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What can I do to make my boyfriend cum during a blowjob?

My boyfriend claims he "cant cum from getting head". I dont know why he says it, either its true or he needs to recieve it for a longer time. But I try my hardest to get him to cum but it takes so long. I could be giving him oral for 20 minutes and he still will say he isn't even close to coming. But he does say he likes it, when I ask if Im doing anything wrong or right he says I do everything right. He moans, he grabs the bedsheets, begs for more, gives me compliments on my skills (like he said "god damn your good as hell), he has coached me on doing exactly what he likes, I always keep my mouth super wet, I try to continue deep throating but when I feel like I might throw up I will still go as deep as possible, I enjoy giving it, I have learned some tricks on making it better, and yet he has never came from oral sex. The most he has ever done was beg for more or once he said "I dont cum from blowjobs but this is starting to get to me". Its as if he has it set in his head that he is never going to cum from oral sex. Also, when he really seems to enjoy it most he will want to stop and have sex rather than for me to keep going. Its like he thinks he can only cum from having sex alone. Is it true or could I be doing something wrong?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I never came from head either.
    A big reason is that the male orgasm happens (best) when there is a very steady rhythm stimulating the tip. "Deep throating" is nit such a big deal because all that does is simulate the experience of being in the warm wet snug vagina. During intercourse, it is the tip being touched and stimulated that causes excitement and orgasm.

    Keep in mind, all the best BJs are also a bit of hand job as well so don't be afraid to give your mouth a break and use your fingers.

    And don't forget the balls! They get lonely and are STARVING for female attention.

    Google "Fellucia Blow" and STUDY those videos. Those women are experts at fellatio and genuinely love it. The sensuous BJ really is best both for the guy and for the woman. Watch and notice how easily they do it yet aren't choking or getting sick. And watch how they switch between mouth and fingers.

    Also, look into videos for:

    A) lingam massage (tantric massage for the male genitalia)
    B) yoni massage (tantric massage for the female genitalia - he should return the favor... 😉)

  • Men can use their brains to not ejaculate. 20 min isn't unheard of for me if I start doing math in my head. Main thing is men are visually turned on so if he can't see your naked body it won't initiate a response. Try getting him physically interested with a dance first. Another thing I've noticed is that deep throating isn't as important as creatively using the tounge on the head of the penis and using your lips to cover the edges of your teeth so there's no pain response covering up the positive sensation. I do think it has more to do with him not being able to look at you naked than anything else.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Teabag him also and touch his nipples wear a sexy outfit that is Black or red Learn about his fantasies does he like being submissive or dominant?

  • He might not be attracted to you or enjoy them as much as he's saying. If he did he'd dum at some point if it felt good enough

    • It takes him a long time cum from sex as well. Like it takes him 40 minutes or more from sex. Also he always stares at me during sex and bjs and comments on how good i look so I don't know. Why lie? You know

    • Because he doesn't wanna hurt your feelings

    • I already told him my feelings wouldn't be hurt by him telling me what he wants and likes. So now I do those things that he said and he always says I do everything perfectly but yet he doesn't cum. I honestly dont think its the attracted thing because he persued me heavily just because he was attracted to me and i may not be the prettiest girl on earth but im oretty confident that I at least look good to my boyfriend as well as myself. But as for him saying its all so great and always begging me to give him bjs then why wouldn't he like it. Like why beg for them if you dont like them from me?

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  • you should give him a prostate massage while you're giving him a blow job.

  • Quick fix: have him stand while you kneel. Let him use his hand so he can control the pace. Optional: where a sleep eye mask while giving bj. (You can take it off when he is past the point of no return.) He may feel self conscious so if you can't watch him he may be more free to go for it.

  • Try to get as much in your mouth as you can. Stroke him while sucking. Lick his balls while jerking him off. Mix it all up. That combination definitely makes me cum.

  • It’s because u r not good at it

    • Ha I literally read your user name as "the rapist tiana" 😂😂😂

    • Oc 😭

  • He probably watched a lot of porn

  • You will need to milk him with your hand too. Try other stuff that might get him super turned on and cumming more quickly. Play with his ass, squeeze his balls. Tie him up; I once tied a girl up and she got so turned on by that she came very quickly.
    Alternatively, really draw it out. Tie him to a chair and edge him for hours. Eventually, he will cum.

  • Usually the tip of the dick is the most sensitive place so rub it there and don't forget to use your HANDS, it's really weird tho because i usually cum in about 3-5 minutes max, so yeah I don't know about your boyfriend...

  • som guys just don't bust from a blowjob, this is normal. And like you say he loves it so you're doing a good job

  • Seriously? Give him a good blow job that will do it.

    • Whats a good blowjob to you

    • One that makes me cum.

  • I never had before I was 36. My wife is amazing and she couldn't get me there at first, but she started finishing me that way when I was close from sex. I guess my body got used to it. She still can't get me there from start to finish all the time but she can sometimes now.

  • Maybe he doesn’t want to tell u that u r not giving him a good bj

  • Bring him to my gf! Lol

  • Wax on

    Wax off

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    • @therapisttiana are you thottiana?

    • What makes you think that?

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  • get rougher, find spots where he gets most pleasure from, moan, change rhythm, change position of his cock in your mouth

  • Slip a finger around his ass then in

  • Put u Hand on his Penis and pull the skin down. Your lips should get down and up where his glans begins. If it not work, ask him he that he don't cm for four days (no pon :-) then try again

  • Don't "suck" at it! I'll show myself out.

  • It sounds to me like he's got a 'retarded ejaculation' problem, especially as you say he takes more than 40 mins to cum when he has sexual intercourse !

    And to all those male AND female GAG members who have said it's probably bc you're not good at it, and the girl who said he probably doesn't find you attractive, tell them to go get a life !

  • Only one woman has ever made me cum through oral. Most women have no skill and can't get me off through oral. Don't worry about it.

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