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Boyfriend shaved his body and I hate it.. what should I do?

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years, and never once has he shaved anything except his beard. Today I hung out with him and saw that His leg hair, chest hair, pubic hair, tummy hair, everything was just gone. I was so shocked i started crying, i absolutely hated it. He can do what he wants with his body, but everything that made him manly is just now gone. Im trying to tell myself to just wait it out for however long it all takes to grow back, but i dont even want to look at him right now. I dont mean to be materialistic, but i want a MAN not a 10 year old BOY. I’ve asked him why he did it but he just says he doesn't know. What would you do in my situation? Am i over reacting?
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I’ve calmed down, the shock was just a little overwhelming because it was such a huge change in such little time I do love him no matter what, but part of his attraction to me has now gone. I’ll wait for however long it takes for it all to grow back and we talked about it He got upset cause i was upset, he said he won't do it again and doesn't even know why he did it in the first place so it was most likely curiosity. We promised to consult each other first about big changes like this in the futur
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I think that was over dramatic and shallow, honestly. Especially after 4 years. You said you understand each others preferences, and that he doesn't care if you shave or not, but why should he put your preferences above his own? If he loves you whether you shave or not, you should reciprocate, not cry over body hair. Talk to him about it, and be respectful of his decision. You can always compromise. But please don't make him feel bad for doing something either because he was simply curious, or because it actually makes him feel more comfortable and clean, like you do when you shave. I personally don't care for body hair, but I dated the human form of a grizzly bear and lumberjack's love child and I found it to be really attractive on him. It suited him. If he does want to do it, just give it some time, you'll get used to it.

  • send him to me you ere so freaking lucky body hair is gross.

    so do you not shave so you dont look like a ten year old girl?

    • We know each others preferences, he doesn't care if i shave or not but i choose to do so because its more comfortable and clean to me, he knows i love his body hair cause i tell him that a lot

    • i just asked bc you said you dont want a ten year old boy, but you do not look like a ten year old girl. i just fid it interesting thats all :-)

    • Isn't that a bit hypocritical? You expect him to be uncomfortable with his body hair, and when he tries shaving to see if he likes how it feels better, you flip out, cry and get over dramatic as fuck. He doesn't cry when you do/don't shave, he says whatever you're comfortable with? Then why make him feel bad for making a choice about HIS body that might make him feel more comfortable and clean?

Most Helpful Guys

  • If I was in your situation, I'd tell him that I prefer him unshaven. It's that simple really. This should prevent him from maintaining the hairless body and let it grow out.
    Of course that's assuming he likes you more than the look among other things.
    So, tell him you don't like it, he grows it out, you get back to normal. Or, he continues shaving, you get used to it, redefine your definition of manliness and continue with your boyfriend... Or other not positive alternatives

    • "Big changes"? Grooming is considered a "big change"? Wow.

    • I would consider it a big change, he went from one extreme to another. Again, he's never shaved before in his life and he is a man of thick hair, so being used to seeing that for 4 years and then seeing him completely hairless is a lot to take in. To each their own though.

  • Girls have an issue with this too. Its refreshing to know that there are still women out there who appreciate a man in a man's body. I don't want to look like a 10 year old ether and I don't want to have the girl I'm with to look 10 ether with all the pubic hair removal and stuff.

    Tell him what you want. Be honest as to why you feel this way

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  • I know, right. He looked like a kid. When my ex shaved his body hair, I was kinda pissed.
    But then again, its his body. We can't control it if he really wants to do it.

  • That's one of the main reasons I prefer a girl to have pubic hair. I want a woman, with a furry pussy, not a ten year old girl.

  • You should get a boob job see how he likes that..
    No.. that would probably be a loose loose... Umm
    Yeah.. what a pickle.. Cos he should be able to do what he wants but then not consulting you was a bit.. I don't know.. Hard one.

    • yay i'm happi for u

  • Weird of him to just shave it all like that. He's probably insecure about it.

    • Hi ❤️

    • @nakhrewali hi 3mri

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  • It grows back. It's not like it is a tattoo.

    You're going to have a nice little prickly stage there for a bit. Stubble all over, LOL!

  • ya I don't think it warrants such a dramatic reaction lol... he's still the same person... calm down hahah

  • get over it, I mean it is his body, if he likes it and doesn't want to change it then he shouldn't have to because you'll love him anyways right? I mean if he doesn't mind not shaving and he doesn't think it's that big a deal then good for you <3 . same goes for if a man doesn't like when his S/O doesn't shave her "princess parts". #HisBodyHisChoice #HerBodyHerChoice

  • Yeah, you're over reacting. Just tell him that you liked his body hair and wait the couple of weeks it'll take for it to come back.

  • I also am not a fan of the naked mole rat trend.
    Sexual attraction is an important part of starting a romantic relationship.
    Don't insult him, just convince him to change in the form of a compliment. Be like "I miss how beastly your hair was, you looked so good with it" or something.
    TBH, he probably shaved because he thinks you will like it better.

    • On the button as usual :3

    • @Nachowedgie I'm glad you appreciate Gaston's wisdom.

  • My guess since he is probably around your age his friends gave him some shitty advice and he took it

  • Wait a month for it to grow back to a respectable amount. Also tell him you don't have sex with 10 yr old boys.

    • Hopefully he doesn't dress in drag in the meantome.

  • His body; his choice

  • No you're aren't over reacting since you weren't expecting that change but still you need to understand that he did it thinking you'd like it, a lot of guys including me are insecure about body hair thinking you girls would be grossed out by it

  • There comes a time in every man's life where his curiosity takes over as to why women obsess over shaving themselves and they try it out to varying results it's inevitable and any man who says he hasn't or never will is a goddamn liar

  • You only love him because of his hair so what to do? Stop being shallow!

    • I love him no matter what, but attraction plays a big role in relationships. Whatever his preferences are for me (long natural hair, healthy not overweight body) i keep for him, i got upseet because he took away something i preferred, and it just shocked me quiete a bit because he is a hairy dude who looks great with it and now he's a naked mole rat lol

  • Calm down and wait, it'll be back. Make sure you tell him that it upset you. If he did it for shits and giggles then he won't fo it again, if it is what he wants, then it sounds like you guys need to have a conversation

  • Just tell him you don't like it. No hints or suggestions. Be direct and let him know how you feel

  • Either convince him to grow it back and not do it again or break up

  • Is that a man, who shaves the hair. Leave him

  • He actually may be self conscious tbh, I'm the same way only guy around me that had hair like that and I was picked on every day and finally got tired of it

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