You're literally going to have to be his teacher. And maybe you need to stop having intercourse and focus only on foreplay and oral for a while (which he won't like, probably, but WILL help). You need to encourage him anytime he does well, and give him gentle but honest feedback when he's not doing so well. Always remember that his entire ego is on the line, so be gentle unless you MUST be otherwise - and remember that praise and positive feedback is FAR more effective than negative feedback, so as much as you can, focus on building on what he does well.
He probably has NO CLUE how your body or mind really works (and I'm being completely serious about that), so you may need to explain it all to him. Try to make him see it as an adventure of exploration. The female body IS a wonderland, after all.1 0 0 0He has ED at 32? He (1) might have low testosterone-should be tested (2) have "porn dick" from spanking the monkey too much AND watching too much porn. Have him lay off the porn for at least 3 weeks and then see if things get better. Otherwise, dump him.
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Talk to him!!! Communication is key to a good relationship. He won’t know to learn or fix anything if you don’t tell him what you want or like.
0 0 0 0Well have you spoke to him about starting with dding more foreplay?
1 0 0 0Yeah. But he loses his erection... I’ve mentioned a few times He could try to go down and me and his response is ”I could try that” but he never does.
Just keep on? As you shouldn't be giving when he can't reciprocate
You’re right x
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0 8You might have to take the lead a bit more here. Don't let him go straight to penetration. Guide him to what you want. If you want more foreplay, then do that. Maybe you aren't directing him as much as you think you are and maybe you are expecting him to read your mind.
0 0 0 0I'm thinking you got three options 1 to break it off 2 for you to take charge and do what you want 3 to find you a side buddy someone on the side
0 0 0 0then try this out have a session where you dont have normal sex only oral and foreplay, and see how it goes.
0 0 0 0He loses his erection, as I’ve tried handjobs and blowjobs but he can’t relax and loses the mood. He just likes to jump straight into sex. It goes from kissing to putting on a condom to then penetration. It’s not enjoyable but I didn’t want to upset him and it’s all I can get :/
so fkn what. you have all the time in the world why rush your part of the problem to
No, there’s no rush at all but it’s causing tension in the relationship, he gets down about himself if it doesn’t go to plan is all
Best to wait for marriage.
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0 0 0 0He doesn’t think he has a problem but I’d hate to tell him I think he has one
he is a good guy as you say but he should talk with a doctor and things could be sorted out within a few weeks
He’s lovely but since I told him exactly how I felt he’s a little delicate so I don’t know how to word my sentence about him seeing a doctor... any ideas? Since you’re a guy If you had this issue how would you like to be told?
Sounds like a personal problem mate
0 0 0 0Does he know where ur CLIT is. Show him how to lick it.
0 0 0 0Make a event out of it find some good porn you both like and copy it from start to finish.
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