Boyfriend won’t return the favour?

Question

I always give my boyfriend blowjobs but he never returns the favour.. he even has stopped fingering me.. what should I do

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Honest opinion: confront him. Don't let him out of that conversation. Withhold blowjobs, heck withhold sex until you come to a conclusion.

If he still refuses, you need to give him an ultimatum. Explain the unfairness of the situation.

If he continues to refuse, break up with him.

Now, you might think that I'm being too harsh, that I'm overvaluing sex in a relationship, and that it would be petty to dump him over that. It's not.

This isn't just about you. This is about your rights and women's rights as a whole. He is not unique at all. Many men believe that they are superior, that their needs come first in the bedroom, and that women don't really need or feel pleasure. This is a product of a history of societal standards, but a combination of all of those mindsets has pushed him to deny you what you want in the bedroom because he doesn't value a woman's pleasure. Why would you want to be in a relationship with a man that looks at women that way? It could translate to other aspects, and that is a terrible place to be.

fanggirl5 · Accepted Answer

Oooh girl, try talking to him about your needs. If he doesn't listen break up with him. He's being very selfish and trust me I've been there, you don't want to be in a relationship with a guy like that. You have needs too

JanuaryCanine · Accepted Answer

Stop giving him Blow jobs until he returns the favor. Also speak to him about it too, he might not know your feelings on this.

SaltyBooze · Accepted Answer

ask him to do it. if he doesn't want to do it, its up to him to tell you, and you got to respect his decision (in the same way that if you want to stop giving him blowjobs he has to accept that as well). then you gotta decide how important oral sex and foreplay is to your life. if you can put up with not having it... finally decide your sex life on that choice. best of luck and try staying safe!
oh... before i go... there's some cases when the personal hygiene can get on the way. ask him bluntly about it and try not to feel bad if he complains to you about smell or general unhygiene levels. smell is usually ok (every vagina has their own particular smell) but if you're lacking on the hygiene down there... then you better ask your ginecologist for tips. oh... some smells might be an underlying health issue.
but mostly it sounds like he doesn't care/think you dont care. so communication is a key.
again! best of luck and stay safe!

truthbeknown · Accepted Answer

Simple answer, you break up. Guys either love this and do it unconditionally, or they don't. If find yourself with a guy who doesn't go down, he just naturally isn't into it. You can do everything possible, talk and compromise to get him to do it, but he will never do it enthusiastically and it will always be a struggle and therefore your pleasure will suffer. Also, after time he will only go back to not doing it again. So I say it's better to just dump him now.

TPI93 · Answer

Stop giving him head. If he can't return the favor then why should he be getting anything.

potatoismee · Answer

Stop giving him blowjobs. Make him realize it's either gonna be a give and take or nothing.

pixie_xoxo · Answer

Dump his stupid ass. If he wants to be that selfish, then find someone who isn't that stuck up and move on from this idiot

Astraea · Answer

He sounds like a loser.

Berethor · Answer

Well most guys don't like to be submissive, as for fingering I am not sure.

boggboss · Answer

Stop giving him head for free if he won't return the favour

slatyb · Answer

Find a different guy who is more giving.

TadCurious · Answer

Tell him he needs to step up his sex game. You deserve to feel sexual pleasure just as much as he does.

Sociopathvictim · Answer

does your pussy smell bad?

Johnnie1000 · Answer

If he will not go down on you ask for the reason. If it;s not personal to you he may just not like it. Then decide how important it is to you. Act accordingly.