Girls, what do you find appealing about being submissive during sex?

[nightdrot]

This is a revision of a previous question I posed.

While I realize that some women do not find it appealing at all, and most tend to prefer a more romantic and "equal" sex, there is still a large number of women who sometimes - or even all of the time - enjoy being submissive to a man when it comes to sex. (Even those women who, outside the bedroom are very independent and know their own minds.)

What is it that appeals and - most important - why?

[Anonymous]

I'm all over the board. Sometimes I'm dominant, sometimes he and I are going to fight it out (those are fun times) and other times I'm pretty submissive. The reason I enjoy being submissive is because there's a part of me that enjoys being degraded and feeling used by him. It turns me on when he tells me to spread my legs for him because that's what he wants and he's going to have what he wants. (Of course if I told him to fuck off that would be the end of it. Lol.)
My pleasure revolves around his and being readily available to satisfy his needs turns me on like you wouldn't believe
I don't really know how else to explain it.

[nightdrot]

Thanks for responding - and that's okay. I figured that this would be hard to express. I just wanted to see in the cross section of views what the consensus was.

[Cupcake7944]

After a long day of working and paying bills and running errands it feels freeing and relaxing to surrender all control over to someone else. You no longer have to think you just have to obey. It's relaxing, it's a turn on. And to be on your knees batting your big eyes up at your lover you feel protected and safe and all you want to do in that moment is open your mouth and please. It's a deep connection.

[nightdrot]

Thanks. A really interesting answer. You suggest a sense of release that I think guys can relate to as well, albeit in a different way. Really helpful.

[Cupcake7944]

Yes there is a huge sense of release and a closeness you feel to your partner to be able to just willing give up your mind body and soul.

[nightdrot]

Yup, been there done that myself. It is weird in that I am being very aggressive and dominant but I feel close to her. It's a paradox and - honestly - it feels amazing. By the way, that point you made about feeling protected and safe are the EXACT words my girlfriend has used to describe how she feels. For my part, I feel that I am protecting her - warding off the predators and rival males and all the rest. Very instinctive at a very basic and primitive level. I totally get you.

[Cupcake7944]

Yes dominance is a huge sign of trust with your partner. I like the aggressiveness and roughness. If he wants to pin me down and whip my ass we both feel relieved. He's get to take his stress out and I don't have to be stressed because I know I am making him happy. There's also not as many arguments because he will just give me that look and I just surrender and it feels good and like I said safe. And knowing someone can put their hands on you that way where you are owned and it's consensual mmmm no better feeling

[SuckMyPeach]

It lets a man be as rough as he wants. Of course I would never put myself in a situation where the guy would be unreasonable. But submitting yourself to a guy that can be trusted is freeing. You get to see what he wants most as well.

[nightdrot]

Thanks for your reply. Could point about getting insight into what he wants.

[MlleCake]

Nothing. I'm not. It is a mistake to think most women are. Most women would prefer relationships where they are treated as equals and their pleasure is given equal consideration.

In my experience, very few average men really understand enough about a woman's body to have her submit entirely and still be able to get her off.

I know many male doms who just toss a vibrator at it.

[nightdrot]

Well, I didn't say that most do. In fact, the data show that overall men and women both prefer a more romantic sex. Yet it also shows that more women prefer being submissive than men. My point was to see what turned on the ladies who do enjoy submissive sex - what about it do they enjoy? It was not to argue that all do.

[nightdrot]

P. S. See also the other ladies who have answered.

[MlleCake]

Nor am I saying you were. I am just adding to the discourse.

[nightdrot]

Okay, but you wrote, "It is a mistake to think most women are." That is an assumption that I did not put in my question. Without meaning to offend, you answered a question I did not ask.

[MlleCake]

I wasn't answering a question with that particular phrase. I was making a statement.

[nightdrot]

Sorry, you totally lost me. What is the relevance of the statement to the question? It's as if I responded to the question by saying "Peanut butter."

[Kureghooghoo]

To get more love, maybe? Probably the more submissive a woman is, the more passion here man gives her.

[Genki]

Maybe woman will be submissive if they are confident that they can regain their equality after the sex.

[Anonymous]

Just the control he has over me sexually. Its Like I have no choice and my mind and body naturally submits and yields to his control. It's not all men but just very strong masculine men.

[Anonymous]

It is very hard to explain. Firstly it is just downright hot. I love when my partner ties me up to the bed and has his way with me. It makes me feel desired. Also the sense of mystery is exciting. I dont know what he will do next. That causes anticipitation which is a good feeling. I am kept on my toes. I love the idea of my partner doing whatever he wants to me and my body. The idea of giving my all to him and having him able to fulfill all his wishes.

[nightdrot]

Thanks for responding.