It would be naïve to think that someone wouldn't see others sexually, but at the same time many others seem capable, and yes it depending if they act on it but after he made such a point of it out of no-where you have to ask questions, is it while you're with me? is it people who are our friends, strangers, tv characters? But then he just clammed up and kept back tracking.
The whole animal instinct thing gets a bit old as an excuse, I don't understand why your partner would ever come out with something like that with the excuse 'well you've been with more people than me,' which he doesn't even know because I've never brought up my past relationships because it tends to end up hurting someone's feelings.
I'm genuinely confused, he made it wants to sleep with other people, not cheat, but he pretty much said he compared me to the thought of them which is a massive kick in the tit. I do want to know other opinions though, I'm pretty sure I know what I want to do, not by choice, because I love him, but I'm not willing to be with him and him comparing me to other women trying to work out if it would be better or not.
Have any of you ever experienced this? what did you do? How did you react?
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While his point of view may not align with yours on this matter, at least he told you he is feeling this way.
You should maybe find out if this is just a fantasy or if it's something he has a strong desire to pursue. If its the latter then it doesn't seem like your relationship is meant to be.
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Thank you for sharing, because hearing about guys like that makes me feel so much better about myself xD
I can't comprehend why he said it. I don't think he understands how much it hurts and how it makes you feel insecure. You can try to explain it to him rationally. Everything you said in this post makes sense, so just try to explain that.
If that doesn't work. Start comparing him with other guys? Something a practical example helps you to understand...
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I've been the person on the other side of it, the one asking to be close to other people. There's certainly a bit of a learning curve but at the end of the day it all comes down to how much you trust him to uphold your boundaries and if he comes back to you as a happier person and if he shares that emotional happiness with you.
If he didn't express that he was interested in an open relationship at the very beginning then he is a shit. Be glad he actually told you and didn't start to do it behind your back.
I think that would be how it goes if you stay and tell him that you aren't interested. He will cheat and then you will be even more heartbroken.
I think your relationship is over unless you are willing to allow him to sleep with other people.