i personally take issue with guys that tell girls the pull out method works "because they know what they are doing" I've had three different friends at one point or another fall for that and it back fired big time. Be honest and know the risks for what you choose to do. No offense intended and good luck with it ok 😉

[Asker]

@listen4380 But if the risks could be minimize in some way why people dont think in that rgards. But dont worry I won't have sex now or ever too risky anyway in my age at all I will wait until menopause hit me in a couple of years to really enjoy having sex for the firtst time without worrying about pregnancies but probably at that time I wotn find single available guys who want to have sex with menopausal old ladies heeh

[listen4380]

Oh don't worry about that guys are always horny... Just visit a retirement home they have more sexual adventures then high school hahaha Seriously though my intent wasn't to scare you off the idea. Sex is a great thing and should be experienced by all adults. Just have to be aware of the realities and risks. Hell it's a risk just to get into a car but i bet that doesn't stop you.

[Asker]

@listen4380 I know about the risks and that is why i won't have sex ever or experiecen it I have been celibate my whole life Im arealdy used to it anyway. if the guy I tend to have it with is not responsable enough to wear a darn condom just because It does nto feel the same"""

[johnRD11]

Just get some ordinary trojans dude. Since it is your first time you should start with the basic kind just to get a feel and then you can branch out if you are inclined. And I hope you are using a penis health creme for improved hygiene, skin texture etc... these are made just for overall penis health and work really well. Man1 Man Oil is the best one.. check it out. Good luck.

[RebeccaSJ]

My first didn't use a condom.

[hornymike6969]

use a condom you dumb ass.

[Asker]

Some guys say they won't have sex with virgins and also that the lady has to be using the protection not them,

[someswedishguy]

As long as one is not trying to conceive a baby some kind of contraception should be used

[lennyjewell]

The guy doesn't sound very mature if he isn't willing to use a condom...

You should definitely use it, not just to prevent pregnancy, but also STIs.

[Asker]

well I know but people say that in this case the lady has to be the one using bc not him, cause she is the one who gets knocked up not him That is a stupid way of thinking. What if the lady can't use other forms of BC

[lennyjewell]

Looking through the comments, pretty much everybody is saying he should use a condom, but you still don't seem to believe it or something. I don't know which people are saying the lady has to be the one using it. The guy can either use a condom or not have sex. End of story.

[Asker]

I mean most guys says that it is better if the owman uses also protection and not the guy carrying the total responsaibility. But how can you expect a virgin being under a BC method when she is a VIRGIN!!! and never had fool around or sleep around in her past in order to use BC method regularly.

[lennyjewell]

I really don't think anyone expects that... That being said, she could be on it to have easier periods, or if it seemed like she might be having sex at some point soon, she started it just to be safe. But again, I don't think anybody expects that. If they do, would you really want to be with them anyway?

[Asker]

Well the lady in question does not use BC of any kind at all not to regulate her peridos not for under any reason and I beleive if a guy expects to have sex with a virgin and he does nto midn her being one probably he will expect that when he does have sex, she still be a virgin cause is like her lying to him telling she was but then she was fooling around before the guy it is like in some way being disloyal to the guy at least like 25%

[masterkamasutra]

i just hate condom.

[Asker]

i gues su only think of the physical part and not the healthh part

[masterkamasutra]

its personal perspective.

[Asker]

I will do it for my own health

[Anonymous]

I won' t touch a virgin

[Asker]

why not?

[Opinion Owner]

Too young for me.

[Asker]

How can you know that most virgins has to be Young? haven't you read some articles? I have and tehreare increasing women in their late 20, early 30 and mid 30 who are still virgins because for them relationships are not a priorities first and they delay meeting guys.

[Anonymous]

Condom or GTFO

[Anonymous]

use an IUD

[Asker]

The lady can't she is almost hitting 50 but not menoupausal yet

[Opinion Owner]

She can have her tubes tied. It really comes down to who wants sex more; the guy or gal. When guys get older I can see a lot of them not having to deal with condoms. Then it really comes down to who wants sex more.

[Opinion Owner]

There also have to be other contraceptives. Also if he won't budge maybe she needs another guy.

[Asker]

but guys are selfish they only think of their own satisfaction in some way. So why there is the existence of condoms if guys dont like to wear them? What if the lady can't be on BC methods. Cheaper and mroe accesisble is the condom

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, but women don't have to deal with a poor sexual experience due to the use of a condom. If a guy has to use a condom EVERY time with the same girl, it may not work out eventually. If it's just a one time thing then yeah the guy should be wearing one.