Why does my boyfriend talk to his female coworker about our sex life?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend (24) and I (24) have been having some issues with our sex life. He has a slew of health problems, along with a pinched nerve, that causes it to be difficult for him to maintain an erection. I have been EXTREMELY patient and understanding, and I comfort him about it. He told me he spoke with his coworker about the issue we've been having. His coworker is an older woman, probably in her 50s. When I told him this bothered me, he got really upset with me and told me that it's "his business" and "she is one of my best friends, she even drove me to the emergency room when I was sick at work".
Then he said that because he can't talk to his mom about his issues, he thinks he's using is coworker as an outlet.
I just moved out of my home state to be with him and now I'm starting to wonder if it was a mistake and whether I should go back home. I'm honestly terrified of getting hurt again. I know he wouldn't like it if I were to discuss our sex life with one of my male friends.
Should I continue to let this bother me?

[DigitalArchon]

Its odd to think about where he even got the idea to talk to an older woman about it to begin with. kind of strange but hey.

I wouldn't let it bother you, Unless you think he is gonna leave you for a woman twice his age over a woman who is his age I wouldn't. Its fucking weird that he is talking to a 50+ year old woman about it, but I doubt she poses any kind of threat. It would be worry some if she was around your guys' age though. chances are he doesn't want to talk to men about having ED, because its embarrassing and emasculating so thats why its a woman and not a man. (men dont want to look weak or impotent infront of other men)

he probably just feels like he needs to get it off his chest. and even though you are there for him, maybe he feels like you are obliged to do it, and dont really want to. so he found someone who isn't obligated to him to get maybe an unbiased opinion. If that makes sense.

[ScaryCool]

Hey I think you're getting too worried about it. I don't think he responded the best but honestly, I talk to older women coworkers for advice sometimes because they can look back and give me ideas at what was going through their minds when they were younger. She probably helps him understand you better when going through and issue or reassurance from an outside party. Like maybe he was worried your patience would run out so he asked the coworker her thoughts on it too to see if another woman would respond the same. I wouldn't think of it as trying to go behind your back by any means.

[Anonymous]

I suggest you move back hind. If he doesn’t value your opinions he doesbr value you

[madgoat]

You don't talk about sensitive subject with anyone?

[gunducci]

OK, I think you could be a bit more understanding about this. Cut the guy some slack, he's probably very unhappy with himself that he's not able to satisfy his partner, not to mention the health issues. If the guy needs to vent, let him be.
On the other hand, he does need to respect your opinion too.
Just politely let him know, and just observe his reaction.
If it really bothers him then please bear with it. Help him heal. If he looks and sounds casual about it, then make a stronger case for yourself.

[pizzalovershouse]

no we usely need sum 1 vlise to talk about this to usely a very clise friend

[jakeofalltrades]

I think you are over reacting.

[BOUNTYGUY9]

shit face

[Eleventy]

Because it helps him and he sees that specific woman as the right person to talk to. She's 50, there's no chance of anything happening between him and her. I think you need to reevaluate your frustration and consider that maybe you're being irrational in your thinking.

[masterkamasutra]

he is anymore useful for you?

[1971damo]

Don't let it bother you guys often talk about all types of insecurities with colleagues x

[dascrey]

Honestly, I support you. Some issues are not for the general public. That is why we have medical professionals. As I being a man that suffered from pinched nerve that caused poor performance, I know how frustrating it is. I would have never turned to a female coworker for advise. My wife at the time would have been furious.

[redskins52690]

Maybe he is searching for advice from a person with 50 years of wisdom and life lessons because he truly wants to make it work with you. He can probably tell ur almost ready to give up.