Do you think you're a sexual late-bloomer?

[MlleCake]

How do you feel about this video about being a sexual late bloomer?

[Anonymous]

Why does she bug her eyes out so much ha. Why does a person have to share with someone they date or worry about a relationship and if they are experienced and how said person would feel? She makes it like some people who were late bloomers chose it. Maybe more so women because or religions or repression, but guys it would just be lack of confidence, social anxiety, social awkwardness, etc, but always wanted sex bad. You know what erases this problem? Not settling down or getting a relationship if a late bloomer and sowing one's oats and get back that experience they missed earlier. So one will have experience when they meet someone special. If I was a late bloomer, my ego would not be settled with having been with just a few women and despite the drought before that, that late to being a late bloomer or not much experience. I'd probably man whore it up in short time and redeem things especially compared to men who had sex at the usual time.

[crazy8000]

Can't really take her seriously with much of what she is saying!

Experience doesn't say a thing if you're good with sex or not 😂

People those days buy everything online as ultimate truth how thing's really are 😂

Welcome to the generation of easily manipulated people!

[Apope16]

I agree. Experience has nothing to do with quality sex. The bond between both people and chemistry makes the best sex.

[brennanhuff]

And why does it have to be about a relationship or dating? Like yeah it could be worthy sharing with someone you're in a relationship with. But Not all late bloomers, especially men did it on purpose or because of repression. Just because a guy started later doesn't mean he was one holding off for marriage or it's because he wants just meaningful relationships with women. If a man is a late bloomer but hooks up with women or has casual sex with women later in life, I don't see why he needs to share his inexperience with hook ups or women he has casual sex with. Maybe they'll see he's not that experienced, but in the process he's have more experience and redeem things. And then when he does meet a woman for a relationship. His late bloom is irrelevant, because he made up for it or had sex experience before meeting her.

[MlleCake]

@Apope16 and @brennanhuff Much of what you're saying is stuff she said. Not sure why you disagree with her so much.

[brennanhuff]

She made it sounds like, not to worry sharing it your inexperience with someone you date or in a relationship. When I'm thinking, why does that have to matter if a man who doesn't have much exprerience isn't planning on being in a relationship or date and hooks up or has casual sex instead? I don't think a hook up partner needs to know how many people he's been with or lack of experience. She might notice stuff depending on how inexperienced he is. But I don't think it matters or something he'd need to even think about. And she said people who are inexperienced may feel less desirable or seen that way or something, but not too worry. Or something to maintain romantic relationships because of the stigma. I skimmed through it. That's only a stigma if a person knows or you share or feel you have to. Late bloom seems irrelevant in the sense, everyone had a starting point and it's like not somethijng to worry about for like a relationship or how you'll be viewed

[brennanhuff]

Because if as a man you have a bunch of hook up and casual sex and get on a roll. Well guess what. You'll have that sex experience when in a relationship and being a late bloomer would be irrlevant. It's only relevant in that a man might not be good with the first few women after his first time as a late bloomer. But if anything, if he's trying to be a good lover, he can get better with more experience and then will be experienced and make up for missed time when in a relationship with a woman

[MlleCake]

@brennanhuff I think knowing someone's relative experience level helps improve expectations even in a casual arrangement. I don't think she's talking about a blow-by-blow analysis of past experience, just a general statement. If you watch her other videos, she's not one to stigmatize casual sex in all it's forms - she just wants people to use condoms. In any case, I wondered how the video made people feel. She has a great youtube channel.

[MlleCake]

@brennanhuff Yeah - she basically said that.

[brennanhuff]

I think knowing someone's relative experience level helps improve expectations even in a casual arrangement." I don't know about knowing someone's past experience with casual sex. I mean it would be good to know they are clean or have been checked, and like wise for yourself. But I wouldn't care to know a girl's experience or if she's experience or not. I'd only care if her inexperience makes her uncomfortable or like I'd want her to communicate if I need to spend more time with foreplay or be gentle, because she might have been with one guy before and stuff like that. But I can see if one has no idea what they are doing because they are virgin. But if you have some experience, it might not be great, but I don't see why that needs to be shared. Especially since the person you're having sex with, you're not really caring how great you are in bed, because you aren't see them the following week. But continued experience you can get better each time so good when having a girlfriend

[HitGirl_4680]

I wish I was like back in the olden days. I feel everyone’s so quick to jump into bed before getting to know each other / date each other and find out if you like each other first.

What happened to the romance the build up and the anticipation. Not to mention the respect before getting to all the bases.

These days it’s all lost and I feel I’ve completely turned the opposite way and pull away from guys that show they clearly only want that by bringing it up too early.

See ya later no chance with me no matter what ya look like!

[Romeo0071234]

I hear ya, but I feel it probably was the same back in the day, but just more forbidden and hidden.. people are more open and ok with it these days.

[HitGirl_4680]

It wasn’t like that back then as men were gentlemen and if they weren’t everyone would know about it and they would be shunned out of town and have a bad reputation not be praised for it! They used to do sweet things fit the girls that they fancied, nothing fancy just kind sweet gestures that made the girl blush and made her feel special. None of this happens anymore and it’s just sad. That’s why I have given up on men, dating and ever finding true pure real love. It doesn’t exist all they want me for is to fuck.

[loganj]

I am a lot older than you but I dont think the romancing thing really was that popular-when I was in high school I liked guys a lot and I was considered easy-but that is what I wanted-whenever I was with someone I liked making out and didn't really think about romance until maybe about 18-then I was a little more serious-but even then it wasn't a huge factor-maybe its just me

[Anonymous]

Hey,
Could I reach out to you if I ever have questions regarding sex? mostly just looking for advice for the first time, and I thought of asking you because you seem really nice and loving and you remind me to a mother figure. Anyway, if you're okay with it, please let me know... I was kinda ashamed to message you directly. I'm 17 by the way

[MlleCake]

Message me any time.

[Opinion Owner]

I love you

[MlleCake]

Awww. Thanks.

[Justacatlady]

Not a late bloomer at all and I am very comfortable and happy with my sex life

[Bjorn526]

Physically not a late bloomer but emotionally and psychologically, very much so, in fact I think those two, are directly at odds with each other, in other words, the delay was partly caused by the physical sex, teens already have so much to deal with, you throw that in there too, it’s like chaos

[Gerpar]

Yeah, I'm totally a late bloomer. I've got no real interest in having sex with anyone right now, sinfe I just see it as a waste of time at my current age. At times I feel like I'm asexual, but I know I'm not since I have a preference towards women.

Though, it is strange that someone at my age wouldn't be interested in relationships or sex at all. And I feel extremely uncomfortable whenever my friends start talking about it around me, and they know that so they purposely do it. What good friends...

[bacca400]

I was. But in my early 40s, boy did I bloom!

[Salsacumbia]

I am a late bloomer. Lol😉

[TheNoOne]

I am a late bloomer but I admit I didn’t even try to hook up with anyone it wasn’t a priority and I was obsessed with my video games and anime lmao. Their was a few times I probably could of got laid if I was in the right head space and didn’t screw it up. But much like having friends girls were just a nice thought but not anything i cared about pursing.

I was a immature idiot in hindsight but little point regretting the past now so now I am just going to make up for lost time so it’s still a win.

I actually think we instinctively know how to have sex and foreplay it’s kind of ingrained in are beings. The first time I slept with a girl I was worried about keeping it hard or pulling a will from inbetweeners but when it finally happened it was a pretty my smooth experience. The only balls up was worrying to much about making her cum more than anything.

[TheNoOne]

Also that woman looks crazy almost crazy cat lady like. She doesn’t inspire any confidence in her knowledge and the story about the old woman made me wince.

[ScaryCool]

No. I bloomed way too early is what I think and I've been blooming ever since. It's tire some being so sexual at times.

And other times... I roll with it B)

[PlsWork]

I'm not watching the video because her face alone is annoying, but I can say that it does't matter at all (in my case) because I'm pretty sure I'll never be in a sexual relationship. I just don't want it.

[Catholicgirl22]

I guess as I'm waiting for marraige

[Some_Goof]

Im still a virgin so yeah, I'm a late bloomer.

[guyuser2]

You are just 19 . It's not late to be a virgin. It's just 19 not as if you are 39

[Some_Goof]

She said you're late bloomer if you're a virgin after 18 year old.

[guyuser2]

Meh, that's odd. Do you want to loose it?😒

[A_Bell]

It's hard to believe any survey about sex. For example, men and women report the number of partners they have had and normally, men report many times more sexual partners than women. This is mathematically impossible.

[thomasans2]

Not if one woman fucks multiple men

[A_Bell]

The average will still be the same. Learn some math.

[thomasans2]

Better learn statistics. Its not math

[SpiderBro]

Late bloomer in every sense of the word. I only really started taking an interest in dating when I was 21. Didn’t give a shit about it before that.

[Eve93]

I was the same

[Oasha]

I am.

[CubsterShura]

I'm most prolly a late bloomer cause I ain't having sex before marriage.

[BKLodhi]

Yes. I am a late bloomer. I believe in celibacy.

[cherryphi82]

Hmmm... the lady in the video looks neurotic... and the story of the 70 year old is... well... shuddersome... but to each their own. To answer your question, my first time was at 17, so I fall somewhere in the middle. I consider myself a late bloomer though because even though I was having sex, there were certain behaviors that I did not engage in until my later 20s. Basically, I had never learned to talk about sex or found my voice until then.

[musoboy]

I feel you. I'm more or less there right now. Finding your voice is really the big struggle and it's a turning point once you get it.

[Prankster13]

She looks really surprised. And I would say I may be kind of a late bloomer by that definition. If it's just "at least your so can tell" then just kind of late.

But if it's "in general people can tell" I'm a dud bloom. I doubt they'll ever be able to tell unless I wear a big sign. 😂😓

[NessyTheMonster]

I'm still a virgin so I'm definitely a late bloomer.

[VirginDefiler]

Hey, whats up?

[Apope16]

I lost my virginity at 27 years old. I sm apparently very good in bed because I thought about sex a lot and studied it for years before doing it for that, im glad I waited for the right person and im happy my first experience was positive rather than negative.

Now I get a lot of sex and have a high libido. Saying you were a late bloomer means less STD risk and makes women MORE likely to have sex with you. In my experience at least.

Last, being a late virgin doesn't mean you're not sexual. For my first 27 years i was masturbating twice a day at least and imagining sex. Imagining it for so long before doing it made me better in bed I think. I've been complimented by every partner. I've had flings turn into long term relationships.

[aceexp]

I'm 18 still a virgin. So maybe, I think so