Is sex/pussy all women have to give?

Question

It seems that men have more to barter with when it comes to attracting women, such as their status, personality, money, and ambition, while women only have sex or their pussy to use as their main item for bartering. In my observation, it seems that men do not care about a woman’s status/occupation as much as men do. An attractive woman working at a gas station is essentially the same as an attractive woman who works as a high class lawyer. Women do not have to be interesting, charismatic, funny, successful, ambitious, confident, or daring to get dick, they just have to exist and have a baseline of attractiveness. I believe this is due to evolutionary biology, which is why women put so much time and effort into their appearance, makeup, weight, hair, and their overall physical, as compared to men. Men focus on being dominant, resourceful, protective, competitive, charismatic, and pretty much a plethora of NON-physical traits.

nightdrot · Accepted Answer

Ordinarily I would not say this, but this is an Idiotic question. Let me tell you about what my girlfriend gives me.

That she is there - ALWAYS - when I need her. That she can sense - just sense - when I am worried or tense, and she will just hold me and make me feel loved and safe.

That she is never harsh. She can make her point known when she needs to, but it is never cruel and rarely involves raising her voice. Indeed, in those moments when I get on my high horse - and I do that a lot - she just rolls her eyes, smiles at me and kisses me on the cheek.

That she gives herself to me - fully and unconditionally - when we have sex. Whether it is romantic or wild, she shares herself with me and understands my needs. The sex is always fantastic - in no small measure because it is with her.

That she loved me so much and so unconditionally that she gave her body to me and gave me the gift of three beautiful babies. That she has never been anything - with all that she has to do with work and taking care of her fourth child (that's me) - other than the most kind and loving and patient mother.

That she is my partner. She stands with me and when her parents - in the early days when we decided to live together and not get married - criticized me she never once wavered. She told me she loved me and that she would always support me. To this day she has never wavered.

When I am not at my best, she forgives me. When we argue, she never lets the day end without telling me that she loves me. Oh, and when I apologize, she never rubs my nose in it. Rather she thanks me for caring about what she thinks.

Because she always tries to look her best for me. Because she thinks it shows me love and respect.

Because, candidly, when I am sick, she babies me. No doubt I try her patience to the limit. (I am a VERY bad patient.) However, she just takes care of me.

Because in my darkest moment, she understood and she forgave me - even when I could not forgive myself.

The list goes on. I will never know what I did so right to have in my life such a beautiful woman. I got better than I ever deserved and I will never be able to repay her what she has given me. All I can do is love her and care for her and our children and hope that she knows that I cannot live without her and that I am trying every day in my ham handed ten thumbed way to earn her love and respect.

That's what a woman has to give when you care to look.

NineBreaker · Accepted Answer

I agree that evolutionary biology may be a factor in this, but there is a more important factor: the child bearing age window. Women's fertility is strongly associated with youth and age. All of these physical enhancements that women undertake are an attempt to exaggerate physical traits associated with successful child bearing and rearing. For us men, it's a different paradigm: The older you are, the more experienced and wise you become practically without any decrease in feeling, as he can conceive practically at any age after puberty.

Even when we don't want to have children, our brains are hardwired to be attracted to traits that increase the likelihood for women to have children, and for men to provide for them. It's more about procreation than anything else.

lilaqua · Accepted Answer

Hmm I don't know about this. I think both just fall over each other for attractive people in general, but at least with attractive men, women generally care less about personality when dating them whilst men see attractive women as a good lay, but they'll be more wary about them in relationships. I know girls who fall at the knees of some bloke who's just good looking but has a shockingly boring personality. I've always been confused as to why me, as a an average looking yet semi-interesting person, with fairly obscure taste tends to have a very high rate of men wanting to date me as opposed to very gorgeous women with more "normal" sensibilities who gets a lot more male sex-only attention but less dating prospects. Men, from what I can gather, want someone who they can have a conversation with, someone to be a companion and being good looking can only offer so much. I find that as much this happens, men have a lot more lee-way with compensating for looks, but if you're not attractive as a women you're basically fucked, what i'm saying is personality is somewhat of a driver.

navyrobin · Accepted Answer

Only dumb men do this. I’m not saying looks shouldn’t matter, but if he only has good looks as his criteria for a girlfriend, he is bound to be heartbroken.

Pretty girls come in all shapes and sizes on the inside. If she’s pretty, and has nothing else to offer, she is VERY likely to attract women who ALSO have nothing interesting to offer.

Men who claim “women are gold-diggers” are the same men who don’t take personality into account.

MOST men I know over the age of 21-25 do seek for personality as well.

Your questions are pretty strange because it makes a big deal out of a stereotype that isn’t even true.

If men only sought after looks, women would have it so easy. Cheating behind his back, taking his money, etc. It would be too easy to use men. But they have brains too, you know.

Catholicgirl22 · Accepted Answer

It's easy as he'll for a woman to "get dick" but it's a hell of a lot harder for a woman to keep a man if she has little to offer other than sex. Like a guy is less likely to committ to a serious relationship or marraige than a woman is. That's why most women are very selective of the men they sleep with and aren't willing to give it up easily because long term they want a guy who is charismatic, funny, successful, ambitious, confident and daring.
If all a woman has to give a potential husband is sex/pussy then chances are she will always be single and used by men for sex, end up as some wealthy guys trophy wife and treated like crap or have to settle for the first guy willing to marry her.
@PoliceLivesMatter picture the woman you want to one day marry and tell me if all she has to offer you is sex?

PrincessPie · Accepted Answer

come on lol 😂 we have personality’s and can be very interesting people you know, plus some men have literally nothing to offer yet still some how manage to get a girlfriend because they’re attractive or good looking, it works both ways more than you think

partydelights · Answer

You're using a small pool of population to judge the whole.

No, not true.

Women can be sexual being as mug as men could be loving.

Not all of each gender are promiscuous. In fact, many still married as virgins even nowadays.

PS: chaste guys and girls don't visit sex forums. So what you hear are the loud ones in a small circle.

CountessSarah · Answer

It's womens fault that men have low standards.

Wally48 · Answer

Gene, on a purely primal level, yes.
Man provides dick (strong body/good looks indicate healthy offspring), and security (shelter, food, and protection)
Woman provides pussy (strong body/good looks indicate capable child bearing and post natal care), and support to the hunter gatherer.

But if you're selective, a woman can provide much, much more than that. At 23 I was working at a large fast growing aerospace company, and I thought to myself, why date secretaries when I can date engineers? They're just as attractive, are more interesting to talk to, and make a Hell of a lot more money. And there was a steady supply of college hire female engineers arriving weekly. Awesome hunting grounds for high functioning, fertile females.
After dating many, I finally settled on a MIT Physics major, former NCAA swimmer, and T-Mo network engineer. I'm pretty sure she is smarter than me, but I'm not threatened by it. I can do things she can't. She's turned out to be an outstanding wife (of 36 years), and exemplary mother to two beautiful, accomplished kids. So in addition to the higher level accomplishments, she was a natural for the primal stuff too.
So I don't believe you really think "an attractive woman working at a gas station is essentially the same as an attractive woman who works as a high class lawyer." From my time at GaG you're too much of an intellectual to not want an intellectual peer.

But to support your case, It looks like my son is going to marry a HS graduate. He's a Deputy District Attorney, and makes low six figures; pretty good for a 29yo. She works as a hospital admitting clerk. He's 6'4." She is 5'4" very sweet and totally hot. I don't think he gives a shit how much money she makes. Although we haven't discussed it, I think what's important to him is someone to love him for who he is and get him off.

Izumiblu · Answer

Ask any man that has been in a long term successful relationship and ask them if their partner only offered pussy.

LittleSally · Answer

That depends on the man - what he's seeking... So you've told us a LOT more about men here... than about any woman...  Nice to hear it from you. =)

Salsacumbia · Answer

Woman and man are all thesame to me. I think anyways.

AlphaGhost · Answer

I don't agree 100% with you on this cuz in the past, they used to offer many things apart from sex but now its all about her looks. There are woman out there that will still in 21st century offer you... things other than vagina but you gota find it first.

Some_Goof · Answer

I agree to some extent. Its ingrained in men to view women as mere child bearer, and nurturer. Nothing wrong with it, as you said its due to evolutionary biology.

But in this age, men do need more than pussy if they're planning to share a life with their SO. You can't live life with someone who lacks substance or with someone you're not compatible with, just because they have a pussy.

shreya_shiry · Answer

It's easy for us to get a guy but not easy to keep him with us

CarpetDenim · Answer

They have a lot more to offer than that to a guy who wants more than a hookup.

VaIiant · Answer

They have a lot more to offer if the guy wants a relationship, and not a hook up. Can’t believe you asked this PLM.

CubsterShura · Answer

Any man who believes that a woman is an object who only can give sex do not deserve any woman. Might as well have sex with animals then cause they also have vaginas. 😒😒😒

Celtero · Answer

Yeah, pretty much. The problem is too many guys tolerate it and will do so much for that smelly wet hole.

pitzi · Answer

Yes lololol

JDavid25 · Answer

I actually do love a charismatic, slightly dominant, wants to be successful woman.. But I do see yo point in a way.. It's not wrong.. But I don't feel it tells the entire story.. That's more if a man wanna get down on a woman.. Not if he wanna marry her, and have nice convos wit her, and build a life wit her.. Lol.. That doesn't apply to men who are lookin for a life long friend as well as a partner..