Guys, Small boobs make me feel insecure during sex... any optimistic outlook?

Question

My friends tell me that I am a very pretty, and over the years I have come to feel confident in myself - except for one thing, my breasts. I have very small boobs, they can barely fill a regular A cup. I am not flat chested - but there is not a lot of boob either. I don't mind their size other than the times I am intimate with someone. When I stretch my arms above my head as I lay during sex, I am basically flat chested. Or when he reaches to feel my breasts, my self-esteem feels shattered. I feel as though he has nothing to hold onto and that the other perks to my appearance totally disappear because the size of my breasts will turn him off. Guys - could this really be such a huge turn off? I feel as though I have let the guy down by not giving him breasts to love and hold. 

People tell me the 'right guy' won't mind it, that I am 'hot anyway' and he will want to be with ME, but honestly I don't know how much of that is true and how much is just a matter of him getting used to the fact that I don't have boobs when he would prefer it deep-down. 

I just can't seem to feel good about myself during sex because of this, other than sex I don't care if I have small boobs or not. But not to be able to please the person I am with because what I am physically lacking hurts my confidence so much. Am I projecting too much of my insecurity into reality? Maybe guys don't mind such small boobs? Or are my breasts really a turn off even though I am 'good looking' overall? 

Thanks for your help guys. Your honest comments and opinions are appreciated.

Zefram · Accepted Answer

My girlfriend has really small tits.
I still LOVE fucking her. Grabbing them when we're having sex and kissing/sucking them. I mean, from what it sounds like they're like yours, they're not super flat, but her chest is flat enough. The thing is though, tits are tits. She takes her shirt off, I'm still pretty hypnotized and hard and ready to go with those girls. And I can enjoy that whole area during sex.
And I guarantee you when he's inside you there are A LOT of other awesome things going through his mind. Plus especially if the rest of you is awesome the tits don't really matter. My girlfriend has, for example, a perfect ass. So even if I'm not super into feeling her breasts (which I still am), I've got a hell of an ass to squeeze when we have sex.

Stevepro68 · Accepted Answer

We all tend to see our faults more than our partners. My ex had big breasts my current girlfriend is like you. What attracted me to her is the whole package. Tall long legs flat belly nice hips beautiful. I am totally bowled over that she in any way wants my pale hairy butt. Her body is like instant desire to me. boobs are nice but they sure don't matter to me. Still when she pops the bra I get just as excited as any time even though they are small.
So don't let your body get you down. There is a butt for every seat.

MrOracle · Answer

You're fine. I'd have no issue with the size of your boobs.

partydelights · Answer

1) not all guys are "boob guys". In fact, there is a large population who like both and a large enough who are "butt guys".

So by statistics, only 25% or less of guys may feel you're "inadequate".

2) guys look at the overall you, especially when clothes are off.

By virtue of guys are visual creatures, we look at naked girls with appreciation because we don't get such privilege everyday.

So we don't care boobs as long as they are boobs, and naked. We have the entire body to enjoy.

3) whoever got to date you already know the size and is prepared. Otherwise he would not have dated you.

So don't worry. Relax, be confident, show your class in sexiness. This is more of a turn on than a smaller breast.

ksoma · Answer

very bluntly?
if someone is having sex with you, they are most likely attracted to you. they want to be in bed with you.
so enjoy it.

I like breasts as big as DD, but I also like as small as nearly totally flat. Different looks look best on different girls. And tiny breasts can be amazingly cute, and still fun to handle, kiss, lick, and suck on.

I genuinely LIKE small boobs. And a lot of other guys do to. I'm sure there are plenty of people who look at you and think you look amazing, and they aren't thinking that in spite of your small boobs, but in part because of them, because they think, small as they are, they look good.

scottalanmiller · Answer

First, some guys like big boobs, some like small, some don't care. That's the starting point.

Second, yes you are projecting. Everyone has something that they want to change about themselves. YOu can't dwell on it. You are hot, guys want you, you have to be happy being desired for who you are.

RBT-RS · Answer

You can thank the media for the stigma against small boobs.

In reality, the majority of us like them big or small. Apparently most guys, including myself, prefer small boobs, so hey, that's an asset, not an anchor

Mitch6192 · Answer

At least you're not a man with a small dick. That's much worse.

GingerGuy · Answer

We like them all. And especially if we like you, genuinely like you I mean. It becomes irrelevant. They are hot because they're attached to you. The same way you might feel about his penis, if you're truly into him.