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What is the difference in thinking someone is attractive and being attracted to someone?

Is there a difference? How do you personally know the difference?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I would say that being attractive means you meet the normal guidelines of what makes someone pretty, proportional face and body that follow the golden radio of 1.61. A person that the majority of other people would be attracted too.

    As for being attracted to someone then that is just someone that i personally see as beautiful. For me that is more based on personality then on looks. Give me a choice between a super model with a bad or bitchy attitude or an "average looking" girl that's sweet, caring, and all the other things i go for then I'll tell you the "average" girl is way hotter and that I'm way more attracted to her.

    • Great answer!

  • I think so. I think a lot of people are attractive, but I don't want to be with them. Perfect example. There are girls here who post to How Do I Look that are wayyy too young for me to be attracted too, but I can acknowledge that they are pretty girls.

    • For that matter, I can acknowledge when a man is attractive without wanting to bone him.

    • True!

Most Helpful Girls

  • This is probably really subjective but for me, thinking someone is attractive is just based on their physical appearance. I can see a random person on the street and think they look physically attractive but not actually BE attracted to them.

    Being attracted to someone (for me) means liking who they are as a person which is about more than their physical traits. If I'm genuinely attracted to someone, I'm attracted to not only how they look but their personality, sense of humor, intelligence, etc. as well.

  • Acknowledging someone is attractive is just being able to realize their physical qualities as being good or ideal. Being attracted is feeling that pull that makes you want more from them.

    • Love this answer!

  • Thinking someone is attractive is usually based on just the looks. Being attracted to someone is the looks, personality, little things about them that capture your attention.

    • That's a good way of putting it.

  • I think my mom, my sisters, and my best girl friends are physically stunning, but I'm obviously not attracted TO them.

    • Yes, I've thought plenty of women were attractive. What actually made me want to ask this question was because I told someone that I thought a girl was attractive and they kept telling me that means I'm attracted to them. I'm like uhh no there's a difference lol

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • You know that person inside and outside both matters inside and outside they fancy you back and you know it if not it's a mutual agreement or mere comment compliment

  • Everyone had a type. A guy can be cute but not my type. A female can be pretty but im not into them. So those are attractive people. But if im into someone then im attracted

  • Appreciation vs wanting

  • You can find someone attractive but not want them for what ever reason. Being attracted to someone is someone you find attractive and also want.

  • Well the two are usually together for men. Like it takes more to be attracted to someone if one wants more than sex. But to put it plainly there are many guys and I as well where a woman being pretty or attractive is enough physically to where we'd have sex with the woman. Wanting a relationship, that's another story, and that's where more is need to be attracted and want more. That's why there's usuallya a difference or women explain the difference like it's more broad

  • I think you know that you're attracted to someone if you're thinking about them when they're not there.

  • For me it depends on the girl's personality/character. I might meet a girl who is stunningly beautiful, but if she's a mean/petty, inconsiderate person I wouldn't be attracted to her.

    • Me too, a good personality is essential.

  • You might look at someone and think wow they are good looking but being attracted toward them means you want more then just looking at them you want to get to know them and like a lot of things about them , you can see an attractive person walk by you and think damn but once you see how their personality is you might change your mind and say they aren't my type

  • Finding someone just attractive to me is like in an art kind of way, no sexual desires.
    But when I feel attracted to him as well then sexual desires are counted.
    I find enough guys attractive but I'm not attracted to them nor interested.

  • Attractive mean someone u like to see... Attracted to someone means u feel happy being with him/ her or around...

  • Best analogy i can come up with is when shopping for a puppy they are all cute but only one comes home with you and you may not pick the cutest one but the one that best works for you so you can find people attractive and not want to bring them home with you

  • If your being attracted to someone... you want them... you always think about them... finding someone attractive for example is like saying wow Brad Pitt is attractive or Jessica Biel is attractive. .

  • If someone is attractive you just know they are, however being attracted to is feeling something yourself, regardless of his attractiveness, it's all about how you feel.

  • I would think that being attractive is more on the outside. Being attracted to someone comes from the heart. I know it sounds cheesy.

  • I am not sure that there is a real difference, if it is i would say that being attracted is a stronger feeling

  • Someone is attractive because they have qualities that are appealing. Being attracted to someone is seeing your personal preference in someone.

  • Thinking someone is attractive is basically like I'd have a one night stand with her being attracted is like I'd date her

  • Finding them atteactive means you see them on the street and think they're good looking, nothing more.

    Being attracted to them means you actually have a desire to have sex with them.

    • Well said

  • Thinking is just that thinking but when your attracted your acting on your feelings just my opinion

  • The feeling you get when they enter the room.

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