I am lowkey freaking out over how misguided people are here. Okay. You can Always so no. That is absolutely fine. For any reason. Of course they are still people and being tactful is a thing (e. g I don't tell a girl her vagina looks weird).
Now with that said; Circumcision has absolutely no real benefits in modern society. The cleanliness thing only plays in after Weeks of not showering. If we talk days then being uncut is 'cleaner'. The second 'benefit' is in case the skin can't be pulled back. Which is a medical (and rare) condition.
As for benefits of having a foreskin it keeps the penis sensitive, leads to stronger orgasms as well as helping to prevent some genital diseases. Basically it makes sex better and circumcision was made popular to ruin masturbation. It was proposedly jointly with Dropping acid on girls clits. Wonder one of them passed. Even stranger people are so fiercely supportive of it.
Honestly, I dont think it is weeks of not showering, I've seen plenty of penises with smegma, while the guys were completely clean everywhere else. But I agree a uncut dick can be clean as well, if treated properly. also, dropping acid on the clitoris isn't comparable to circumcision, it is really different kind of surgery. That's like comparing with excision.
It really is weeks. Circumcision was a beneficial procedure about 1500 years ago if clean water was hard to come by. Smegma is a diet related thing first and foremost. And while I perfectly agree it is not comparable it was both suggested together by old man kellogs as anti-masturbation measures back when the American government was freaking out about kids pleasuring themselves. The very same sex hating man who is the reason americans are circumcised today. This is all pretty public knowledge.
that's true. Weird how it all started out.
I mean it's a fine line, if you were in his shoes and he refused to give you oral because of your labia or something, how would you feel?
You're obligated to your own opinions & wants, so no you're not really that bad. Maybe you need to communicate that before hand so the guy knows what to expect or not expect?
lot of guys reject to do oral to girls, so I kinda know the feeling. You're right about communication tho, I agree we should talk about expectations
Its honestly your preference and no one can tell you you're wrong. You only said no because of your past experience but its wise to know not every guy is like this but it was a one night stand so you're not going to see him again and also did he offer to go down on you- i dont get why he's offended if he ddnt want to go down on you either not for any reason but didn't offer... so...
he didn't but I think you're right
I don’t think he should have called you a name, but I can see why he might be upset about it. At the same time, you didn’t have to tell him that’s why you didn’t want to do it. You could’ve just said you changed your mind, things were moving too fast, you weren’t ready for that, or any number of other reasons why you didn’t want to suck him.
Honestly didn't expect that reaction otherwise I woulda say something else
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no you are not a bad person for not doing it, especially since you have had bad experiences over it in the past
No you're not bad at all. You know that most uncircumcised aren't that clean.. whether he interprets it as an offense or not.. its his issue. Its a one night stand, you don't know how well the person cleans himself so why taking the risk right !
exactly!
You should’ve given him a chance, uncut guys are my preference just because I like the more natural thing. You seemed to have gotten unlucky with a guy with bad hygiene.
Its funny when you say it that.. you make it seem as if circumcised penis went through a plastic surgery and isn't natural. Hygiene is an undeniable proven factor why guys need to do it. (Just saying)
@Roooni I didn’t expect people to take this so seriously... I just meant that she happened to get with a guy who wasn’t clean. That’s all
No worries i know... i just commented on the way you phrased it cz it wasn't fair.. no offense taken its All good Nat 👍
You're allowed to say no to any sex act for any reason, especially a hookup. You can't exactly go into a hookup with expectations.
No, its your choice you don't have to do anything you don't want to.
Yea sure but do you think it is true that the uncut penis is not clean/good enough? :/
@Gramer Its personal preference
Yea of course but it has to do with the hygiene or just the way it feels or looks?
So you don't like pre-tasting with you tongue around under the foreskin on an unknown dk ons? yum.
Damn I got a chill writing this.
Nothing wrong with that. But in the future, don't tell them the reason why (I'm assuming that's why he got offended?). Just say you don't want to and that you're sorry. No need to say why.
I didn't expect this reaction, I didn't mean to offended him, I regretted after.
It's not bad to say no to a sex act - you should always be able to do that.
But if you were worried about cleanliness, why not ask him to wash it first?
It's kind of brutal to reject someone because they haven't had their genitals mutilated...
It is probably a mental thing, but I have hard time putting a uncut dick in my mouth, just past experience I suppose. It is mutilation maybe, but it is beneficial to most guys in my opinion.
Your opinion on this matter is irrelevant. How would you feel if I said female genital mutilation was "beneficial to most girls in my opinion"?
Sorry, that was rude. Here's the deal: Am grateful for foreskin. Makes it easier to masturbate/experience sexual pleasure, protects what's underneath, thus increasing sensitivity. Like, it serves a function. in my opinion it is sick to cut it off. Also, what happens to all those baby foreskins? Do rabbis and imams mount them on broomsticks and trade with each other?
No you are not. See how shallow ONS are? You are giving away your treasure for... what, exactly?
That’s not bad
I don't blame him.
It's a little frustrating when a woman won't give you head, but it's nothing worth getting upset about. As a general rule though, especially with sex; make everything a case by case basis. Just because you've had a few guys who didn't clean their foreskins very well, doesn't mean that the guy you refused didn't.
That's true, but having bad experience, its hard for me to get past it honestly, but you are right, maybe give a chance. I'm not big fan either of uncut penises so that probable made it harder to get into it.
Yes you insulted him. Just pull skin down and it will look just the same as circumsized. How about if he won't lick you because your labia too long? Not nice huh?
it would be his choice tbf.
no. you have your own preferences just like everyone else
Nope that is definitely a choice you have a right to make.
It would feel like a low blow. I'm uncircumcised and would feel like dogshit if this ever happens to me (which thankfully it never has).
You are in your right to deny it, he is on his right to get pissed. But if it was me I would just stop seeing you and look somewhere else.
Thanks for the reply, reading here it seems circumcision is a sensitive topic. Great to have people opinions, help me make my mind about it!
Well, just imagine someone not going down on you because you have "protruding labia" or something. Other than that, people should freely discuss this stuff. Shouldn't be a sensitive topic tbh
Yeah I can't imagine since, usually guys aren't picky to one night stand it seems like. But I would respect it, I prefer that to having sex with something thinking I'm undesirable. I agree it shouldn't, but still would feel uncomfortable irl
Its your choice honestly so whatever you are comfortable with. Circumcised is cleaner than uncircumcised so it was probably a good choice. better safe than sorry.
Exactly how I felt!
i mean a one night stand can be anything you want it to be. honestly the other person doesn't really have anything to complain about even if you dont have any sex.
How would you feel if he tried going down on you and seconds later came up and told you that he can't do it because your lips looks weird and a bit saggy and they smell funny?
It would be his right, you would be surprised how many guys refuse to go down on girls.
Good for the rest of us.
I say its your mouth you can pick what goes in and what dont
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