Why dont I bleed at all during first time sex? is it even first time?

[Anonymous]

So I've been seeing him lately and we’ve been together in bed for quite often. Im a virgin and i can't even put a finger in me. So he kinda like tried to stretch it out. So he did it day by day to stretch it out, until a finger fits in. Then he start attempting to insert his thingy, bc its bigger in size so it hurt me a lot. He told me to relax so it would hurt less. I can't call it as first time sex because it was just an attempt and like only cm per cm went in each day. After dayss, he finally can put his whole thingy in and for me, it doesn't hurt anymore. There was no blood at all throughout our ‘journey’ and it started to feel good. That night we had a legit sex with a condom. Since it was my first time to felt that way, i kinda become crazy the next day like i can't believe it happened.. Is it normal? Any additional informations?

[TisforTori]

Ah yes the virgins blood myth. Not real. Most hymens do not cover the entire area. And so if the couple takes their time is slow and makes sure the woman is aroused and wet/ lubricated there’s no blood and little to no pain.

[Nahliability]

Only about 50% of women have their hymen actually tear when having sex for the first time. So bleeding isn't exactly a sign of virginity.

[MlleCake]

Read this:

The Hymen and Your First Time: You Do Not Have to Feel Pain or Bleed! ↗

[TadCurious]

^^^ That was a really excellent myTake. Just sayin'.

[MlleCake]

@TadCurious Thanks. ;)

[jacquesvol]

@TadCurious @MlleCake Indeed

[Cwazzycwafter]

You usually shouldn’t bleed during sex. It hurts the first because, y’know, it’s kinda really spreading you open, but after that things should just kinda go smoothly. In other words, yeah that’s fairly normal.

[MlleCake]

It shouldn't hurt for a penis to enter a vagina.

[Cwazzycwafter]

.. it doesn’t. I wasn’t alluding to that either.

[MlleCake]

"It hurts the first because, y’know, it’s kinda really spreading you open" No. It doesn't. It hurts first because: not enough lubrication, woman is not aroused, woman is not relaxed

[Cwazzycwafter]

I thought you were talking about the dick hurting. I’m answering based on answers I’ve seen from women on similar questions. No one really explains so I’m left to make assumptions.

[MlleCake]

I know hon. And that's why people like me are around to explain the physiology of first time sex. So you understand, when a woman is feeling pain from any kind of penetration she should say stop because something wrong is happening. It is a common misconception that says pain is to be expected. No, it's only to be expected when sex is selfishly geared to the man's pleasure, ignoring the woman's pain. If it takes a woman 3 months of warm-up, so be it. Don't force a penis in. And, what hurts her can also hurt your penis. Some young men have even torn their foreskins trying to forcefully penetrate.

[Cwazzycwafter]

Oh no, I get the part about not being forceful or stopping if she says to, and waiting before getting it on. I’m not a totally ignorant person, just a slightly ignorant one.

[jacquesvol]

Your hymen was already sretched in some innocent way.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9qFojO8WkpA

[Asker]

Ah okayy thanks

[Cmasterson]

Not everyone bleeds, its okay!

[Repa33]

You probably popped your cherry earlier wheb fingering

[Asker]

I never fingered bc i can't even put a finger in, and was scary to do it alone so he has to do it

[Repa33]

Yeah thats probs when it broke

[UltimateGohan]

The skin expands in response to stretching and

[Asker]

Okayyy

[boggboss]

Your hymen probably broke whist he was stretching u out or long ago happens to some girls that horse ride or other stuff

[Asker]

So like if it was stretched slowly it probably won't bleed?

[boggboss]

Not sure but it's nothing to worry about just have fun

[Asker]

Haha thankss

[Meninist]

“His thingy” 😂

[Asker]

Felt bad for writing the actual word😂

[NucDylan]

You can tear it in other ways, like horse riding or gymnastics. Also, he may have slightly worn and stretched it as he did all this stretching

[jacquesvol]

@NucDylan indeed

[genericname85]

You didn't rush it. It's a good sign. If there's blood, you're doing things too fast. That expectation of bleeding the first time is based on doing it wrong due to the lack of experience.

[Asker]

Ahh i see... thanks anyways

[SavageGirl101]

Congratulations!!!❤ Such an amazing short story of first time love💓

[Kandy-Kane]

WTF did I just read...

[Asker]

didn't wanna make it too detailed

[MadeInAmerica]

LMAO You and me both.

[Kandy-Kane]

@MadeInAmerica LoL 😂

[masterkamasutra]

change your mind every pussy not bleed.

[Casus_Angelus]

Inspiring short story

[Stella09]

Such a gentle man..

[Anonymous]

After reading this, i just had to touch myself.

[Asker]

Haha.