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Why do some girls have very low sex drive or even no sex drive?

I have heard from men in real life and on the internet as well that their partner (wives) hardly ever have sex. Its like having sex once in 2-3 months. Why is that?
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  • Some women's sex drive increases (thank you Lord!), but I have heard some women do lose their sex drive. I think it has to do with hormones - women have told me they are less "lubricated" and it hurts.
    However, I also know women that don't have any physical issues and just don't want to have sex. The women like this that I have personally talked to (not a generalization - just people that have shared this with me) are women that don't work out at all. I'm talking couch potatoes. You can increase your libido by working out and making nutritional changes. You don't have to spend your life at the gym, just go for a walk, try yoga, do cardio or whatever works for you. Do what you can to keep that sex drive. It's healthy and so much fun!

  • These ladies have answered very well providing so many real life possible reasons. But one of my bigger fears in life is losing my partner while he’s still living. We have had several conversations about keeping our sex life as active as possible. For us we know it starts with continuing to interest each other and of course be affectionate far from the idea of sex. Life gets so busy so it’s easy to be tired and just skip it. But we don’t want to risk it becoming habit. So both of us agreed to a max of two times in a row of skipping our intimate time. But that third one comes around and we have to do our best to muster up our energy and allow the other to turn us on. I sincerely hope we can maintain our relationship as time goes on.

  • Could be from hormonal imbalance, thyroid issues, mental health issues,
    Lack of attraction, a lack of intimacy, sekf esteem issues

    When your in a marriage or long term relationship things can get stale. You feel like you know everything about this person, you get stuck in a routine and the spark fades. You get busy with other things; work, children, working out, hobbies, friends. By the time you get home your too tired for anything. You slowly lose that connection (intimacy outside of sex) and if you dont work on it then it can not only destroy the sex life but also the relationship

  • Because men and women are vastly different when it comes to sexual desire. Women want to feel loved outside the bedroom and they need to be romanced. This creates sexual attraction. Men are more straight forward.

    Of course also I wouldn't just go by what the internet says. There is still many women with high sex drives or normal ones. The problem is just that men understand female sexuality wrong often.

    • I agree that there is vast majority of women with high or average sex drive, but there is still a good percentage of women who have very low sex drive. If i compare it with men, there is a very low percentage of men with low sex drive.

    • Right and I explained why to you.

    • I mean, you could do a poll. "How many women have a high vs. low sex drive?" get results. I know that males can't fuck 4 times a day, every day for more than 2 months straight.

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  • Because the reality is we lose interest with the same old thing over and over. A new mate is exciting and they are everywhere. Repetitive sex with the same person is a drag. Our sex drive evolved in the lizard brain well before we evolved to require longer term relationships to rear young with larger brains. How long is a kid dependent to survive? We really are screwed up as a species.

  • It's usually linked to mental health, but sometimes they just have a low sex drive, just like others have a high sex drive. People are different.

    I have a very high sex drive (male), but on my my ex's had quite a low sex drive, it was very difficult.

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  • At the end of the day, it all boils down to hormones. There are multiple causes of fluctuating hormone levels including some birth control pills, stress, eating the wrong foods etc. It could happen to anyone.

  • Everyone goes through sexual peeks throughout their lives, at different ages. Hormones play a roll, this is true however... women are mental lovers... meaning women tend to need that extra four play and mental sexual stimulation to get in the mood... married couples tend to stop doing those things that caught the others attention, the idea why bother I have them now tends to take over, which leads to failed sexual desire. People also tend to loose their sex drive after being together so long and there is a need to spice things up, get to know one another again sexually and personally. Women can also loose sex drive after having babies, also hormones but mental as well the fear of pregnancy destroys that drive for some.

  • I would say women need an emotional connection to maintain a sexual drive. So if a guy is lazy a woman won't want to have sex.

    I will also say i find many men marry women they think are virginal and hold on a pedestal. The sex does NOT get better after marriage. So many men just screw themselves by picking a mate they are not sexually compatible with. And then they blame the woman who was always and will always remain a "prude". Its not fair to expect this woman to become a porn star...

    • THis

  • guys have more testosterone in early ages while girls develop lower hormones and seem to be more "mature" at these ages. When in 50 or so you tend not to care anymore. Something like that...

  • I know mine surges with hormones, but overall my drive is high with my husband. However it was basically non-existent in my previous marriage. My ex was abusive and told me he didn’t need to be nice to me anymore because we were already married, yet he expected sex on demand and would sexually assault me.

    My husband lavishes me with affection. I have have sex out of appreciation or because I’m turned on.

  • Cause im tryna wait til marriage

  • Probably has something to do with the potential in becoming pregnant.

    A man only needs to release his seed so men are more the sexual protagonists.

    Women can die in pregnancy or birth so its more risky to continuously be pregnant.

    Since there is always a chance of pregnancy in sex, a lower sex drive would prompt her to get pregnant at her most fertile (when libido shoots up,) and spaced out sex time.

    Thats my best guess lol.

    Each girl is different though.

  • It's not just women, my BOYfriend has next to no sex drive where as I would enjoy sex daily if thst were an option, because it's not I've settled for 1-3 times a week. How about not gender rolling stuff bc particular people are certain ways not gender.

  • a lot of times, its because women are burned out by working, then cooking, then cleaning, tending to the children. Guys gotta help out around the house more so that she can reserve some of that energy for them later.

  • That’s blasphemy. Not sure what kind of women you’ve been dealing with. A lot of times for me, it’s been very much the opposite.

    However (on a more serious note) you can’t generalize all women. Some guys like that. It just depends on the person. But there could be a number of factors involved.

    • I am not generalising. My question clearly said "some".

  • In a few cases they just need the right experience. Meaning it may take a solid effort, not me first and think of only me from the guy.

    Must women after a baby or few take a long time to get it back

    I can relate though cause my drive is high gosh gee lol

  • In general women have lower sex drive than men, that's just how it is by nature.

  • Every person is different - just like not every single male out there has a high sex drive - some guys don't want it often either. Has nothing to do whether you are a male or females - it's just some people have lower sex drives than others.

  • It depends on the individual woman. What's going on in their lives if they have children, Mom's are exhausted at the end of the day, often work all day come home take care of kids, hubby, house, then it's bedtime. If stay at home Mom, taking care of children, home, and family non-stop all day. Hormones raise or lower sex drive, they say diet effects sex drive, emotional state, medications. I've always had a high sex drive so I don't know.

  • Because everyone is different

  • I think a lot of people are uncomfortable with themselves, if I didn't know how to enjoy sex I would not want to have it either, no matter how horny, what's the use if I have no idea what I'm doing?

    • Do you like sex with a man it woman?

  • Some girls are slow burners but every girl I have ever known has a strong sex drive. Some take more arousal than others and some, well, just aren't interested in the male who wants to date them.

  • Not me; not that I can recall.

  • It's typically hormonal or emotional.

  • For the same reason some guys have lower sex drives than most women...

    People vary. Don’t put them into tiny boxes. That’s a dangerous thing people tend to do

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