My girlfriend receives dick pics from her ex - HELP?

[Anonymous]

Hey guys. I'm a lesbian and I have a girlfriend. We're together for almost 2 years now and our situation is a bit tricky. It's been 10 years since I came out as lesbian for my family but my girlfriend never dated a girl before me and her family doesn't know we are together, they live in a different city and my girlfriend visits them once a year. I'm sure she loves me, but I'm not sure if she is lesbian or bi or straight. We have sex a lot and everything is perfect, but there's one thing that bothers me since the beginning of the last year. I know she's in touch with her ex (he lives in a different country, far away from us), she told me that in the beginning of our relationship, and she told him we were together. I always thought something was odd, so one day I read their whatsapp messages (I know it's wrong) and saw that she told him we were over (we weren't) and he asked her if she was lonely, she said yes. He told her he could masturbate on cam for her sometime and she said she would love it. They didn't say anything else and later he sent her a dick pic. She sent him some emojis and that was it. I told her that I saw it and she said it was nothing, she was just trying to make him stop asking questions about us (me and her as a couple) and that's why she told him we were over. Ok, everything was great, until I saw her facebook messages. I saw they talked dirty on cam. I didn't say anything about that, but I'm constantly asking her to stop talking to him, telling her how I feel about it, but she just says she won't stop because she likes him as a friend and when she sends dick pics, she just ignores, don't encourage him and they change subjects (I know sometimes she really does that). Anyway, I want to stop looking at her phone, but I'm scared that she's still in love with him and can't be with him because he lives in a different country, so she's with me just not to be alone. What should I do? Talking to her doesn't work, she says she loves me but I don't buy it

[englisc]

After looking at some of your comments towards others I think that you're either naive or you're allowing your feelings for her cloud your judgement. Also I think that you're holding him responsible for his actions an what's going on, and not her, simply because he's a man and she's a woman.

One guy said that there's something wrong with the guy mentally, that he's sex offender material, and you agreed...

She's clearly encouraging him to send dick pics. She's the one in the relationship, lying that she isn't. She's the one go has talked dirty on cam and has watched him mastrubate, after she said she'd love to. But somehow you still believe that she doesn't like his dick pics and ignores them to be his friend? Why? I really don't get it. He might be an asshole, but she's the one lyin to you both - she's an even bigger asshole. But somehow the guy is mentally ill sex offender material just after your sweet innocent girl. You should be more mad at her than at him, but you don't want to block him from her stuff in case SHE gets pissed off. What's wrong wth you?

[Asker]

we actually broke up twice because of it, and she stopped talking to him on cam. he just sends her pics randomly, out of the blue. I want to believe her, because we broke up and she apologized to me and doesn't talk dirty to him anymore. And she wanted to be with me even though I read her texts, she says she loves me and we are really happy, the pictures are truly the only problem with our relationship. I don't mind her talking to him, I just wish the pictures would stop.

[englisc]

I can guarantee you that she's doing the exact same thing again because she knows you'll fall for it every time and will blame the guy instead of her. Any normal person would stop talking to the ex, she's taking the absolute piss because she knows she can.

[Raiden93]

I think her ex has a serious problem mentally. The only thing you can do is either block his number and block him from any form of contact. Sounds as if he is sex offender material.

[Asker]

yeah, that's how I fell about him hahaha a giant a*****... but I can't block him using her phone, she would be pissed

[Raiden93]

Well I mean if she's just accepting it then that's blatant disrespect to your relationship. She has the power to change it. That's a bit shady

[GayHowellMeme]

Remove them

[Andre_it]

Maybe he's just trying to influence her to change her mind.. convince her to stay with you ;)

[Asker]

I do my best, we practically live together and she seems happy... I just wish she could tell him to stop :(

[Andre_it]

Yeah, it's not the ideal situation.. just continue on your way doing your best and try to define the situation with her.. i hope the best for you :)

[Intraluminal]

It's not HER fault if HE sends her dick pics. You have nothing to worry about.

[Asker]

but isn't it her fault if she doesn't ask him to stop? just changes subject and moves on?

[Intraluminal]

He is obviously a dick. Otherwise why would he send f*** dick pics to her, knowing she's with you? He wouldn't pay any attention, and she knows it.

[Intraluminal]

She probably needs the affirmation that guys find her attractive right now because being a lesbian is new to her.

[Asker]

yeah, maybe she just can't handle with it yet... but I think things are getting better, they talk less and don't chat on cam anymore

[Intraluminal]

There you go! Your intimacy is good?

[Asker]

yeah, really good. we are a perfect couple, actually... the only thing we fight about is him :( last dick pic he sent he asked if she liked it and she said she was busy talking to her mom... he laughed and changed the subject... hope he stops after that one

[Intraluminal]

It'll peter out soon (sorry about the pun).

[Asker]

hope so :( today they talked about memes and series. the last dick pic I told you about was last Sunday. they didn't talk all week. looks better, yeah?

[Intraluminal]

Definitely. I can only imagine how difficult it must be to transition from being a heterosexual girl, with guys all around you, to be a lesbian. I mean, great to *find* yourself, but socially a BIG change.

[Synttacks]

Send him some dick pics from her account tagged "This is what im with now." or something like that. Id be happy to help XP XP

[es20490446e]

She likes it. It doesn't mean she preferred to be with him, but at least she enjoys interacting with him.

[Asker]

she says she likes talking to him... I think it's good for her ego or something. But she doesn't talk to him on cam anymore and don't send him nudes (I know for sure because I saw her phone and stuff...), so you think she just don't tell him to F******* because of their friendship?

[es20490446e]

If I was that guy I would know she liked my pics to a certain extent.

[Asker]

don't you think he's a bit of a jerk if he sends her this kind of picture without her asking him to do so? when she stopped replying sexually, shouldn't he have stopped to? if you send a girl a picture and she replies some hours later just saying something like "sorry, I wasn't with my phone" and nothing else, wouldn't that be a sign that maybe she just doesn't want to receive pictures like these?

[es20490446e]

In my experience girls will always act like that, even when they are interested.

[Asker]

I didn't know that :p It's nice to have a male perspective about it, because I'm a lesbian and I've never been though that, I never had guys sending me dick pics. Do you think it's possible that she loves me but also likes having his attention and doesn't have any feelings for him?

[es20490446e]

Remembers me of a question on this site: "How do you know a girl likes you?" Which I answered: "I always assume that girls are attracted to me to some degree" So if the simplest answer is the most probable one, the simplest answer here is that she has certain level of interest on him. But not as high as to return with him.

[DiegoO]

That's strange.

[Aroso]

Straight people get priority over lesbians. Because a lesbian relationship isn't productive.

[AdamSykes96]

She should just block him or she likes receiving them especially if she avoids the subject

[Asker]

She swears she doesn't enjoy. She changes the subject with him, when he sends these pictures. Do you think it makes sense if she just don't ask him to stop because she doesn't want to lose his friendship? Because they talk about other stuff too... regular stuff.

[AdamSykes96]

Well if he was a good friend he should respect her new relationship so she should be able to ask him to stop

[Asker]

he thinks she's not in a relationship... before he sent the first pic, she told him we were over (but we weren't). When I confronted her about it, she said it was because he was asking questions about our sex life -.- well... I guess he's a fu**** jerk and I can't see why she talks to him.

[AdamSykes96]

Well I wouldn't be comfortable with it and would be suspicious if she wasn't honest with him

[SilverRain92]

She likes this guy and cheats on you with him

[ArchieSH94]

Block him or remove her from your life. Easier said than done though. She either likes the attention/dick. Or likes you more in which case she must stop.

[Anonymous]

She won't cause she still likes him or wants his dick inside. I have heard so many girls say that a toy is not the same at all and sometimes the desire the real thing. PS she does not want him to stop.

[Anonymous]

Block him

[Anonymous]

she's bi? and you allow her to keep her guy ex in her life. hahahahaha, wow, loser