What is unrealistic about porn?

[MlleCake]

Much is said now about how the total availability of porn is warping young people's ideas of what sex really is and what happens when normal people get together to have the sexy time.

In your opinion, what are the things you see or don't see in porn that you think make it more unrealistic?

Be specific.

These are some of the things I have noticed that get on my nerves:

You NEVER see how much lube they use in porn. They use TONS.

The women almost never show the signs of arousal like engorged labia and flushing, because they aren't usually aroused when they preform, and they don't usually orgasm in real life from what we see on screen.

A lot of emphasis on large penis, and what bodies LOOK like, versus what FEELS good when you're making love.

Positions designed to give maximum visibility to the genitals, not very stimulating in real life.

Piston sex - that really fast, hard stuff they do in porn is often not very sustainable or pleasurable in real life, it just looks good on camera.

Reverse Cowgirl - it bends the penis kind of funny, and offers very little clitoral stimulation.

Not all women like being dominated, getting facials, deep throating. Deep throating even carries a health risk.

Started the trend of everyone needing to shave their genitals which has increased transmission rates of almost all STDs except Pubic Lice.

[SaskiaBlueRaySoul]

I have what i would admit is a very complicated relationship with porn, in an ideal world like imagine a more primitive time of mankind, porn did not exist, on this say far left view its correct, until victorian times where photography gave the first initial opportunities for sultry pics it hadn't happened before, sex in all its gory glorious variants always had,,, in one generation mine had access to uk soft porn magazines, then later the odd vhs tape... now my children can access the images and videos of the extent of mans mind regarding sexual contact. the three biggest money spinners in the world are arms, sex and drugs... this sais it all, it has always been the same too... throughout time and mans existence... i have access to all ranges of food expensive and bottom of the range its my choice what i buy, enjoy and engage with... porn is the same thing... there are levels and realms for every idea on the web, imagine the dark web? as for giving showing unrealistic ideals to people especially our youth i think its a major issue. i watched a doc where a teacher from holland lowest teenage pregnancy rate almost world wide sexual legal age 12, taught uk 15/16 yr olds and couldnt believe their lack of knowledge. we teach biology sperm meets egg, what a crock of shit, what about emotional connection, respect, how to touch another, turn another on, be sensual respectful, techniques how to give oral sex how to massage and explore the whole body, to give confidence and skills and the massive point of self respect and that same respect of others.. now so more than ever we should step up our game in this department to at least counteract the access of unrealistic porn out there... xx

[ChronicThinker]

All of it, the effortless cumming, the body standards, the lack of physical aftermath that comes as a result, the fact that what the person is doing either isn't actually arousing them or may even be painful. Etc.

[Markm3212]

for me the worst part is the way it is teaching young men to treat young ladies with such a lack of respect an visa versa how young ladies seem to think its normal that men treat them this way during sex. call me old fashioned but sex is about both of you enjoying yourself and a woman gaging on a guys cock can not be enjoyable? part of the pleasure of sex is you both enjoying it.

now i do like the fact that it has made the sex world a lot more open and willing to try anything more than the misionary position, but we have to respect that if our partner doesn't want to do it then thats the way it is. i guess that we are a lot more open to things these days but we also have to be realistic. not may girls want something in every hole at the same time as well as a guy cumming on her face and one on her tits lol.

[Markm3212]

most unrealistic thing about porn is the friends with befits part... now all i can say is that one of them will have feelings for the other and it always ends in trouble... also it is stopping us going out and looking for mr or miss right as we are getting our pleasure and dont need to look that hard and our standards go up and become unrealistic

[HalloPeoplz]

The lack of tears.

[MlleCake]

So true. So true.

[HalloPeoplz]

I feel ya

[partydelights]

So many has opinionated and are good, especially from the guys (probably porn experts :-) )

Let me offer illustrations to express my opinion:

1) Learning sex from porn is like learning driving from Fast n Furious.
You'll quickly go to heaven then drop to hell.

2) Movements in porn is like Hollywood Action movie.
They shoot, they kill, they destroy highways and buildings without accountability. If you have sex that way, you die single, alone and desperate.

3) Models in porn are like models for female products.
Beneath the thin shield of expensive foundation, they look like our uncles and aunties. So don't be infatuated and assume that your SO is as smooth and flawless as porn stars.

Real women have "imperfections" everywhere on their bodies. But those are again skin deep. The real thing about life is love, where porn never shows.

To conclude, there are some "realism" in porn, otherwise there will be bad plots and lack of story lines. But if you have to learn about sex, there are better sources.

[MlleCake]

I like your analogy.

[partydelights]

Thanks. I watch porn only to get an orgasm when I'm outstation. My wife watch porn to glean create sex ideas. But we don't watch porn together. Finally, I think porn stressed to much on sex and too little on lasting, loving relationships. But life is about love, compassion and contentment. We engage in sex to make love and have children, not fuck for the sake of fucking (pardon my terms). Life is more than that.

[Hedgehog278]

For one, the people in porn are young. In a committed relationship, people are going to grow old together.

[debi2622]

Let's see: the amount of cum, the amount/frequency of squirting/gushing. For some reason, mostly men, this all this is normal. And if they or the woman they are with don't produce all these results, then there is something wrong with themselves or the other. They don't know all it takes to make it look like that is all happening. Porn is fiction!!!

[sugarette]

That most porn actresses choose to be in the pornography industry, which isn't true.

[zombbey]

In my opinion watching porn has made my sex life kind of dull hahahahaha also I enjoy lesbian porn more than guy/girl porn.. and lesbian porn is the only porn that helps me climax.

[Kelly6]

I like lesbian porn and cuckquean porn or cuckcake porn

[prakhar_27]

I also love lesbian porn more, it feels so great

[Paris13]

lol The Fifth rate acting. xx

[SarahNicks90]

It fails to put the woman in a good light. She is meant to be degraded, she is expected to be able to do insane amounts of acts that a normal woman who isn’t a porn Star is trained to do with her body. It’s not porn itself necessarily that is unrealistic. A lot of it and it’s odd scenarios are incredibly realistic and doable. What is unrealistic is the average mans expectation of the real woman he is currently seeing and sleeping with. Most of us, even the pretty ones can’t compete with the image of porn. Porn makes regular “love-making” look boring and less exciting to the male. They need more stimulation, more variation and as a result nothing is ever enough for them. Putting a lot of pressure on the woman

[Bjorn526]

Everything. What is realist about porn would of been a better question in my opinion, because you would have to critically think about something, some similarity, about porn. I don’t see much of anything about porn, ranging from the physical, to the chemistry, to what else? Don’t know, It just never happens the way it is portrayed

[OlderAndWiser]

"Are you gonna ram your big fat cock in my pussy NOW?" she asked with desperation in her voice.

If a girl said that to me when we were between the sheets, I would laugh so hard I'd probably wet the bed.

[jcoldstream]

Well, since everyone has a different idea of what good sex is, it's hard to blame porn for creating unrealistic expectations. I can phone my boyfriend and be having hard, penetrative sex and a powerful orgasm within a couple of minutes. For other women, sex is part of a married relationship and they don't want instant sex.
One thing porn has given us, I hope, is the expectation that women will have sexual feelings and be happy to show them.

[Goodwifie]

First of all reverse cowgirl is freaking awesome well for me it is 💥.
The rest is just make believe.
Porn is the reason why so many guys have issues with the size of their member down stars.
Porn sets unrealistic expectations of sex and it should never be used as a tool for learning about the opposite sex and what they like.

[markscott]

What's unrealistic about porn? Just about everything.

[NJ_Casanova]

ALL of it.

PORN 3<5 BJs... but <1 Oral on her? BS.

Using only 4" of an 7+/-" cock... fake as FK. Seems like ALL only use 4"... GTFOH:-)

[Schrodingerscat]

I'm virgin but I always wondered this about women in porn:
- Women who have even skintone all over
- waxed genitals all time, no stray hair anywhere on body.
- do women really moan that much?

[Schrodingerscat]

Oooh yes and no single stretch mark. Not even faint one. I wondered how that is possible

[Grimwaldo]

I have an aunt who used to do makeup on porn sets. Apparently she put excessive amounts of concealer on their asshole for like three straight hours before the ass fucking scenes. So Ok... no. not even a little bit is that skin pigment thing legit.

[Schrodingerscat]

@Grimwaldo dang it. Doesn't concealer get smudged during the... act? Sounds like a lot of work

[Grimwaldo]

Tbh I never asked too many questions. But there's a lot of touching up involved and she said something about spraying tough skin over the makeup so it wouldn't move.

[ZeussLightningBolt]

Most of the time the moaning is fake. As for the other stuff, that's just the idealised image of what that country's society considers a beautiful woman to look like. I have seen a few hairy porn stars but not that many. I'm a virgin as well, but I always hear that real sex is NOTHING like porn sex

[cosmicc]

Literally everything lol but porn isn't actually good for your mind either way. Lots of studies shoes that it can rewire your brain and fuck up your morals. Such as watching gay porn it bestiality... Even soft version of CP like an adult extremely petite women role playing as a child the daddy/little girl thing... Even tho you are gay or into animals of children. Your brain got bored of your original turn ons and wants a new perverted simulation.

Discovered porn when was 11 and never watched it since.

[nxlinax]

I hate how the girls are always so sterotypic and how the boys are always trying to cum on her face.. its annoying

[A_Bell]

I really don't understand the appeal, but if it helps set the mood for him, I am not offended.

Personally, I like more sensuous stimulation to get in the mood than being overwhelmed with over the top visual stimulation.

[MriPibbXtra]

I believe everything from the ass, boobs, face, body weight, the fake moans and pleasure, the role plays obviously and the viagra to make a guy go for so long.

[slatyb]

You mean like other fictional movies where the good guy dispatches 100 guys with guns using only his fists, or a call girl marries a billionaire?

[Duke07]

Honestly porn cause so many bad issues. Its been linked to so many mental illness. Of course simple put anything in moderation is ok and self discipline. I feel people use it as an excuse though instead of excepting responsibility for there own actions. But thats just my take on it.