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Does body count really matter and why?

GUYS AND GIRLS. Does body count matter? When dating someone new do you judge their body count. If so why does or doesn’t it matter?
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  • When a girl tells me she's got a high count, it's good and bad. Good cause you know if you do get laid. You are gonna have one fun trip to candy land. But bad cause she's probably had better then you, and no guy likes to hear that lol. For relationship purposes, higher count higher probability of being emotionally baggaged, but possibly might be past all that and won't care emotionally as a low count would. Preference for myself as girls going berserk over a cup of milk and the blinds being up gets on my nerves lol

    • I didn't know that there are others who don't like sexual past of your partner because of the fact that he/she probably had better than you and you're not the best for them. Like, if they had so much sex in the past you are nothing unique for them, right? People have been calling me immature for saying that

    • No it's a real thing lol, if sex was always good all the time. We wouldn't have to find ways to spice it up. Like I got with a girl once. Was pretty normal for sex, I thought it was great. But she confessed later that it was alright. But boring. She's had more then enough normal sex for it not to bring that excitement. We tried other stuff and she was right. I was missing out lol. Not that I would pass up normal sex, but from then on, i know what I want. It's just finding someone willing that's the hard part 😅

  • Well of it matters then those porn stars should be shamed for life lol. It doesn't matter unless you get an STD. Then you would say "if I didn't sleep around with so many people then maybe I wouldn't of gotten this disease". That's when it matters. I honestly wouldn't care if she's a virgin or if she slept with a bunch of people. Doesn't matter. That was in the past and all we need to worry about is the present and the future.

    • You can get an STD after banging just one person though

    • @kittycat119 welp leave that up to chance. That's the risk you take having unprotected sex.

    • Kissing also can give you and STD

Most Helpful Girls

  • It doesn't matter to me no. They're past was before me and not my business who they did or didn't sleep with before I cake into the picture. All that matters is they're not sleeping with someone while with me

    • So why do you think that women especially, get judged for having a high body count?

    • Because guys now a days and women just wanna shame people 4 stuff. And women are easy people 2 insult and bash because most won't do anything

    • I agree here with what she's saying about a lot of guys now. It's also just a shitty social stereotype that people have made basically saying that guys are encouraged for having high counts where ladies are bashed on if they've been with more than just a few people.

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  • It matters a lot to me. I’m a virgin and I’ve never been with anyone before, and I want a partner that’s the same way because I want to have our first experiences together.

    • It would be bad if you had been with someone as you’re 15

    • Yeah, I agree

    • @lamagoodguy Why's that, my first time I was 14

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  • I honestly thought you were talking about murder here. I'd be worried about STDs if my partner has had many partners in the past but it'd be fine, I guess.

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  • yeah its a red flag. but the secular world's values see everything in reverse/perverse. they think higher is better.

  • YES it matters. Let me explain the four big reasons why it matters to a man when dealing with a woman. Buckle up, this is gonna take a while.


    1) Men and Women are both biologically hardwired to be attracted and disgusted by certain things. It just so happens that one of the things we guys are instinctively disgusted by are promiscuous women as our girlfriend and/or wife. That's just our nature, just like how it's in a woman's nature to look for a man who can provide and protect. Now when it comes to just sex, they won't care, but a committed relationship is a whole different ballpark.


    2) Stats show that the higher a woman's body count, the more likely she will initiate breakups and divorces. AND it's more likely she will have mental problems down the long run. You lose your ability to pair bond with every new sexual partner you have, and that's what helps relationships work through tough times... or in general.


    3) When you (a woman) are in a relationship with a man, you are becoming a representation of that man, whether you know it or not. That means that what you say or do is gonna affect him to. So therefore, if you're a hoe, or you say or do some crazy and stupid stuff, not only are you putting yourself in a bad light, but you're putting your boyfriend/husband in a bad light. Because everyone is gonna be like, "This crazy girl is his?" or "This hoe is who he is taking seriously?" That is embarrassing for any man, even if he won't admit it to others or himself.


    4) THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT REASON. There is a reason why since the dawn of time, men have demanded that the women they take seriously are virgins. Not all guys nowadays want virgins now, but still want lower body counts from the woman they take seriously. And the reason why is because they want to ensure paternity. I assume I would be correct if I were to say that a deep dark fear for a lot of women is being r@ped in a dark alley by some creep. That deep feeling of fear that you get, the male equivalent to that, is when he busts his ass, investing his blood, sweat, and tears into raising a child, and then finding out one day that the kid was never his. That's why guys have an issue with taking promiscuous women seriously. Because if you take a promiscuous woman seriously, and she gets pregnant, there's a good chance that child may not be yours.

  • It matters a lot to me. I’d rather not date someone who has been a slut at any point in their life

  • It matters in that I would want the girl I'm dating to have a very low body count.

  • Yeah it maters, and no one can change it no mater how many times they try to deny it or find sad excuses to it. I'll sleep with a virgin knowing she has very likely no STD. But I would not ghost her, I'd actually want her as a wife.

    I would not sleep with someone who had multiple partners as the risk of an STD is just way too damn high. Anything about 1 is a no and should count always for both genders.

  • Nope, I don't really care about sexual history as long as you're loyal and true to me.

  • Body count? Are you a trained killer looking for another trained killer? Is this a thing?

  • Never kiss and tell. EVER.
    And yes it matters, you can't ride the cock-carousel for ten years without there being consequences. So don't squander your youth.

  • If high it’s a turnoff because she comes off as easy and I feel somewhat dirty and disgusted

  • Only matters if you plan to have unprotected sex.

  • Circumstances matter more.

    • Please elaborate if you can. Examples?

    • Let’s say in order to get her large body count she does one of the following: Betrays her partner by having sex outside of the relationship Does wild nights on the weekends where she drinks heavy and then has intercourse with over five guys in one night Only has sex in relationships but goes through boyfriends like toilet paper because she gets bored

    • Realistically a women requires a large body count because many females are sexually active by 17. Most women have a lot more sex than men like to think they do. And it just builds up over the years. There are exceptions but most women aren’t really out here sleeping with 5 guys in a night. They just have many different sexual partners over the span of 1- a few years...

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  • It only matters to the individual that's counting

    • Yes I’m asking, does it matter to you. Would you take it into consideration while dating?

    • no I would not. A potential S/O past is none of my business

  • No. Nobody's business

    • So say a man comes to you and his body count is 40... you’d still give him a chance?

    • Sure

    • And then you catch and STD

  • I personally think it does only when the other person's is so incredibly high with different people each time. If he or she has just hopped from one body to the next over and over again then that could be a red flag. But if you're an adult whos just experienced and has been with a few people, that's no issue.

    • How high is too high though?

    • Taking into consideration that everyone had a different sex drive

    • Yes everyone's sex drive is different but I'm talking about those people who would literally fully date like 4 people at once just to get it whenever they wanted it. I can't really think of an exact number but to me there's a difference between high sex drive and purposely trying to raise your body count. Me personally, I have a pretty high sex drive but I've only been with less than 10 different people. But there's others that were at ten people within a week or two and that's when it's a bit much.

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  • Well I would find it awkward to google my partner's name and find a list of dudes she fucked with.

    • future addition for google

  • Yes, high is good.

  • I dont care about it at all, we all have our pasts

  • It honestly does. I've lost of lot of muscle mass, just by eating less and I'm getting less attention from girls. When I had my muscle mass body the girls were everywhere

    • I mean the amount of people someone has slept with

    • U prob slept with 10o by now

  • Nah. Everybody has a past. Some people have their fun in their youth and that may lead to a higher count. Some people are sheltered and have lower counts. But that doesn't tell you much about a person's character.

  • I don't think so...

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