Is my husband not into me sexually anymore?

[Anonymous]

I had a talk with my husband about our sex life. I felt neglected in that department, so when I brought it up his reason was because he works during the week and he feels like it drains him, but he masterbates during the week? He doesn't like to kiss or show affection as much as he used to. His reason is because he's not the affectionate type. Not to mention that when he masterbates he looks at other women (porn pictures) and he's able to get hard, but when its me I don't seem to get the same affect. I could be naked and nothing. I also can't seem to get him in the mood like ever. I know most girls can do some shit and their man gets hard , but with my husband nothing. If I asked for sex he'd get mad. Tells me to get off or stop. To get him in the mood I've have tried giving him bjs, but he's more invested in the game he's playing then me. He also told me that when we DO do it I'm too into it, but I thought he was too until he mentioned it. Is sex more draining to men? Am I not enough for him anymore?

[partydelights]

(Speaking as a married man and am prepared for a thumbs down... )

I had my "dry" days and work stress was an issue.

Apart from that, porn.

Next in the list, I call it the "familarity itche". This is when sex becomes mundane and lost its novelty after years of marriage.

I faced "dry season" contributed from both myself and my wife.

When wife was the "issue" this was what I did:

1) research and find articles related to the "benefits of daily sex" and "how to make love, not just have sex"

2) increase number of tea and dates with her

3) keep stressing i want to keep the marriage

4) and the best way to keep it is to "fall in love" again.

5) during those sessions, I brought out my research articles and share with her.

It took me more than 6 months to be successful. But we made it, twice in out life. (I'll save the embarrassing writing when I was the issue.)

Well wishes.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he’s bored. I’m not really interested in sex anymore with my wife (only been married a couple of years). We are sexually incompatible. I’m kinky, sexually open minded and have fetishes whereas she is conservative. She doesn’t try and surprise me sexually or use my fetishes in the bedroom. I want a woman who loves to dress in latex and buy new lingerie and surprise me in it, send me sexy pics when I’m not at home (not nudes but her in dress and latex stockings and heels, etc). Just someone who tries to tease and be sexy in that way. I feel like I’m always disappointed and sexually frustrated. I want a woman who will talk dirty to me in the bedroom, tie me up and have her way with me, etc.

[Anonymous]

he is ADDICTED to porn, i feel sorry for you. :(

[Opinion Owner]

I guess 2 people don’t believe porn addiction is real. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news. It is

[summiter]

He has some issues. Maybe try masturbating next to each other while watching some soft porn? How old is he? Are you having any sex at all with him? If so is it frequent?

[summiter]

I also forgot to mention... get some good sex toys... you deserve some great orgasms also!!

[xButterflyKisses87x]

Porn isn't likely going to help if he definitely has an addiction which it sounds like he does... Explaining my answer. Especially if your the one that thumbed my answer down

[summiter]

@xButterflyKisses87x I did not thumb it down... I think he has some issues and it is ot going to get better... maybe some counseling together> How old is he?

[Asker]

He just turned 21

[Asker]

I try to have ot twice a week but he barley wants to do that much.

[bunny29]

You are enough for him all you have to work porn fornt of him and start self satisfying he will get jealous and you will get him back

[xButterflyKisses87x]

Porn isn't likely going to help if he definitely has an addiction which it sounds like he does... Explaining my answer. Especially if your the one that thumbed my answer down

[bunny29]

Why should i dislike your opinion You gave opinion base on what you feel

[xButterflyKisses87x]

Wasn't sure... Some people don't believe that porn addiction exists and will deny it, just giving what I thought from what she described

[bunny29]

Even someone thumbed down my opinion too

[xButterflyKisses87x]

Yeah I just seen that!

[bunny29]

I was a porn addicted too i had full 1 tb hard disk full of porn videos but i get rid of that

[xButterflyKisses87x]

Ouch that is a lot and good job!

[Asker]

Have tried masterbating front of him, but he just tells me "do you really need to do this here?" Or "Do that els where."

[readywriter]

This is a problem but I bet sex isn't the only thing wrong. Has your appearance changed in recent years? Has there been physical or mental injury? Are you fighting? Is alcohol involved. Nothing will shrink a dick like alcohol. And medicine will definitely do it as well.
Work pressure can sure do it. Espically if work performance is tied to paying big bills like a mortgage.
Also ask him if you can jack him off for him. Falling out of love is a problem but it is probably the very last one.

[Asker]

I have changed at all.