Why is so important for the human to not being a "virgin"?

[Anonymous]

Not taking into account the part of having sex for the means of reproduction.

It seems for the male point of view it is very important to have sex for the physical and pleasure aspect of the act itself and for their biology. But guys Is it so important for you are so so important to have sex and for you ladies are you also so eager to have sex if it presents itself or not?

I knew a lady once many months ago that she was shy never had luck in the male department, naver dated never had a boyfriend, she was afraid of getting intimate with guys cause of what wil happen so she never really got interested in sex at all, for her sex only had to come for the purpose of reproduction when you were in a solid committed relationship and your goals were to build a family for your future other excuse to have sex were invalid for her, until recently just recently like 3 years ago she met a guy who she was very attracted to he seems he was also, they went on 2 dates, made out (no intimacy though) but they were not likea couple or really a bf/gf they were more like friends and treat eahc other as that ause they dont even hang out together much either.

Still she is attracted to the guy but it seems the guy only wants her for sex she is not looking for a solid relationship but hte guy only wants her for sex she feels and she held back to the idea of having sex with him just for that even if it will be only for pleasure and how she had heard many times that sex is natural and it feels good but she is nervous and afraid of what will happen so she had back off even if she is so attracted to the guy and the only guy who had really turn her on as she never had feel that before with any guy she has not taht experience. and even if this guy could be the last chance at her mature age to find someone willing to have intimacy...

[yeahbaby7783]

Personal gratification natural and genuine interest for some people. Others are superficial. Like caring about others image of you based upon cultural and social ideals. Most people's decisions and ideas are limited by this. Why? Its is easier to conform. A lot of times this is good. Sometimes not so much. Core values and moral integrity should be based on knowledge and experience. Knowing when to listen and sometimes knowing when not to. Someone doing something that makes them feel good about themselves is seldom wrong as long as it isn't at the expense of anyone else. Isn't that what everyone should be inspired and really want to do? That is what I want to do and be... Do I always stand up to that hell no.. but like everyone I am a work in progress. We don't always start the game of life in the same place but we should always try to progress forward everyday until we die to be happy and try and help others do the same when presented with the opportunity.

[Asker]

So in ur case is not important not to be a virgin male or female?

[yeahbaby7783]

For me it wasn't a question of morals I have always been sexually curious if I had known how I would have had sex with my friend next door at 6 when she was 5. We hid and fondled each other until I was 10 or 11. I grew up really rural. She was my only playmate. I had many many orgasms before I hit puberty and could ejaculate just by her rubbing me with her hand we would sit with our hands in each other's pants. And both have orgasms.

[Asker]

wow that y oung? but what aout todays generations or people in their 30 or 40

[yeahbaby7783]

My libido isn't as intense but at41 I am confident of what I like and unrestricted what I think by others. Why are you still a virgin. Are sexual feelings awkward for you to talk about it show to Someone. If so why? There has to be underlying reasons of so? I'm by no means a counselor. I I pass no judgement about anything.

[Asker]

Pm and i tell u

[Asker]

Maybe fear of the unknown could be and underlying reasonbut if it was sex per se probably i would not hesitate a lot knowing im attracted to this guy but my first and foremost concern abd fear is unplanned oregnancy at my age no way jose i dont want kids neither does the guy

[Brandycd]

My high school girlfriend was very adamant that she was not going to have sex until she was married. Her definition was actual penetration. We fooled around often and did everything else. To me it was an extremely satisfying relationship mainly because she was also my best friend.. in my opinion a great relationship is more than sex. Sex just turns it up to eleven😁

[Asker]

but what about those guys who say sex is penetration

[Brandycd]

I think sex is penetration

[Asker]

i mean if a lady loooses her virginity the termi loossing it is to have penetration that is all it does not involved other forms of sex is just the penetration My actual efinitaiton of loosing the virginity is also taht penetration intercourse

[Brandycd]

I agree I was just trying to suggest that it is possible to have a fulfilling relationship without sex...

[Asker]

I agree but many men won't put up to have a relationship without the actual penetration act of sex

[Brandycd]

That's unfortunate and probably why they r single... once the newness and the sex like bunnies stage wears off it's what's left that either makes a relationship amazing or makes it dissolve...

[zenbullet]

From a guy's perspective
Virgins are harder to fuck

[Asker]

Why they ar harder? Just because they are not easy and more responsible in who she have sex with or for what? Some guys dont like sex with virgins but what is so important for a huamn beign not to be one like if that is so dead or life decision

[zenbullet]

Yes just because that But from a personal stand point Never be a girl's first Too much emotion about waiting for the right one

[Asker]

so there is always a first time for everything even for sex.

[zenbullet]

You asked I answered Look at what you wrote and then realize that's why guys prefer not virgins

[kenworth]

i can't really say. I've heard so many different thoughts on this subject. what is inportant. to me. is that the two people love one another

[srhanna]

No and yes depending on how shallow the guy or girl are

[jacquesvol]

IS it? REALLY?

[Asker]

I dont know that is what I ask cause for some people not to be a virgin is important in order to experience sex. So what was sex made for anyway? We all were born because someone had sex otherwise we won't be in this planet.

[jacquesvol]

It seems the toronto van killer is a virgin. He compared himself with an American guy shooting up six persons because the girls didn't open their legs for him.
Elliot Rodger, I think: ktla.com/.../

[Asker]

So what is that guy has to do with anything?

[jacquesvol]

Two guys going mad from frustration

[Lovetolearn47]

I think it's just nature. We are mammals and desire sex! I'm sure evolution has made it so desirable so that we pass on our DNA, scientifically speaking. I think she should go for it, if only to just experience it instead of possibly never knowing. There is no shame in that at all. And who knows, it may turn into a very satisfying relationship for her and that man she is so attracted to. :)

[Asker]

@Lovetolearn47 but the guy also does not want a relationship but she is afraid that after sex he blew her off and he just wanted to take her virginity even if they are nos strangers

[Lovetolearn47]

Honestly, I'm still ok with that, as long as SHE is ok with also seeing it as "just sex." It seems she is going to lose him anyway, as he is getting frustrated with her. To me, losing your virginity is no big deal. And we all have sexual needs. Sometimes it's just an itch we have to scratch and doesn't need to be tied to a lasting relationship with someone.

[call_me_scar]

Short answer is ego

[Asker]

so people have sex just for ego?

[call_me_scar]

For the 1st time sure cause u don't wanna be asked what was your 1st time and say u haven't had 1 but after that it could be because it feels good or maybe ego again just 2 say you've had multiple partners but their could be more reasons

[Asker]

so in this 47 years old aldy what do u think?

[dolemite68]

I find people that remain virgins for a long time have some sort of social anxiety or issues

[Wally48]

Absolutely agree. I personally have never met a truly happy 30 yo virgin... of either gender.

[Asker]

social anxiety or issues of what sort?

[dolemite68]

Behavioral

[Asker]

what about is fear

[Asker]

why u think virgins who remain this long have social anxiety and what kind of issues are u referring to?

[eatadic]

The older a virgin is, the more likely she is to have sexual hangups. So a lot of guys don’t want that hassle.

[Asker]

sexual hang ups in what sense?

[eatadic]

In the sense she’s not going to be sexual, she’s not going to be experienced, it’s going to take effort to make her expand from vanilla sex into not as vanilla things.

[Asker]

but as a virgin evertything needs to be take care of slowly first even if the lady is a virgin in her 18yrd old is a first time the guy has to be slow because it is a first time

[Asker]

I heard mature ladies get super horny

[eatadic]

Yeah, I know that for an 18 year old, but I’m not 18. And an 18 year old isn’t set in her ways like a 40 year old. Well you’re 47, are you super horny?

[Asker]

I just heard the sex drive for mature women is higher then men

[eatadic]

Well do you think your sex drive is higher?

[Asker]

not very high but i do get turn on from time to tiem

[eatadic]

So that blows your theory out of the water, lol.

[Asker]

why blows my theory

[eatadic]

Cause you said mature ladies are super horny, you’re a mature lady but not super horny.

[NovissimumVirorum]

I miss the good ol’ days when it was important

[LovinLife1969]

I believe it’s feeling left out. Hearing how good it is. And can’t wait to see what it’s all about.

[007James007]

It doesn't matter what people think... I LOVE SEX!

[masterkamasutra]

its the start of sex.

[Nice222]

Humans are genetically programmed to procreate. Because of this we have become the dominant species and over populated the world.

[Asker]

But if it was not for procreation?

[Nice222]

Even if birth control is used the fantasy and drive is still there.

[Ipman533]

Why are you still a virgin for this long period of time?

[Asker]

haven't found the right guy to loose it with and I wotn loose it just to any douche outthere