Would you ever let a guy "practice" with you?

[amc4005]

Hi, everyone. My question is sort of... awkward. I am a male who is still a virgin pretty late in life (30 years old). It truly isn't that I'm weird or creepy or anything. I just never really had a lot of interest in dating in high school, only having 3 girlfriends, so I have very little physical experience with girls (I've done the very basics, holding hands and "pecks", but I've never made out with a girl, seen a breast in real life, or had any sort of sexual experience of any kind). And after high school, meeting girls has been difficult for me. I was told by a female friend that being completely sexually inexperienced after 30 could be viewed as a warning sign, or at the very least, considered very weird by any women I might have an interest in. But my best friend is a female, who is both beautiful, open minded, and truly just the most amazing person I've ever known. Which leads to my question...

To the ladies out there - would you ever "teach" a close friend of yours? It sounds crass and gross to say it that way, but would you ever allow a good friend who is inexperienced with women to learn to be good at oral by practicing with you? There are so many things to learn about a woman's body before you can even hope to know how to pleasure her correctly, and I am 100% one of those guys who can't get off unless I see HER getting off. Would it be unreasonable to ask a good friend to teach you how to work a woman's body, so that when I do get a girlfriend that I really care about, I won't be off putting or weird, and I will have learned from someone I love and trust? I don't intend to hire a prostitute. I am simply trying to determine if my thought process is completely out of line. I know I would do it for her (if I were in a position to). I just don't want to disrespect her. She is not a "sex is sacred" kind of gal, if that makes a difference in your answers. Thanks for your replies, both male and female, but mostly female :P.

[MlleCake]

What you are asking for is a sex surrogate, and usually sexual surrogates get rewarded for their time. It's really unfair to expect a friend to teach you all this stuff and you don't even like her "that way".

Get a girlfriend. Make it comfortable for her to show you what she likes. You'll learn what you need to.

https://youtu.be/uYLuo7S88tc

[amc4005]

Yeah, that's sort of how I feel too, unfortunately. I just know that she has had "friends with benefits" in the past, and I guess the point of this post was to find out if it would make me one of those piece of shit guys to even bring it up with her. That's not the person I want to be. It was also to determine if what my other friend said was correct, and to find out if my being completely and utterly inexperienced would prevent me from finding a girlfriend who WOULD teach me, or if I needed to do something drastic like hire a uh, "companion" to teach me, so that I could enter into future relationships and say that I'm not a virgin. It sucks to have to make that sort of decision just because sex wasn't a big deal to me earlier and now I could be considered a freak : /.

[Erikababbz]

If the guy friend and I were the similar age and I was single, I don't see where it would be so wrong. At least to start off we could at least be naked and practice oral.

[amc4005]

How would you go about asking said friend? I don't want to just be like, "Hey Friend, can I go down on you for practice? I'm a weird ass who's never seen a boob before." I'm... shy. I guess that comes with the territory of being a 30 year old virgin. If a guy was to ask YOU, how would you want them to do it?

[Erikababbz]

First find a female friend you can confide in and tell that too. Personally, I'd volunteer myself at least to show you my boobs, but not every gal is gonna be like that. Quite honestly, just look for friendship and advice first, things might work out better that way.

[amc4005]

Hahaha, well, I don't know that she would just offer to show me her boobs (though that would be awesome). I guess I just don't understand. Is my other friend right? Am I not date-able because I've not had sex? Or seen a tit? I guess I just find that to be weird, because I would absolutely date a girl who was a virgin at 30. I would just assume she never found the right partner.

[Erikababbz]

Any woman worthy of your time will not judge you for that.

[Jooying]

Have a nice conversation with your best friend, it’s possible.
But if not, don’t force her.

[amc4005]

No, I would never do that. This is just kind of a "does it make me an asshole to ask" sort of post. If I truly am weird and off putting for being inexperienced at 30, to where I am undateable, and asking her isn't an option, all that's left is paying an escort... and I'd just much rather lose my v-card to my best friend than to a stranger.

[ZanyInternetName]

>*Only* having 3 girlfriends
>There are so many things to learn about a woman's body before you can even hope go know how to pleasure her

On the off chance it's not b8: It's weird. If I was a girl I'd certainly not agree, but what do I know?

[amc4005]

I promise it's not bait. My 3 girlfriends weren't long lasting, and all of them were younger than me. Thank you for your response.

[ZanyInternetName]

Still, three girlfriends (maybe you do use that word differently from now it's used in my native tongue) is a considerable amount.

[amc4005]

We hung out a lot, liked each other romantically, held hands, kissed each other goodbye (closed mouthed). Haha, sadly, imagine your middle school girlfriends and that's pretty much what it was like for me in high school, I guess.

[NightOwl8801]

If you're both consenting adults then you should talk things through and see if anything happens

[Saccharissa]

Holy flipping hell, no way. Even considering this is infinitely more weird, awkward and off-putting than being a virgin could ever be.

[karahiri]

No... seems too confusing

[mykindofwoman]

If you were my best friend and I would trust you, I really don't see any problem with that! I don't think it's awkward to consider this option... just explain your reasons:)

[Anonymous]

I don’t see why not, if we’re both getting pleasure out of it. Plus, I’m into experienced guys so maybe in another life we’d make a good match.

[Anonymous]

Nope, sorry