Is he selfish in bed?

Question

Now a lot of times, i don't like sex, I'm often times not turned on enough, which causes lots of pain for me during it. Many guys don't understand the importance of foreplay, they just kiss u a little and stick it in impatiently. AKA my boyfriend LOL.

I tried talking to him about it, and he's made some slight changes, but i get the feeling sometimes that he only cares about his own pleasure. Like i tell him i love it when he fingers me, yet he barely does it!! Sometimes he'll try for like 2 mins tops and say his hand is "tired". YET when i give him head, I do it for a long time, and I do it each time we have intercourse, and i never complain about my jaw being "tired"...

ALSO 2 times now, we were in a rush but still kinda wanted to have sex. So we do it for a bit, like maybe 3 mins, and he says something along the lines of... "U should suck my dick til i cum". Not directly like that. But that's basically what he's saying. So he's not even thinking about me cuming? just seems like he wants to get his dick sucked without doing any work. He's never asked me if I cum when we do it, which I don't.

Is this selfish or is he just ignorant about how to please a woman or something?

BigRob420 · Accepted Answer

It seems you both dont really know what you're doing. Try riding him cowgirl style and have him reach under you leg with his dominant hand and play with your clit while you ride him. You can take it as slow or fast as you want if you control the speed. It also sounds like he doesn't know where the g spot is so you can work it in a way to hit it good. You'll have sex for longer and it will be significantly better.

chriscdi · Accepted Answer

Wheres the boob licking and all the eating out and the neck kissing and the finger while kissing? He dont do any of that? Just fucks you and thats it? I say you should find someone who cares about your pleasure, who can make you orgasm and then cuddle after, find someone new i say, thats very selfish and if he is selfish with sex then can you imagine with serious things in the future?

SapphireFox · Accepted Answer

He sounds really selfish. In my opinion, sex isn't over until both people come. I mean, what's the point of sex if you're even hornier after🤣 Either talk to him and see if he changes or don't let him put it in until you are ready... .. also no foreplay for you than no bjs for him... fair is fair... ooooorrrr the better option, dump his selfish ass and upgrade.

Ameliabegumx · Answer

That’s not a man, throw him away

Theonlyonehurting · Answer

He ain’t no man, a real man can control himself and knows how to pleasure a woman, my ex is begging for me back becos she misses how I treated her in and out the bedroom, find a man that can give you hours of fun in the bedroom I can go for hours at a time, hope this helps xx

ROCKS128 · Answer

he's totally ignorant, doesn't care for ur pleasure.

Dinnye · Answer

Lol. Yeah, he is selfish. I usually take 20-30 minutes to do proper foreplay with oral. Except if the girl tells me she wants the D earlier. Or she is close to cum as it is.

William5vincere · Answer

I wish my wife liked foreplay, all she wants is for me to stick it in, but I want foreplay first and if I ask for a blowjob or handjob before, she gets mad and refuses sex

skittles2017 · Answer

He sounds selfish... try lube next time.. Us guys is all about cumming... let him do that and he's sorted and you're in the clear for a while

pizzalovershouse · Answer

goid giys like you to be as happy as them if i had a girl friend thats giving me what i want im going to give her what she needs cuz i care he sounds like he is just using you for his needs a guy who cares for you won't do that

tohrururu · Answer

he might be ignorant about the fact that guys and girls have different ways of getting off. you should tell him directly that you haven't cummed yet and would like it if he could do you the honor..

trick1988 · Answer

First off that has to hurt him just putting it in like. It sounds like he's very selfish. To me foreplay is one of the best parts of having sex. I prefer to finger or eat a women till she has at least one orgasm. Then I will progress further.

BlooSpirit · Answer

Going down on my girlfriend is one of my favorite pleasures. I find I can go down on her longer then she can me lol. And I love when we 69 and I can edge her with my tongue. I've never asked her if she really has orgasmed though during sex because it's every guys fear that's it a lie anyway =/ Opinion is that your boyfriend is just lazy sexually try giving commands guys are like dogs.