New boyfriend has performance anxiety and I'm nervous about giving a hand job to uncut penis. Any advice?

Question

I've recently began seeing this absolutely wonderful man but I'm not used to being with someone uncut (he's european and I'm american). He also said he has particularly long foreskin which I think is true.

Since we've just started seeing each other, he has a bit of performance anxiety so he gets nervous about pleasing me (even though his very presence in my life is the most pleasure of all). After some research, I learned that perhaps we should focus on oral and manual sex before we have PiV sex, which makes sense. So he doesn't feel like he has to perform because he doesn't with me; bonding with him is enough until we get into a groove.

Now, since we should be doing more oral and manual, I'm nervous about handjobs. He doesn't like blowjobs (previous girlfriend was bad at them so I won't do them unless he feels comfortable) so I'm stuck with handjobs which I'm horrible at :'(

we discussed practicing and we will but I feel so awful that he's gotten me off with fingering (anndmy help) and I can barely get him off with a handjob. I'll start or he'll help and after like 20 seconds he just is like"it's okay, lets just make out". I get what he means cause I've also sometimes not wanted to be touched there cause its distracting but he's so giving and I want to give back.

I know the best advice is talking about it and we have. He just seems so okay with trying to please me which isn't okay with me because I want to please him.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Handjobs on uncut penises are easier because you don't need lube or anything like that - the foreskin naturally slides along the head of the penis as long as you don't pull it back - it's there to protect the head from rubbing against anything. In fact it makes the head more sensitive, the foreskin contains 20,000 nerve ending itself, so if anything it will probably be easier to pleasure him than a circumcised guy. If you're nervous yourself maybe lay side by side next to him, give him your hand, have him put it around his cock with his had over yours, and let him basically mastubate with your had under his. Once you can feel how he does it tell him to let go and do it yourself. It's really not that hard at all.

cornhollio · Accepted Answer

Uncut men are more likely sensitive on the penis head, and downward thrusts from the head to the shaft at times can be painful with to much grip on the penis,, try using softer grip & lotion or lubes,,, only really grip it fast & hard when he is about to cum!. Also, if he has performance issues "which I have at times" do discuss it with him but only till he explains the problem... more discussion of it causes more anxiety... Just wait till he's asleep and start sucking his dick repeatedly he will start enjoying it

DomiBunn · Accepted Answer

It's just a dick. It works thesame tho the uncut ones are actually better

jackmcmillin83 · Answer

First of all, take a deep breath!! Literally everythig will be okay. Sex, when you communicate well, can be so amazing. But as you move forward, keep in mind that it is an organ and needs vitamins and proteins to function properly. This is where a good penis health creme comes in.. these are loaded with nutrients and deliver them all directly to the penis for maximum benefit. I use one called Man1 Man Oil... it is awesome. Check it out or buy it for your man.

summiter · Answer

Good question. At least you two are talking about it. Use some lube on his penis for a handjob... he will love it!!! Also have him show you how he does it... all guys are experts with their own penis. Have fun and enjoy the great orgasms! Your thoughts?