I'm 36 and he's 24... Far more mature for his age than even guys my age, sex is great, he treats me like a queen.. but is this wrong?

[SophieK23]

I met him, I'll call him "Dan", at a dinner/stage place in my city. He was attending a party his work had thrown. I was sitting near the stage with my two girlfriends when they pointed out that these young guys were googly-eying us. We all just rolled our eyes at them... I was very flattered (especially by the blue-eyed Luke Bryan look-alike), but they were far too young, I thought...

To fit everything in, I'll just say that Dan (blue-eyed cutie) approached me and asked to buy me a drink. He smiled at me and I melted. I asked him how old he was and I think he was embarrassed when I laughed at his answer of "24". Next thing I know him and I are standing in a quieter corner of the place just chatting and laughing. His work party was over and he explained he had to go in to work the next day, so he once again flashed his perfect smile at me and asked for my number. We exchanged numbers and I went back to sit with my girlfriends. He texted me the next day wondering when he can see me again. We arranged a date for the week-end.

We've been dating for about two months now. I was on-and-off seeing a guy I have known since high school but I could take or leave it. It was more physical. I have been married but divorced. I have two daughters. Dan knows all this but still persists. I have so much baggage though... Dan has no children but says he would like to have children of his own one day. I have my tubes tied but the op can be reversed (I'm getting far too ahead of myself here).

The sex is awesome. He's definitely a giver in the sheets. Slow, intimate morning sex; hard, fast, aggressive sex... I'm getting turned on just thinking about it. His voice is very deep, he's taller than me, strong, loves snuggling up close...

I love dating Dan but I'm worried. Is he going to meet a girl more his age? He could have any girl he wanted. He's so handsome, has a good job, so interesting, genuine... He's a great partner. Am I making too much of age? Is it really that big of a deal?

[Raveagite]

Age is number but everything you mentioned is much much more.

It's wise that you are considering all of the factors involved because whether you like it or not they will matter and everyone else will when they see you, you can't stop that so you have to think about it more thoroughly than anyone and be alright with it.

Your age range and circumstances are significant but hardly unheard of. The deciding factor is are you relatively equal in the relationship? Is one of you using the other is it going to be a bad thing for one of you in the long run?

No one here is going to have enough information to decide that, personally I think the most promising things about your relationship is that you've been honest about your circumstances, he chased you knowingly and you are concerned about whether it is fair.

Long term, the things you mentioned and a few more (will) be strains on the relationship it's up to you both to build one that outweighs and overcomes those difficulties. Perhaps it will be a better relationship than it would be otherwise (because) you faced difficulties and overcame them together, who knows ;3

Anyhow, from the way you are going on all honeymoon mode it sounds like a pretty fresh relationship huh?

Why not ask a more reasonable question then if you should get your tubes undone silly -__-

And instead ask if the next 6 months with him, the next year, seems like a worthwhile fun idea and not ask him the same?

If you both answer yes after giving it real thought then you have your answer :D

[SophieK23]

Ohh yes.. honeymoon phase.. It's so refreshing lol! I do want a partner to settle down with, but for now I'm quite content with the spark I have with Dan. I'm definitely going to ask him what he thinks about us in 6 months... He has a way with words so I can't even imagine what he'll say...

[Raveagite]

Oh you're in for it woman, he finally won you over and now you doubting him and feeling bad for silly reasons is how he'll see it. Prepare to get showered in affection and reassurance. Just don't forget to actually think about it after you're done, make a post-it or something rofl... Ahh... I'm a hypocrite who's chased older woman /cough hard/ I guess I'd know meh -__-

[SophieK23]

haha I got a genuine giggle from that. I hope that's how he reacts :D Maybe I'll update with another post whenever I nut up and ask. He's probably going to say something along the lines of "lets just enjoy right now" but I dunno if that's enough of an answer for me. As long as he's honest. Keep chasing 'em! Not a thing wrong with that :)

[Raveagite]

I go after whoever I like, hard :3 What's race, age and so on but another interesting aspect of a person when you find someone great, we only get so many shots at this after all... buuuut that's all the more reason to take each shot seriously and do it right once you know you like them. I strongly recommend making him think about it and give a real answer. You deserve that and aren't going to be at peace until you get it. As you are said you are looking for a long-term commitment and you have the girl's to consider he needs to be able to think about the future as well for both your sakes. Still, you made him sound quite put together for his age and he's open-minded he should handle it fine given the chance and you don't have to ask him for a ring level commitment or anything just thinking 6 months ahead. Personally, I find that you have the most fun when you have a plan and some goals anyways :3

[reborntj]

My wife is nine years older than I am. When we first met she was 27 and I was 18. She was in the process of a divorce and I figured was just using me to get over him. I thought it would be fun to hook up with a more experienced girl. Well after four years we couldn't imagine life without one another and I proposed. We are now married and have been together for 7 years. Age is just a number, I'm actually the more mature one of the 2 of us. If you need any further advice feel free to ask away. P. S. older girls are way better!

[SophieK23]

Made me smile. Thanks for sharing that :)

[ShoeGirl24]

I’m so glad you asked this question!! I’m 36, the guy I am really attracted too right now is 24. We get on well. The sex is amazing. I really like him but he doesn’t know what he wants regarding relationships right now so we’re just really good friends. I don’t think it’s wrong to like someone younger. You only live once. If you like each other & get on well & you can overlook the age difference (it will be marriage & babies that becomes the issue mostly, not his age!!) then go for it honey x

[SophieK23]

Hey darling thanks for saying so! It's refreshing to hear I'm not the only one LOL! Are you me? You just explained it exactly. My guy and I call each-other girlfriend and boyfriend but it's quite subtle. My mum doesn't know about him yet and I've never met his parents. One day at a time, right? Whatever will be will be... And the sex... ughhhhh lol makes me feel younger... Thanks for ur reply. You go girl xoxo

[ShoeGirl24]

One day at a time indeed. Just enjoy it for what it is & if it becomes more then great, if not then at least you had that! I am in similar situation to you, I have 2 boys, he has no children but I think he doesn’t really want them. I’m just seeing how it goes & enjoying the sex 😂 xx

[Lea96]

It's not wrong age doesn't matter but sometimes guys want to be with an older woman just to try it out like they don't see a future with her so make sure that's not the case before you fall for him

[SophieK23]

To be totally honest, I think if anyone is using the other, it'd be me using him. It's pretty early on and when we talk about our relationship we seem to agree to take it a day at a time. He says he likes me and wants to be with me and says that he "doesn't think like that" when I talk about our age difference. I feel comfortable about being with him. He took me out to dinner one night and a younger waitress asked if we were sister and brother. I kind of laughed nervously and he smiled and directly told her I was his girlfriend. She looked surprised. It's getting hard not to fall for Dan. If he doesn't text me back or answer my call all day/night, I feel lonely. I'm going to see what he thinks about our relationship 6 months from now and see what he says.

[Futurelooker]

Nothing is wrong. Keep the age difference in mind if you go into marriage. But so far anything is okay.

[10dsw]

I'll be honest with you... he could be a great guy. But he could also be one of those guys that refuse to date women his own age until he matures a bit (because many women his age are kinda... meh... spoiled, etc) upon which he will dump you for someone younger.

The honest to God truth is that older women are actually somewhat pleasant to be around - compared to many younger women - and this translates to younglings looking at older women

[slatyb]

No big deal. He's probably thrilled to be with a beautiful young woman. An older guy is probably going to be better able to handle your children than a guy your age.

[_dardorsama_]

Wow it seems almost too good to be true... like a dream you could wake from at any moment

However it's still wrong... I mean no matter he seems mature he's still way younger than you

People in their 20s have different view of life than us in our 30s

[OfDeath]

He would likely cheat on you.

[jersos1]

This is so cute! I think you are thinking too much about the age! Just forget the age, you are way younger now! Go girl!

PS Feels like I am reading a romance novel and I am getting faster heartbeats haha oops

[SmokeStroke]

Not big of a deal enjoy it.

[ThreeSheetsToTheWind]

It's fine. You're both adults.

[Samuel935]

As far as true love is found in your relationship, age is nothing but just numbers

[seized]

It's okay

[Anonymous]

It is not wrong. Age is just a number.