Sounds like he has a problem, one that has been ignored and is now surfacing. If he has these problems it could be caused emotionally, or medically. The other possibility is he is unstable, even if it seems unlikely. Perhaps get to know more about him indirectly, his past and what previous relationships for him have been like, and how they ended. This could be your biggest clue to how you should proceed with your relationship. You likely won't be able to change him or his desire but you might be able to point him in the right direction to find additional outlets besides sex to find enjoyment. Lastly, and hopefully least likely, your his first sexually available partner in which case he has literally cleaved himself to you and won't let go easily, if this is the case you might have just bought yourself a lifemate, as a man's first experience sexually is his strongest bond to the other person and nearly impossible to separate from.
0 0 0 0Good insights. Thanks. I’m definitely not his first sexual partner. He’s had a couple girlfriends before me (I’ve met 1 personally) and he’s told me most of what’s happened between him and them since we’ve talked a lot about them over the years (even before we got together). He’s had the same problem with them actually: he can’t come through penetration, and has always had to eventually use his hand to finish. Maybe it’s just a matter of getting used to the feeling of a vagina rather than his hand?
If it is sex addiction, the thing you need to look out for is if he's no longer satisfied from "the usual" stuff. When I was dealing with porn addiction, I lost all interest in my ex. See it as a positive sign that he's still turned on by you.
It sounds like he does have some compulsive behaviours though, and it's worth monitoring and taking to him about it.0 0 0 0Hmm... I see. Thanks! He still gets turned on and gets off on the usual stuff. He just likes to be playful sometimes like asking me to wear the clothes he finds me most sexually attractive in like sheer blouses or dresses, or asking me to pose in a way that gets him going so he can come. So still pretty normal I guess?
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sex/porn addict.
Does he ever act like it bothers him?
Does he feel like he HAS to do it?
If it doesn't bother either of you then i wouldn't worry about it.. but if it bothers you talk with him about it..0 1 0 0Thanks for the response. - My boyfriend is actually a little bothered by it, mostly because his sex drive affects me negatively sometimes on some level. He tells me he can go to a sex addicts group or something if we feel this is the right decision. - Yes, he sometimes feels he has to do it, but only during the times he’s at home doing nothing. It’s not a compulsion that he can’t control when he’s doing something else or anything like that.
My drive is higher than my boyfriends.. i watch porn too. But i hardly have time so i never just sit and watch an entire porn video or do it multiple times a day. Im sure mine isn't anything like your boyfriends but i watch porn and masturbate for two reasons.. 1. Because it feels good (obviously) 2. Im always stressed out and it helps to take time for myself even if its only for like 5 minutes. I wish my boyfriend wanted sex more.. but he's usually tired from work and we have kids so its not always easy to find time for sex. If you guys dont do sex addict group.. maybe you guys could find a new hobby that gets you out of the house at the times that he would be spending beating off.. I think it is awesome how you guys have an open conversation about it all though. I have trouble talking about what i want sexually. So i just never do..
Hmm... Well he isn’t busy that much these days. He just has to finish his college thesis to graduate so he’s just home a lot unless he’s running errands. Maybe that’s why—it’s just too much free time. Thanks again
Well did he had sex young or exposed to Porn? that's sexual programming.
0 1 0 0Hmmm... From what he’s told me, he first had sex at 20 or 21. BUT he has been watching porn since he was in his early teens. Maybe that could be it. He’s really into the regular stuff you see in porn.
Scorpio?
Do you mean the zodiac or porn?
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1 5He has a high sex drive. It is kinda weird that he can't orgasm from penetration alone. I think he is use to his hand. Maybe give him handjobs instead of sex so your body can recover a bit.
0 0 0 0Yeah! I give him handjobs and blowjobs but can never find the exact right way to jerk him off so after a few minutes he has to do it himself to finish :/
Have him give you feed back when you jerk him off. Watch carefully how he does it.
Haha yeah we’ve done that. He’s told me what to do, and I’ve got it a few times but can’t keep it consistent. Then he just ends up doing it himself since I can’t get him to come by myself :/
I'm actually like this as well. They are just mentally strong and active. And have a strong imagination. a lot of it has to do with the thought processes.
0 0 0 0He just has a high sex drive, people like this are usually best to date other people with high sex drives or it could lead to infidelity
0 0 0 0Sounds totally normal, I would prescribe him a new girlfriend to keep pace cuz no guy actually prefers beating off three times a day if they don't have to. This is why I can be with just one woman, I would be masterbating 5 hours a day, I'm just as horny as your boyfriend and have 4 girlfriends in open relationship and still I'm jerking off at least once a day😂✌️. Ideally I would have sex with all four a couple times a day each but that's been unachievable so far
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Lol thanks. But I think in my case it’s different. He says he gets off “more intensely” when I’m around, and tells me I’m the only one he wants to be with. Given our history (long friendship, openly talking out our exes and sex with them, etc) I think he’s being sincere. Also, we’re together most of the time, and video chat each other when we’re apart, so I’m pretty sure he’s not seeing someone on the side for sex. I think he’s just fascinated by porn scenarios—he’s into all the main porn staples and fetishes and stuff.
Yea porn is great and everything, but it's always the fall back if sex isn't available... I don't know anyone who prefers masterbating to real sex.
Sounds like it may be more then just horny especially if he needs his had to get off
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I would definitely want sex more than once a week.
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