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Why was he so irresponsible to cum inside me if he has a girlfriend?

I didn't know he had a girlfriend. I see him every night on the way back from work. We get our coffee from the same place and we always stop and have a chat.
I've "Known" him for two years, but never really knew anything about him apart from his name, his job and his coffee order.
Yesterday I saw him at the coffee shop, and I was on my way home to watch the Portugal-Spain game and he asked me if I wanted company.
We had a few beers and watched the game. Afterwards we had sex on the couch and then he left.
Today I went to get a coffee and there's a girl who works there who I chat to quite a lot, and she asked me if I went home with him last night, and then she was like "Did you know he's got a girlfriend?"

I genuinely didn't know, he's never mentioned her or hinted about it. He acts completely single.

Whatever the reasons for him cheating on her ( I doubt I'm the only one) why be so irresponsible about it?
That's what's made me the most angry.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I won't sit here and mock you of say what you did is stupid. People make mistakes. Its easy to do. And sometimes its difficult to make the right calls in life especially when it comes to sex. We all have those feelings of wanting to be wanted, needed, and our bodies are going crazy too. Sex feels good and it feels good to cum inside or let a guy cum inside because we were built for this pleasure and activity. Its even healthy.

    Just be careful next time but don't stop living your life or feel like you are a failure. We all make mistakes. Keep your head up :)

    • It's not that I feel like a failiure as such, I just thought I could spot a player a mile off. I feel stupid, because I just didn't see that coming. I wouldn't have let him come back with me if I had known he had a girlfriend. I'm not someone who does that. Thanks though :)

    • Sorry I was too fast in typing and it didn't word it as well as I could have. Don't feel stupid. Its easy to be fooled by people. Anyway, looking forward is important. Lesson learned. I wish you the very best :)

    • Thank you 😊

  • www.court-records.net/.../bratworth-crossed(c).gif

    You're angry? Good but you should be angry at yourself as well. You are both equally responsible because you accepted to have sex with him without a condom. I hope you realise this because you framed your question in a way in which he is solely to blame.

    He could be a player and he saw you as an easy lay. God knows how many other girls he has fucked behind his girlfriend's back.

    He could have have been unhappy in his relationship felt lonely. Who knows?

    • I am angry with myself, because I thought I knew player when I saw one. I do feel like an idiot. As naive as it sounds, I still don't think he is a player. He's like the opposite. There is nothing about him that remotely player- ish. He's shy and slightly awkward. Unless he's just REALLY good at it. This is a guy who blushed the first time I spoke to him, and used to look at his feet practically the whole of our first couple of conversations. It's just flawed me that he could be anything other than how he seemed. At first I was more angry with myself, and embarrassed...:but then I was like, hang on, he knew what he was doing

    • *Floored

    • www.court-records.net/.../bratworth-shrug(d).gif

      "He's shy and slightly awkward. Unless he's just REALLY good at it."

      How did he behave after you two had sex?

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Most Helpful Girl

  • He doesn't love her, he's a douche bag...

    Next time you have sex use a condom!!! especially if he's got a g/f he's likely a cheater for sure :(

    • I won't be having sex with him again. He's such a lovely, sweet guy. I wasn't expecting that

    • Again, we see the woman proclaiming OWNERSHIP. Think about it? Why do women feel that single me are owned by other women. He is not married. Then women argue that they are free to do what they want cause he didn't putta ring on it. Who is the douchbag now?

    • You mean he was a lovely, sweet guy. Now you know he's a cheating asshole. Sorry he used you and betrayed his girlfriend.

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  • Probably stupid man brain got in there and didn't care while the pleasure was overcoming him from intercourse with you. Really, sometimes us men never plan anything. We are just happy as dogs with playing and enjoying life and if shit happens, ah well... There's a comedian called Alonzo Bodden that said it best. Guys don't really think about what their doing sometimes, they just do it because it feels good and they think, "Seemed like a good idea at the time..." I'm certain that's our male mantra really.

  • Guys like cumming inside a woman, thats the best part of having sex shooting your load in her. It really isn't irresponsible if he knew you are on the pill and he was disease free but if he didn't know you were taking birth control he should have asked before cumming. I never wore a condom and I always came in the woman if she was on the pill, etc but not in her mouth unless she said it was okay. Making love & foreplay are great pleasure but for a man but ejaculating is the most intense, greatest pleasure a man can experience. If it wasn't the human race would never have survived. God or mother nature (take your pick) put all that pleasure in a mans dick so he would want to put it in a woman and cum and its populated the world now to over 7 billion. Thats one of the primary purposes of a mans dick & for all the other animals & insects on planet earth. :)

    • The thing is, I don't take birth control when I'm not in a relationship ( I don't make a habit of one night stands) I don't know what I was thinking, I don't think I was. I wasn't drunk, but I was at that drink level of nothing mattering. I was in the moment. Like I said, I don't think I was thinking

    • I don't think you did anything wrong, you fell for him and wanted him & he wanted to get laid with you but you should have told him you were not on any birth control so he wouldn't cum in you. Now you need to get some of those morning after pills if it isn't too late. Like I said previously he gave you his semen/sperm and now its yours and you can do what you want with it or do whatever it takes to not get pregnant. If he fertilized one of your eggs you ought to get rid of it unless you want to have a baby. here's some facts about fertilization: Less than 70% of all fertilized eggs will even implant into the mother's womb causing pregnancy to continue. From there, there is a 25-50% chance of aborting before you even know you are pregnant. If, however, you make it to your first month, your odds go up to 75% chance of carrying to term. You need to do something quickly.

  • Because he's a player and jizzing in girls feels good.

  • Try using a condom next time. Cumming In a woman whether they have a girlfriend is the exact same thing, if you're not on any sort of contraception then you're equally to blame

  • Why would he be irresponsible enough to have sex with you in the first place. Stop all contact and let his girl know he's a piece of shit.

  • Tell his girlfriend.

    • I don't know her.

    • Call him up again and ask to go to his house or something. I don't know. Find a way.

    • Thats being as stupid as fucking and then complaining about it. From the mouths of Babs comes babbles.

  • The world is full with irresponsible people.
    Why did you accept sex without condom?

    https://i.imgur.com/2r0ycev.jpg

    • I wanted him. I didn't really think anything else apart from that.

    • Not careful Let's hope you got no STD or pregnancy.

    • You wanted him. Case closed. Either go after him or leave it in the past.

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  • the way more important question is: why to you have sex with him if he does this?

    • I didn't know he had a girlfriend

    • well then you can assume that he didn't give a shit and just don't repeat that mistake.

    • FUCK HIS GIRL FRIEND! If he wants to fuck another girl besides his girlfriend its not your problem, its hers his.

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  • Wait wait wait, what? You had sex with a dude that you didn't know beyond his name, coffee order, and job, and let him finish inside of you and are calling him irresponsible for doing so because he had a girlfriend? That's what you're angry about? I just... I can't. Do you think he was afraid of getting caught? Do you think he would stay with you if he knocked you up? I mean shit, guy could've had a bunch of STDs that you don't know about and you're fixated on the fact that he finished in you, and that's only because he has a girlfriend. Take her out of the equation (he did) and everything's just fine in your mind. I don't know, seems we have different ideas of irresponsible.

  • Better have yourself checked for STIs, you don't know who else he had spontaneous unprotected sex with.

  • Obviously because it works for him

  • Just sounds like all the answers to the questions is "He is a piece of shit".

    • No he isn't a piece of shit. he's just a man who wanted to get laid and he did. And she wanted to get laid by him and she did. Thats how it works. There are no set of rules cared in granite that apply to everyone or in every situation.

    • @mobligator Yeah he just wanted to get laid. From someone other than his girlfriend.

  • aha you are a slut ;DDDDD

  • He is pussy lover.

  • Just he take what he want from you.

  • people on this site, my lord

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