My boyfriend watches gay porn?

Question

My boyfriend and I live together and have been for about 6 months. There is no doubt in my head that I am completely in love with this man, I have never had a guy that cared so much about me... but tonight I found gay porn and shemale porn on his phones web history. When we first started living together we had sex almost every night and even during the day but that has all but come to a complete stop and we maybe have sex 3 times a month. At first, I kinda understood why he has an 11-year-old daughter and she now throws a fit if she hears anything or thinks that we are fooling around to the point of stomping around the house and throwing things... but it seems like we never get the chance even if she's at school because he's either to busy working his friends are over or something gets in the way of us being alone... Then I started to notice that when we do have sex I don't always get him to finish... I don't want to ask him about it because I'm terrified of him breaking up with me, or him thinking I am judging him. What do I do? Is he gay? What can I do to please him if thats what he is into? If he does love me like he says then I want to make him happy and satisfy his needs but how?

OfDeath · Accepted Answer

I don't think he's gay. It sounds like a case of porn addiction.
This can cause erectile dysfunction and also prevent the train from arriving at the proverbial station if you know what I mean.

It's a progressive kind of addiction. The way it works is that at first even just still pictures of women will suffice and then it gradually gets more hardcore until you're up to like shemale watersports or something.
So jacks off to all this crap (probably cause the pair of you can't find a chance to be alone enough) and doesn't have any apples left in the proverbial basket to give to you so to speak.

But he could in fact be bi-curious.

Sociopathvictim · Accepted Answer

if you get turned on by guy on guy action, ask him if he would agree to turning you on by fooling about with another man whilst you watch.

E. g. 69ing a man and swallowing.
Giving a man a BJ
Man giving anal sex with to him

Tell him that if he agrees to it, you will allow him to have a threesome with her and another girl :) and any sexual favours he wants for 1yr
(The 11yr old girl is cute lol stomping.. thats mean to let her hear you moan) Organise hookups with him so he commits to it and push his buttons so he's begging you for sex.

soupfairy · Accepted Answer

yeah he might be - not straight. he has a daughter, so apparently he can finish with a woman. but there must be some fluidity to his sexual identity. that being said I would be much more concerned about what is going on with the daughter. it seems like there is no telling what she has been exposed to.