Guys, think my boyfriend jerked off in my bathroom, so I have tried to be more sexually honest with him. is this good?

[Anonymous]

i told my boyfriend that i don't want him watching porn in my house since he has his own place. it just feels more respectful to me that way.
plus.. i'm a very sexual woman so i hate the secrecy.
one night he was stopping over mine but we were in separate rooms. i was half awake and he came slightly into my room and looked at me for a min and half, he then went to the bathroom and it was quiet, he was in there for 2 mins and i knocked on the wall to see if he was ok, i heard him stumble and then 2 mins later he flushes the chain. i went in for a pee and there was a goopy blob of some kind on the floor. i wiped it up but it's stayed shiney on the floor ever since. i think he jerked off in my bathroom. when i confronted him about it he panicked BIG time and said he wasn't jerking off to porn. but i digress, as i have turned internet safe on he hasn't gone to the bathroom with his phone much anymore.

not sure why he would hide this from me, it has upset me a little because i trusted him. though despite this i have opened up to him and explained i will watch porn with him, and i have even suggest he masturbate next to me. because i have done it next to him many at times. he seems excited to do all this.

i do want to talk to him and try get him to be honest about what he did that night, so that he didn't have to feel like he needs to hide his arousal around me.
just wondering if i am going the right way about this? why would he hide doing that from me?

thanks x

[Cwazzycwafter]

That is a very good way to go about it, actually. It’s just going to take a while for him to settle into it. It can be really embarrassing when something like that is discovered.
It’s also really hard to get dudes to open up about a lot of personal matters sometimes. It’s just gonna take a while. Hang in there.

[Asker]

you are the youngest and yet what you said is more mature than a lot of responses thank you. you may be right. it just sucked to find out he would take breaks to jerk off in my toilet sometimes. i understand guys need a quick no fuss relief now and again, but often times i need that so it would be nice for him to include me. yaknow? maybe your right and he's just not used to it yet.

[Cwazzycwafter]

Yeah I gotcha. Thanks by the way. I’ve been getting a lot of compliments of a similar caliber recently.

[Borat_Sagidiev]

Is maybe watch the pornish that he feel embarrass to tell you about? Him might be scare of a you being disgust if it something weird or of perversions.

[Asker]

similar point another guy made could be possible x

[afeique]

Apologies, but it sounds like you are too controlling and simply don't put out enough. That is, you're hot and withholding. Your boyfriend wants to pound you silly but you're not letting him do it as much as he wants, or in all the nasty dirty ways that he wants. And on top of that, you are pressuring him to not fulfill his needs by masturbating. That simply doesn't sound like a healthy situation in my opinion.

[EPunn]

Yes, be as honest as you can without being brutal, some guys are self conscious and anxious.

[deric_97]

Wow you sound like a kinky dream women much? Wow

[Asker]

xD thank you.

[deric_97]

He's not a good boyfriend for doing it himself like that in the bathroom fucking trash 😏

[deric_97]

Why didn't he tell so that you both can do in the bathroom thoo

[tfan1]

Go into the bathroom, find him sitting on your toilet, kneel down, spread his legs and grab his penis and suck his penis I doubt he would refuse that 😉👍. Might even lead to having sex on the toilet you riding each other 👍🙂. That’s my fantasy come to reality 👍🙂

[Anon-ymous1]

To answer your question, no... you are not going the right way about this at all, lol. Wow.

If the guy whacked off, then the guy whacked off. Whether or not he does that is not up to you in any way, shape, or form. You do not own him. He can do what he wants.

[Jayson101]

Yeah cause he is supposed to be attracted to you!

[eatadic]

What a controlling bitch to get upset he touches his own dick.

[Anon-ymous1]

Right. He needs to split up with her.

[Asker]

right... in no way shape or form did i get upset at the fact he touched his dick. but ok nice tunnel vision

[eatadic]

Your update isn’t any better. You got upset he did it without you. Same difference. He doesn’t neeed you around to touch his dick.

[Asker]

if he wants to do that he can go to his place. he has enough time to do it by himself. you may find this hard to believe but when you have a partner and plan on being with them long term you tend to want to open up about these things so that one doesn't get dissatisfied. but you are stuck in this whole double-standard male dynamic situation where us women have to dismiss our feelings just so that the almighty male and his dangly bits can have some alone time.

[eatadic]

It’s his body, he decides what he does with it. Your feelings are bullshit, that’s why I can dismiss them. Just cause you’re some insecure twat who feels threatened by a guy enjoying himself, don’t try to say it’s some male problem.

[Asker]

by your immature responses to me i'd say you were indeed the twat. that chip on your shoulder really runs deep.

[eatadic]

You just don’t like someone calling you on your bullshit. Cee You Next Tuesday, sweetie.

[Asker]

nah i'm just amused by your lack of maturity to this post. sure you are entitled to your opinion. but for a 48 yr old man to be insulting people on a question and answer site. i may be insecure but i'm already a better person than you just by that factor alone.

[eatadic]

Keep telling yourself that.

[Anon-ymous1]

Classic straw man. Love it.

[Owen3]

He might be asexual. I've heard of this kinda actions..

[niomi04]

Ummm do u seduce him and talk dirty with him to attract him towards u?

[Asker]

all the time. he used the lame excuse "i don't have a high sex drive as you" that's bull because he used to go to the toilet for 7-10mins and come back looking all awkward. i asked him if he wasn't satisfied with the sex and he said he is very satisfied. i'm just confused, and a little grossed out that he'd do it in my toilet right next to me. even though i told him to include me. maybe im at a loss

[niomi04]

Something is fishy about him den... He is definitely hiding something from u.. for the fact u njoy masturbating with him shows ur active and fun to have sex with.. and normally no guy will oppose that

[Asker]

well i think i just realised what his problem is. i think he enjoys porn a little too much. i offered him up a sexy pic of me because i haven't given him any and he wanted the link to a porno movie we were going to watch together.

[niomi04]

Awesome...

[soccerstar252]

I guess