My boyfriend gets turned on by my sexual past?

[Asylena]

Being my boyfriend, I would never hide a secret from him, so very soon after our sex life started, I told him every encounteer I have had, and he did the same. It resulted we had a lot in commom even there, as we were both abused when we were kids. However, there was a big difference with the grade of abusement, as the fartest he went when kid was kind of penetrating his older cousin. I, on the other hand, was involved in actually consented sex with my step-father from age 12 to 16, until he died. Despite the difference ik number was huge too, as I had had slept with 15 men and 3 women, while it had only been 2 women for him, by the age we were both 17, when we started dating, what's important here is the time I used to do it with my step-father. Honestly, by that time I already knew what I was doing, and I didn't feel like I was being abused at all. On the other hand, it was the fact that my step-dad discovered I was in love with him, what led him to begin touching me, and it were also my positive reactions what finally led him to start having sex with me. All of that, I told my boyfriend, and despite at first he took it in a very comprehensive way, after three years of relationship, he started asking me about those times in detail, after one night, when the topic came from some casual conversation, I made him know that I used to have an orgasm with my step-father almost everytime, just as I do with him. Since then, he kept constantly asking me to tell him the stories of me with my step-dad, to the point that I'm almost run out of them, or at least the ones I can remember. However, that is not the real problem here. It was clear that my past was getting him turned on, and it wasn't a problem for me doing so, because as I've said, I didn't end up traumatized or anything. The real deal here is that lately I've been recently becoming aroused by those memories too, to the grade that my boyfriend and I have started role-playing about it. Any thoughts?

[Knowbetternow1]

Older men, step fathers having sex with under age girls creates a life long challenge. It’s common for young, abused women to be highly sexually active and use sex as their means for acceptance and affirmation. This can cause you significant problems with risk of cheating in your long term relationships. I’ve personally seen my wife challenged by the same things and she’s now 50. It would be great if you found a counselor to talk your step father relationship issues with. Even if you now think it’s a turn on, you were a child and he was a grown man abusing your innocence. Don’t let it have long term consequences. Sorry to rant, just seeing our story mirror my wife’s and how it’s been a challenge for our family after 30 years it resurfaced.

[LawShark]

He obviously likes that you have a sexual side that ignores boundaries placed by society. Society says "You can't have sex when you're young and you can't have sex with family members" and you decided to ignore the limitations society has placed. Some people would call you a "slut" because of that, and that idea turns him on. In his mind, you may also continue to ignore other limitations and do kinky stuff with him.

[loganj]

roleplaying is common as you get older-some only can get erect if they are pretending they are someone else-when that happens then I think it is fine to pretend he is someone else too

[SpeakNoEvil]

Nothing really wrong with it. Not sure what else to say.

[LeFrogDog]

All that can be said is you both seem to compliment each other.

[Red_Arrow]

You are becoming aroused by memories that are actually bad because of what they were. He is aroused by them. And now you have gotten to telling it to all of us, not because you are looking to change it, but because it is turning you on to tell us.

I think you really should see a psychiatrist, something you should have done years ago.

[yousir]

Cool story bro.

[SkipStop]

I'm not sure if I should believe that this is a true story. I'm guessing this is some fantasy or fetish of yours. And that's fine. I got my own secret fantasies.

[Buckzor]

Why on earth would you ever share that information on here? What are you trying to achieve with all this?

[Dreamweaver671]

I think its great you found someone you can be absolutely free with. I think your boyfriend has several cuckold fantasies to share with you and you would enjoy. Keep the lines of communication open on all subjects and feeling and I think you may have found your soul mate.

There is nothing wrong. Keep having the time of your life.

[CuChullan]

I also get aroused by my Gf's sexual past. Her fantasies, her willingness to experiment and talk about it.

[Bhragu]

Now I can say the world is very big and I don't know what kind of people there are in this world. Your boyfriend is a strange person.

[OliverdelaRosa]

If you are comfortable with that... no problem, but is a bit weird.

[Anon-ymous1]

Uh... he's definitely not normal. That's about it.

[kayaker_91]

I get turned on by my girlfriends sexual past as well so I think it is not unusual

[CT_CD]

he's a cuck

[thomasans2]

I would get turned on as well.

[BryanTheLion]

He was probably crushed that you were way more experience than him

[Anonymous]

Your boyfriend is a cuck so likes skanks. Obviously you two are made for each other.

[Anonymous]

The Stepfather part is kind of girls but I do get turned on by my girlfriend sexual past