He seems less interested after we finally had sex. What should I do?

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In the beginning of our dating he was very affectionate and romantic. He would call me and text me non stop how he can't wait to see me and smother me with hugs and kisses, when we would see each other he would kiss me and hug me non stop, he was always on time for dates and never cancelled. He never even left me on "seen", lol. He treated me as his priority and we both agreed we want a relationship. We made it official. Then we finally had our first sex few nights ago and suddenly he seems less interested. We still text and call but not as romantic as before. He hasn't called me when he wakes up two times now, and he always did that before. Yesterday we barely talked and he apologized saying that he just had a really busy day. But then today as well, the same story. He just asked me if I'm free next weekend to hangout at his beach house, but it all sounded more like a business arrangement, he was in a hurry and sounded tired. He didn't say or text a single romantic word to me ever since that night. It kind of bothers me because I need that romance now more then ever, and him growing distant right after our first sexual intercourse is making me feel anxious and unwanted. What should I do? Would it be okay to tell him this?

brendon76 · Accepted Answer

It does seem like he may just be really busy. But you should tell him and give him the opportunity to refute that he is still romantically interested in you. There will always be ups and downs in relationships. Some days there is more free time and some days boys are hornier than others. Since you had sex it may have satisfied that urge and not that he doesn’t want and need you but that sex isn’t right on his brain and so he is able to focus at work and therefore just busy. Give him a chance and tell him how you feel. If he reacts negatively to it, it would be better to find out now than later.

partydelights · Accepted Answer

I answered two questions of similar kind yesterday and this is one of them:

HOW TO HEAL A BROKEN HEART? ↗

But I have statistics from over a thousand person, 81% wants to marry if the right one comes by:

Singles, will you consider marriage? ↗

So I can only conclude to you, that the traditional way to say "no" to sex until you're married is the best way for a girl to avoid getting hurt by Players.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

First of communicate what you're feeling... dont leave it inside... this is essential!!
Secondly what I think of the situation...
1. Maybe he got awkward all of a sudden.. maybe he is thinking about whether you actually liked it or not
2. Sad but he probably used you for that part
3. He is a religious person who is maybe feeling guilty after doing this
But these are all just stupid assumptions of mine... so better find out yourself. Good day to you❤❤

DoctorWize · Accepted Answer

I see no problem in talking to him early in this stage of a relationship that doesn't have to go sour. I also see you are this convenience that he could very well be taking for granted and great advantage of. Put an end to it and call his bluff. Let him know soon ho you feel and try also to be more of a challenge for a guy who probably enjoys this more than sex.

katiesmuff · Accepted Answer

Guess you have to be the one to just plain ask him what's up.

Dreamweaver671 · Answer

Is this really an anonymous question? You're kidding right? Or maybe you are a man

demonics · Answer

"She seems less interested in me now that we have a child."  Easy fix!

winterfox10 · Answer

I think you should tell him that you miss the romance from before. It's possible that the sex just wasn't that exciting for him, but you need to give him the chance to communicate his feelings for himself.