Do I sound like a sub, or a little? (Please only those interested in BDSM)?

[Anonymous]

I am certain that I am fucking kinky but I can't figure out what I am and it is frustrating.

I am into BDSM but I don't like the whole concept of bandages and getting tied up or verbally humiliated. I would cry like a baby if that happened.

I am more into the psychological aspect of it. I'm a strong and independent girl. I like my freedom too much. But having someone earn my submission is something indescribably beautiful to me. Someone to look up to and respect and maybe also help them become a better version of themselves and them helping me to achieve the same along the way.

I love when I am manhandled. Pushed against a wall, spanked, punished, choked and given that look that says "you will regret doing this" if I do something wrong.

I love a guy to show no to little affection during sex but show it a lot after sex when I'm crying (because of pain and/or pleasure)

I would never call him daddy because I don't like it.

I would want him to take care of me sometimes like bath me, feed me, read me a book and tuck me in to sleep. I would like to do the same for him in a nurturing way.

I like to be the innocent prey of his to be corrupted, so to speak. Him being more mature, more serious, more knowledgable than me and me being his little bubbly princess that makes him laugh and feel comfortable to be around.

The thing is I am the opposite of a sub in real life, like I am very sassy and sarcastic. I would mostly, if not always talk back. And I would not make a good slave either with my lazzyness lol. I don't like to dress as a little either, I find it creepy.

I don't know where I belong and it's frustrating because if I dont even know myself, how can I know what I look for in sex?

[Berethor]

I would vote for "little" because outside the bedroom you try to act like a strong, independent woman. Anyway most women are submissive to some degree and prefer a strong man, even strong women tend to prefer a man who is stronger than them. It's clear that you like being dominated a man, if it's in BDSM form or not didn't matter much, technically things like being pushed, spanked, punished and choked sounds like BDSM things, as people who totally not into BDSM are not going to have violent acts in their bedroom. Looks like you are BDSM but not too crazy about it, and it's okay, it might make it harder for you to be with someone who into hardcore BDSM, but it would be easier for you to convince a more common man to give it a try. Also it's make a sense that you are not into bandages and verbal humiliation, you like to keep some of your strong, independent woman image, that's why humiliation is harder for you to tolerate, warriors tend to care more their honor more than about pain, even to the point of death before dishonor. Being tied up is also likely make you feel too helpless, and at the same time it can also make your man look less strong, because if he can dominate you with pure strength and in direct and natural way makes you feel that he is more worthy of his victory and dominance over you. :)

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[AustinMan]

You're like so many women I've dated that all turned into subs. They were all ball busters in the real world, the more so the more they needed to submit to me.

PM me if you'd like to chat further.

[Futurelooker]

Being a sub has nothing to do with your "real" or daily live. It also doesn't mean that you has to be your slave.
By what you have described you are submissive in bed. The relationship between a master and a sub is based on clear and strict rules (punishment inklusive). Your master knows what you like or dislike.

[johnmichael62ga]

Not a public thing to discuss direct message me and we will talk and older dominant Southern gentleman

[johnmichael62ga]

Master sir

[Cowboy6666]

u seem curious about bdsm nothing else.