How should I feel if my boyfriend prefers anal sex vs. vaginal?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months and we have never tried anal. Our sex has been lacking and I’ve recently been voicing my concerns. I feel like he’s been more interested in his own satisfaction but not mine as well. He’s a straight man who only watches tranny anal porn and has recently told me he’s very into anal and that may be a reason why the sex has gone downhill. He told me he prefers anal sex over vaginal and I’m having a hard time wrapping my head around this. He’s got a large penis and I can’t do that all the time for him. I’m into anal, I’ve done it in several other relationships but those men have paid much attention to my satisfaction as well. I’m confused, is this “normal”?
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  • Please don't buy his shit. Many guys have commented and I sided with them: drop him and find someone better.

    PS: I always advocate that sex is suppose to be intimate and fun, unselfish and committed in love.

    Reading your post gives me a bitter aftertaste and I wonder why you condone an ass like him (sorry so hard on him, should you love him).

  • Tranny porn? 😂 Sorry but I think your boyfriend is secretly in to other men. Maybe he doesn't completely admit it to himself, hence the trannies. But still it is two guys going at each other he is watching. Him being gay or finding out he is would explain the downhill, anal sex and lack of attention of your satisfaction.

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  • he definitely has bisexual curiosity, if he just wants to satisfy himself in your arse i think hi is not strictly straight, and not fairly addressing your needs. i love anal sex immensely but would not put up wit your situation. talk to him, tell him he either changes or bye bye.

  • There isn't such thing as normal, especially in sex.
    Youl should really talk to him about it though, if he is a good partner he will listen to your preference as well.

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  • Nope not normal at all. Sounds like you have a closeted gay man on your hands.

  • Just make sure that if you have anal sex with him, that it's with his tongue, not his dick;)

  • Hmmm that's a complicated one. Normally I'd say something crass about how many miles your poontang had on it, or how the backdoor is more preferable due to it being physically tighter -- but I don't think that applicable in this case.
    Maybe I'd suggest that this might be a case of where a particular niche fetish (which in & of itself isn't normally a problem & isn't some kind of masculinity issue, nor any big deal) but in this case is being exacerbated & playing itself out, via his apatite for this particular thing, due to whatever is going on in your relationship in general. I really don't know though, & think you might want a professional's opinion.

  • Forget the anal sex oart, the fact that he isn't paying enough attention to your satisfaction is a big enough problem. Topped of with a straight guy who ONLY watches tranny porn, erm, I thinks there are some big fucking red flags here. Do yourself a favour and find someone who isn't in denial and who actually gives a shit about you.

  • "SHOULD"? No, there is no should. You feel however you naturally feel. Do you prefer vaginal? If so, declare and make sure you don't give in all the time and give up what you want. Compromise and take turns.

  • Well I don't know. I will guess:

    - the fact that he prefers anal. I think most men don’t prefer anal but it’s not that unusual. Most men accept they’re not going to get mainly anal but this is not that odd. It’s not -normally- because they’re secretly gay or not into pussies except..

    -only watches tranny porn. This is something he’s obviously not alone in liking but it’s much more a small niche. The fact that he only watches it?

    - doesn’t worry about your satisfaction. Not that uncommon for both men and women sadly but I think should be a dealbreaker.

    It seems to me the fact he likes anal a lot could be accommodated perhaps giving you are relatively into it. But the facts he’s not into vaginas at all and seems like he’d really rather be with a tranny and doesn’t seem that into pleasing you as well as getting what he wants those are bigger problems.

  • He's a closet gay hun, dump his ass and move on.

  • Well I mean the ass is definitely tighter, so I can understand why he would enjoy it. That being said if he's not paying attention to your satisfaction then he's overall just a selfish lover, and this issue needs to be addressed.

  • Turn things around on him! Get a dildo lots of lube and f*** him in the ass. If he's watching all that tranny p*** that it's probably what he really wants.

    • Yep, done that. That’s not the issue.

  • Anal and vaginal sex is both exciting.
    Anal depends on my mood

  • Training anal porn normal

    • i think she meant transexual anal porn

    • Correct!

    • You may have but to me as a straight man that's not normal porn I only watched porn with my submissive anyway and I will be not another transsexual anal porn as a straight man I just don't consider that normal porneven as a dominant man

  • I really like anal.. But love the coozer more! Honesty, Tranny porn... he may be Bi and not wanting to face up to it..

  • Dude, is gay. Its obvious.

  • If he only watches tranny anal porn and doesn't want to fuck your pussy, HE IS NOT STRAIGHT! He's closeted, even to himself. He does not want you as a woman, he just doesn't have the guts to admit that he wants an effeminate man. He wants ass. He doesn't want you.

  • Normal my ass.

  • Dump him , he is warped... your anus is not a sexual organ.

  • You should feel happy

    • All what you have to do is to train your anus to receive large objects and then it won't be painful anymore, it will be so pleasurable

  • He may be bisexual.

    • Even if he was I wouldn’t care, I’ve dated a bi man before. He swears he’s not, I’m not sure if he’s being honest or if he’s confused himself and thinks I’d think differently of him if he were.

    • I also love anal but pussy always first.

  • Anal sex is rough

  • He is selfish

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