I don't hide them. By now, it feels very comfortable to talk about it, even in non-sexual situations. However, there was a time when I seriously regretted having admitted my kinks to my wife because doing so let to a lot of unnecessary drama. When I first told her about it, she was super pissed at me for about a year.
Meanwhile (5 years later), she has actually made the effort to listen to me and talk about it in a calm, adult way. She's come to understand me and she also realized that many of her prejudices or fears were completely unfounded. Nowadays, she is 100% cool with it and even kinda likes it. I can honestly say we've come a long way and there were many difficult moments. However, in the long I feel like it has made our relationship better and stronger. Thanks to my honesty, my wife has also become more honest and in a way, our love has actually deepened this way.
One of the great things about my sex life with my girlfriend is that we are not only open to trying different things, but we communicate openly.
You see on this site all these questions from people about how to make their sex life better. It's an easy answer.
You are sharing your naked body with someone in what is at once both the most intimate and most primitive forms of sharing. It puts you in your most honest light and makes you vulnerable. In that context, if you cannot communicate openly about what you want and need sexually, you probably should not be having sex - at least with each other.
Since we are both weirdos , we actually have almost the same fantasies. We are both into soft bdsm , some spanking , choking etc. And we change roles often so its fine.
I love him so i dont mind showing him what I like even if its weird. But I won't expect him to do something he is not comfortable with.
aren't you 17😂
And aren't you 15 ? ^^
Sorry. Im not your mom ^^
My boyfriend and I always communicate with what we want to try in bed and try to please each other the as much as we can lol
Do you think you could potentially feel hurt or upset if you didn't like a fetish or fantasy of his?
@mitchd171 it wouldn't destroy our relationship, if he doesn't like something I want it's ok. I love him and I won't let a little fantasy or fetish get in the way. We can always try other things and our sex life right now is great, we'll try anything at least once most of the time
Good for you, the right attitude and open communication are everything. How would you react if he wanted to be cucked?
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My wife is pretty sexually tame, especially before me. I keep some of my more extreme fetishes to myself but I let her in on enough that she knows I am way more of a sexual deviant than her lol.
He knows some of them, not others... small steps!
You yourself told him?
@eimii Yes. We've had conversations about some of them, incorporated many of them into our sex life.
What are some you haven't told yet.
I mean I'm an open book really I don't have any fetishes per say but I will try almost anything once
"pr say"? Sure about that? Nothing, not even something small like an accent or something?
Why would anyone be with someone that they can't share everything with?
I only have one, and I'm not planning on acting on it. No I'm not comfortable telling my girlfriend about it either.
Hum, may I ask what that is? You could also use to start that conversation... *She* more likely then not has some kink or other too.
@Losalt I'm not gonna say it cause it's not good, it's impulse, but I'll tell you it involves violence. Thanks but no, this isn't something I want to act on. It's more like a thorn in the side that I have to resist sometimes. I don't want to have it but it comes up, whereas hers are just normal kinks. This isn't.
Well, I'm a sadist myself so... I know the feeling... I have some fantasies I definitivly want to act on, and others belongs firmly in the world of fantasies and where written stories is my main outlet.
There's a lot of stuff i like and want to do that my wife never even dreamt of doing. she's always so surprised and in chock when i say them but honestly when i tell her it always gets us both laughing. As long as she finds it funny i will keep asking for them cause sometimes she does it with me.
Don't hide those things cause if i can't tell her one day i might look for someone else to do it with. We all have our interests and we have to be honest with who we love cause that's what a relationship is about. Plus you never know they might be so glad you asked hahahaha
I don't hide them, i share them with my partner and encourage her to explore her self more and find some fetish/fantasy and share it with me and make it more hot and steamy
I used to, but I've been surprised by how accepting everyone who knows about it has been. Especially since I think it's really weird.
Well, pretty much *everyone* got one... And I can *promise* you that whatever your kink is there's *always* a weirder kink out there somewhere... Just look up if you don't believe me...
I know there's weirder stuff out there but that didn't stop me from being ashamed of mine until people told me it was no big deal. Thanks for the link, it's oddly enlightening!
It is like offering to listen to grindcore for a person whose tastes you dont know.
The ultimate advice is - start with something softer and step up
That for both music and intimate life
Nooo
I share them even with people that aren't my partners, because Ilike such topics, so yes, my partner knows all of them
Tell me 😂😂 if you want to
@deeders It's nothing interesting xD
Are you sure?
i show an share my fantasies
I hide my fetishes because my wife isn't very open minded about fetishes. She is very vanilla. She says she doesn't even fantasize about anyone else, (yes I'm skeptical but after being married 5 years I believe it). Myself, I've always been very open minded and willing to explore. I have tried a few fetishes I know I enjoy but she would never be open to them. The extent of her fetish is light spanking, she doesn't handle being blindfolded well and despises porn. Do I feel like I'm missing out? Yes. I love her and I'm willing to sacrifice a little for the woman and great mother to our kids that she is.
I don't think its healthy to hide something like that in a relationship. You will always want to have fun your way and never be able to share it.
No, I do not hide any kinks I have nor should anyone. I’ve even been turned down because of my fetish
When I have a partner I share everything with them. If it scares them away, that just means they're not meant to be my partner lol.
On another note, that pic 👌
I’ve only ever shared my kinks with one person... she’s the only one I trusted enough to confide in. Trust like this is very important to me and it would be a must in a relationship.
I do but only cause she can fulfill them and it would make things worse
I don't have any fetishes-- fantasies though? Yeah, I do. I don't think she'd be able to handle them.
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