Is it normal for a man to have these sexual fantasies about women?

[Anonymous]

Examples:
*when she's giving you oral, you grab her hair and pull her face in to force your dick down her throat
*you rough her up until she bruises/bleeds
*you shove your hands down her panties to feel her up while sticking her tongue down your throat, just randomly throughout the day
*you tie her hands and legs to the bedposts and tease her clit and nipples for a looong time, with your hands, mouth and toys, until she's begging for release; stopping just as she's about to orgasm, and doing this over and over again, just to torture her
*You cum all over her face, and all over the place, before making her to lap it all up and swallow it down
*lots of sexual teasing
*you slap her hard, if she deserves it
*you grab her tits, and by the pussy, and say 'these belong to me'
*you make her bow down and kiss your feet every morning, while you puts your foot on the back of her head
* you make her masturbate for your entertainment
* she has to be naked around the house, do all the housework, and serve you and your friends drinks
* you whip her when you're stressed out, then make her kneel while you stand over her as she gives you oral sex
*she has to call you 'Master', and to address your friends and family formally
*she exists to serve you, and to be your sex toy
*You make her wear a chastity device to lock away her pussy, and when you're feeling evil, you add an electric needle poking into her clit which tases her whenever she gets wet (or wets herself).
*You use a pump to engorge her pussy and make it swollen, then slap it hard
*You spank her ass, hard, until it's red and raw, before fucking her hard up the ass
*you pour dripping hot wax over her pussy and nipples
*she has to sleep naked on the floor, fully exposed, while you sleep on the bed under a blanket
*at kink parties, she has to wear a dog collar, and kneel beside you, while you hold her leash
*etc.
Have you ever done any of these things IRL? And is it normal to sexually fantasize about girls in this way?

[Anonymous]

Well, I couldn't answer this by the vote options, but I can only say that, in the right places and circumstances, that's normal. That's usually something that might just be your kind of thing as a dominant in BDSM. I recommend you to search about BDSM, domination/submission, etc.
You're not exactly being misogynistic because it seems (at least to me) that you have your fetishes and fantasies, and that's something everyone has. You just need to know that women are people too outside of that lol, and I hope you think that in the entire spectrum of life and outside of a BDSM context 😅

[Anonymous]

I'm all for roughing it up in the bedroom but this sounds a bit extreme brah. That said, you obviously know of a dominant/submissive relationship and you know there are women who are into all that.. so are you really trying to see where your moral compass is or just bragging about your fantasies?

[Asker]

Nah, I just came across a guy who was desperately into having all of that done to him, so I wanted to see how people would react to the same question if the guy was fantasizing about doing all of that to a girl, as opposed to fantasizing about a girl doing all of those things to him instead.

[Some_Goof]

Its totally alright if both partners are consenting. You'll find many women out there who have same fantasies on receiving end.
It all comes down to the consent. Thats what differs these fantasies fron abuse, and harassment.

[Anon-ymous1]

I think SOME of them are pretty normal, dunno about all of them. There's no option for that so I'm not voting.

[Asker]

Not even for the "No idea/results" option in the poll?

[es20490446e]

https://youtu.be/nWtb7c5yobw

[sugarette]

Do you need someone to escort you to your local psych ward?

[Asker]

Not particularly, thank you. Why would I?

[sugarette]

I can't pretend to think you're mentally healthy if you think torturing/abusing/borderline raping women is hot.

[Asker]

And yet, the unanimous consensus seems to be that torturing/abusing/borderline raping men is hot; that men who want to be on the receiving end of all of these things are awesome and amazing. Why is that? Is it normal to imagine or dreaming about women like this? ↗

[sugarette]

Yeah, go ask rape victims and abuse victims if they like to be treated that way, and if they think it's okay to romanticize what they go through. You sound like a serial killer/rapist.

[Asker]

And you sound highly irrational and emotionally imbalanced. Why are you so vehemently opposed to men merely sexually fantasizing about maledom BDSM activities? Is thought a crime?

[sugarette]

Lol, this barely sounds like BDSM anymore. Maybe this is just me, but I would never trust a guy with such disturbing and twisted thoughts. Seek therapy, bro.

[Asker]

Did you read the link I posted, to the other thread? Literally all that I did was switch 'she' with 'you, and 'you/your' with 'she/her', and change some elements relating to gender-specific sexual anatomy. Talk about tone-deaf...

[sugarette]

I just did, and it's not normal for anyone to get off of abusing others, whether it's a woman or a man. This probably reflects a weird ass behavior on a daily basis. I personally wouldn't approach you irl.

[Asker]

But it's supposedly normal for people to get off on being abused by others? I don't get that. Isn't it more normal, and more healthy, to desire a position of strength and power over others, as opposed to desiring subjugation, weakness and powerlessness?

[sugarette]

We're humans. We're not mere animals fighting for territory and finding mates. There is no need to "dominate" or own anyone. You can go jack off to women almost dying if you want to, but don't be surprising if nobody talks to you once they learn what you're into.

[Asker]

Except that humans are still animals, fighting for territory and finding mates. What do you think land ownership, and the concept of capital, is all about? There is more need now to "dominate" and to essentially 'own' others than ever before. Don't deny what you are. You are not some higher being; you are not a god, nor an angel, nor some inherently superior form of sentience or intelligence that has transcended to a higher plane of existence. You are a mortal being, and a member of the hominid species which calls itself 'humanity'. An animal, just like me, and just like the rest of us. Deny it at your peril.

[Anon-ymous1]

Uh... we are *totally* mere animals fighting over territory and sex rights. Like the Joker says, "You'll see, I'll show you; when the chips are down? these uh, these 'civilized' people? They'll eat each other." And he's right.

[sugarette]

Okay. Humans are the only ones that lose consciousness as a response to perceived threat, or emotional shock, or due to standing in one place too long. Humans appear to have superior intelligence on an individual basis, expressed through symbol use and manipulation and observable by their intelligent behavior. We're different from our ancestors. I'm not going to turn this into an anthropology lesson, but we're more than what you just described. We don't see other people only as things to have sex with. We don't have a right to own/dominate other humans (yes, slavery is illegal). This dumb theory of "men own women and shall do whatever they want with them" is old and used by the worst individuals, since you seem to be hinting at this in your question. My significant other doesn't own me and I don't own them. They will also never treat me the way you treat women. Again, don't act shocked or confused when people find you fundamentally gross for thinking it's normal to abuse women.

[sugarette]

@Anon-ymous1 You think I'm gonna take the Joker seriously, huh. Sorry for being civilized and having basic human decency.

[Anon-ymous1]

Well, I think the implication here is that it's all being done with the gal's consent. Sooo...

[sugarette]

@Anon-ymous1 I know what consent is. I still would never befriend a guy who sounds like an abuser, for my own safety. That's all.

[Anon-ymous1]

Sure, I guess. But how would you know a platonic friend's private sexual desires? Especially ones like these? You probably wouldn't.

[sugarette]

@Anon-ymous1 By the way my friend talks about it? I don't think someone who fantasizes about seriously injuring women and hurting them would have a good opinion of them, anyway. Better be safe than sorry.

[sugarette]

(Not sure why autocorrect added that additional "be", ignore it.)

[Anon-ymous1]

They... likely wouldn't talk about it at all.

[Asker]

"Humans are the only ones that lose consciousness as a response to perceived threat, or emotional shock, or due to standing in one place too long." Er, you do know that fainting from shock and fear is common to all mammals, right? As for "We're different from our ancestors"; no, we're really not. Genetically, and from an evolutionary perspective, we've hardly changed at all. Except in a few aspects, such as the fact that we now reach full sexual maturity a full 5-6 years earlier than we did in the pre-industrial era (with a historical 18yo as sexually developed as a modern 12-13yo). And please, enough with the strawmen. I get it, you just want to rant and rave about how evil and gross I am. The lady doth protest too much- 'tis she a tsundere, one who fantasizes about being raped and abused by a strapping older less-than-gentleman? One does have to ponder...

[sugarette]

I was going to reply but I really don't appreciate you saying I'd ever enjoy these things since I have a history of sexual assault, so this is honestly a fucked up move. Why would you say that.

[Asker]

I wasn't saying that you would. I was saying that your melodramatic responses of sweeping indiscriminatory statements were making me question whether you might. Of course, if you have a history of sexual assault, that provides a far likelier and plausible explanation. But would you have appreciated me suggesting that instead? I think not. I do have some sensitivity and understanding, you know.

[sugarette]

I don't think I would've liked either. I'm speaking from my experiences as a victim of sexual assault and some of the things you've listed sound awfully close to what other victims have gone through, which I truly find weird on both ends. It's inconceivable for me that someone would enjoy it this much, or that someone would like to experience this much pain/think they're deserving of it. I know what BDSM usually consists of (though it's not something I'm interested in for personal reasons), but a few things up there seem really blurry between actual abuse and BDSM. That's my argument summed up so far, not very coherent now that I look at it but I might be more or less biased considering my trauma. I suppose some people don't care at all about the reasoning behind all this and just want to experience it though.

[Asker]

Sexual desires aren't supposed to be either logical or reasonal. And sexual fantasies certainly aren't. That's why they remain fantasies. If they were, then rape fantasies wouldn't be a thing, would they? But the fact of the matter is that rape fantasies aren't just a thing, but an extremely common, popular, and even normal thing. Is it weird? Sure. Is it disturbing? Undoubtedly. But sexuality isn't dictated by common sense or reason.

[LisaLisa89]

Thankfully not a single one of those plays any part in my life.

[Shimy]

Most of these things are just straight up mental.
You watch a lot of porn, don't you?

[Asker]

Actually, no. I just copied the list from this guy's thread (https://www. girlsaskguys. com/sexual-behavior/q3128014-is-it-normal-to-imagine-or-dreaming-about-women-like-this), and switched things round to see if it would be deemed normal and acceptable for the male dom to fantasize about doing these things to a female submissive, as it was for the male submissive to fantasize about having these things done to him by a fem-dom in the prior thread. The results thus far are very enlightening. In spite of the fact that the male-dom/fem-sub dynamic is far more common, and hence more normal from an objective standpoint, the overwhelming majority thus far deem it to be abnormal, evil and wrong. Why do you think this is?

[Shimy]

Okay. Well most of these things seem like some kind of torture to me. The kind of things that are probably shown in hardcore bdsm videos, or something like that (I don't really want to verify) I've read that porn addiction can have this kind of effects and rewire someone's brain. You start by watching classic porn with 2 persons having sex, then you get bored and start watching something a bit more hardcore, and it goes on to more extreme videos. Then you start fantasizing about these things that only happen in porn and expect to do the same things in your own sexual life. Don't get me wrongs, kinks can spice up a couple's sexual life, but these are just too extremes. No matter who is the dom and who is the sub, I honestly believe that this is twisted.

[Shimy]

Sorry if I made mistakes by the way, English isn't my first language

[RebeccaSJ]

Yes.

[Girolamo]

Is that how you would want your daughter to be treated? Serious question.

[Asker]

If she derived pleasure and satisfaction from being treated that way, then I'd have to be okay with it. Because it's all about whatever makes them happiest in life, isn't it?

[thecd1979]

As a recovering porn addict, I can tell already that porn has twisted your mind and your view on women. These fantasies are anything but normal. Do some research and get some help. There’s so much more out there besides this. I regret all the time I wasted on porn that could have been put towards so much more. What you’re saying is not how anyone wants someone that they love and care about to treated. Take a look at the link I’m providing. I’m not trying to judge, as I’ve been where your at before. I hope I can help and best of luck to you.

https://fightthenewdrug.org/

[Asker]

@thecd1979 Yawn, here we go again with the neo-puritanist tripe. "There’s so much more out there besides this"- such as? All the time you "could have put towards so much more"- like what? 'Fight the new drug'- pornography is the oldest form of entertainment in the world. It's anything but 'new'. Political correctness, on the other hand, now that's another matter entirely. You might be happy emasculating yourself for imaginary brownie points, for the sake of patting yourself on the back for your virtue signalling. And I'm not trying to judge you either, since I've also been where you're at now. But it didn't work for me. I am who I am. And if the masculine desire for sexual dominance is somehow inherently evil, then I'm proud to be evil. Because I'm not going to be anyone else but me.

[thecd1979]

I understand then. To answer your question about so much more. I’m referring to time with family and friends, going places, meeting people, doing the things I love, and just living my life to the fullest and being happy. I’m not looking for brownie points from anyone. These were all the things that I was not doing before because my addiction to porn was more important. I can honestly say I’m living my life to the fullest now and am happy. I can see you have a lot of anger. Don’t wait to get some help on that, it’s gonna drag you down if you don’t. It’s a dark and ugly road your going down, that’s all I’m saying. It’s not normal for anyone to take pleasure in another human beings suffering and degradation. Just ponder on that. I hope things work out for you.

[Girolamo]

If your daughter said she was happy dying by cocaine overdose, would you also encourage that?

[Anon-ymous1]

@Girolamo Uh wow, really, really bad comparison there man. You're comparing consensual sexual acts, even weird ones, with illicit drugs that cause crime and murder south of the border and that you can literally kill yourself on via overdose. How are they equal in any way.

[Girolamo]

These are your exact words: If she derived pleasure and satisfaction from being treated that way, then I'd have to be okay with it. Because it's all about whatever makes them happiest in life, isn't it?

[Asker]

A more fitting analogy- If your daughter said she was happiest having sex with other girls, and wanted to marry a woman as her wife instead of a man as her husband, would you tell her that she was sick, and that her mind was warped and twisted?

[Girolamo]

Let's just all hope you never have a daughter...

[Girolamo]

In fact, let's hope you never get within 100 miles of anyone's daughter...

[Asker]

So you would force your own daughter to go through gay conversion therapy, and deny her her right to her sexuality. And you have the gall to say that I should never have a daughter? You're a disgrace.

[Girolamo]

You need help immediately. Call a doctor.

[CT_CD]

Yes, it's only natural

[Anonymous]

Go see a psychiatrist asap

[Anonymous]

It’s normal don’t worry. My guy/dom does all of those things except for the electric needle/taser and the kissing of his feet.

[Asker]

Well, the electric needle/taser thing was the closest counterpart I could come up with for this: "*she puts your penis in a chastity device. And when she's feeling evil, she puts your penis in a chastity device with metal spikes which pierce your penis if you get an erection, and then she undresses right in front of you".

[Anonymous]

sick misogynistic pervert

[Asker]

Is it normal to imagine or dreaming about women like this? ↗
Actually, I think you'll find that the OP of that thread was the sick misandrist pervert. All I did was switch it around so that the guy was dishing it out while the girl was on the receiving end.

[Anonymous]

Fuck honestly you made me really wet

[Asker]

Aww, thanks. I do my best...

[Anonymous]

Sounds really hot to me honestly only a few are to extreme for me

[Asker]

Alright, cool. Which ones do you feel would be too extreme for you (besides the chastity device, which I only really added for the sake of symmetry)?

[Opinion Owner]

Well thats one of them and the hot wax beyond that the rest seems fine to me

[Opinion Owner]

And the feet thing