Guys, My guy friend is secretive about his dating life. Why?

[Anonymous]

We once had a sexting fling which ended. We came to an agreement we won’t be crossing the line again because our age gap is quite large. We’re still friends though.

He knows everything about me. Whether it’s my dating life or traumatic past. He asks and I open up. He doesn’t share much about certain details of his life. I don’t want to make him uncomfortable. He once said, “I do date around but you never ask me about my dating life.” Then I started to ask him but he never opens up!!

There’s one female in particular. He said he was with a married woman and I’ve asked him about it. He often says, “It’s complicated” and would change the subject. Funny enough, the woman accidentally sent me a friend request. I knew it was her because of the details he told me about her. I’ve told him his friend on FB sent me a request but I never said I knew it was her. I’ve recently made a joke which suggested this FB friend is her. I don’t think it registered.

I’m not jealous of the woman but I’m more confused as to why he’s so secretive about his dating life. Does he not trust me?

[markscott]

He may be involved in something he or you would consider immoral, and doesn't want you to know, or maybe he just has difficulty opening up about certain things. Or he may just be a very private person. Being as you have been so open with him, for so long, it seems odd, that he is not more open with you. He may never be more open with you. Personally, I would have difficulty being very open about myself with someone, and they be closed about themselves. He may open up more with time, or not. You need to decide if the relationship is still working for you. You may get him to open up with gentle prodding, here and there. Or by simply saying, you are becoming uncomfortable with how open you are, and how little he has opened up to you.

[Motion-Dangerous]

Because he doesn't want to go into all the details. Like if he is fucking 4 girls a week he wouldn't want that to change your perspective of him or how you interact with him

[Asker]

He knows I’m very sexual active. It honestly doesn’t sound like he’s getting any action. He’s focused on his career.

[Motion-Dangerous]

Ahhhhhh okay. Well perhaps that's it then, he doesn't want to to into details because he's intimidated by your sex life, you make him feel inferior to you and that's embarassing for a guy who used to be sexually interested in a girl

[Motion-Dangerous]

If that makes sense?

[Welshman2]

Maybe he's just a very private person

[winterfox10]

It might be a trust thing, but it could also be that simply doesn't talk about that stuff with anyone. I know I don't.

[ryancg]

Some people just like to keep their private life private, even from friends and family. I never tell anyone about whether or not I'm dating someone.

[psychosam]

Some people just don't like opening up. I'm the same. Hate talking about touchy-feely shit. Hate people knowing my business

[lambobunny]

Pls stop dating him, Bcs he is using you as an option.

[Asker]

I’m not dating him. We’re friends and we both agreed it should stay that way.

[lambobunny]

But still avoid being with him. He is using you

[oftheHowl]

Seems like you didn't read the post lol. Or you're just one of those guys who's answer to everything is "break up/leave them!"

[Anonymous]

You don't need him.