My man rather gets fucked in the ass than have sex, what to do?

Ok so here's the situation: I've been with my boyfriend for about 3.5 months and there's a thing that's frustrating me and makes me sad. I feel like he rathers gets fucked in the ass or receives a handjob than have sex with me. We do have sex but more often he asks me to use the dildo or my hands. I just spent 2 nights at his house and we had sex twice, but I used the dildo on him twice and did a handjob once too. He would have wanted me to do it even more times than that though.

Today I left to go home and he told me it would be nice if I fucked him with the dildo again before I left, and followed it up with "of it's ok with you, maybe you would want sex instead?". I asked him what he'd rather do and he said "the dildo, but only of it's ok with you... we can have sex if you want"... Yeah that makes me feel really in the mood and desired, knowing you'd rather have that rubber thing up your ass than have sex with me. Makes me really horny thinking about that during sex... Not. I don't want anyone to sleep with me just for my sake, I want him to want it too just as much. So today there was no sex for me and I won't see him again for 2-3 weeks (long distance).

I don't know what this is all about or how to solve it. If there even is a way to solve it. I don't enjoy using the dildo or my hands on him. It does nothing for me sexually, almost the opposite. I want a man that's dominante in bed and wants NORMAL SEX with me. I'm more submissive by nature and he needs me to be dominate. I hate it and feel like i'm losing interest in him. I always leave his house sexually frustrated and sad, feeling like this is it, I'm going to break up now, because I can't deal with this.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • The two of you aren't sexually compatible. It's really that simple, and you need to face that reality. It's not your fault that you are incompatible (and not really his either), but it's your fault if you stay with him knowing that you can't be happy with him.

    There are women out there who would love to be with him and do the things he likes, and men who want to be everything you want. So, end this and find someone who is a better match for you.

  • Yeah that's pretty selfish of him really. Maybe he's not exactly straight?
    But to me, sex is about making one another sexually and sensually satisfied as much as possible. So if he's not satisfying you, you should let him know and if he doesn't care, time to cut bait and find a better sexual partner (or partner in general).

Most Helpful Girls

  • Just say Nigga just put your dick in my ass then you pull it out and cum in my face. Niggas fuck anything my brother friend smoked Sherm and fucked his neighbor dog in the ass that’s one sick ass nigga

  • Queer AF

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  • Tell him you need a man and that if he isn’t man enough for the job, you’ll find someone who is

  • he is not even a man, go date a girl instead i bet she will be much more of a man than this sad sissy, he might beeven gay by the way, what are you even doing this pathetic creature? couldn't you find i real man? for god sake there are billions of us and the one you find is this fucking pussy, please do yourself and any other billions of man a favour and change the name of the question he is not yours or a ''man'' he belongs to that dildo and if he is a man then i am not, really if this is what manhood is this days, then i will be a badass motherfucking femmefatal instead of being a sissy like this.

  • Sounds like he might be in the closet. Might be best to move on.

  • It sound's like your dating a gay guy who's only in to anal sex. and not into penis two pussie sex.

  • What the actual fuck? Your guy might be in for other dudes more than you :/

  • It's time to break up. This will be a long lonely frustrating road. Both of you will end up getting what you want somewhere else anyway. Move on. Do it right fucking now!

  • Dude is gay.

  • Yeah, this dudes gay

  • Please your boyfriend

  • WTF Dump him and move on

  • Just move on tell him to go find a guy

  • Sounds like you need to have a serious conversation with him about your sex life. He obviously has some desire/obsession that you don’t know about.

  • Tbh seems like he may be on the DL, though I don't really think there is another answer for that one. I say leave him it's not worth the frustration.

  • He's a selfish prick. I'm pretty impotent, and I love it up the ass, but I also LOVE eating pussy. No women I'm in bed with is going to be frustrated if I can help it. And I'll take the occasional pecker pill so I can penetrate my lady. After all, I know how good it feels to be fucked.

  • There's a few potential solutions:

    • ride reverse cowgirl while using the toy on him
    • make him wear a plug and tell him to rail you
    • He's probably gay or lazy. Break up with him. Find a REAL MAN who will dominate you and destroy your pussy like you so desire.
  • Why you and I both know how good it feels so you can't blame him, you should never have done this to start with if it doesn't interest you, just stick your strapon in his ass and tell him that this is how you want it or he's never giving pegged again

  • It doesn’t sound like you’re compatible. You’re really trying to accommodate him but it’s just the wrong chemistry.