Should I have THREESOME with her?

[Anonymous]

I'm a girl and I'm 20, nice to meet yah. Anyways, I wanted to talk to someone about threesomes. A lot of the people I've talked to about threesomes say that they think it's a dumb thing and someone will always end up getting hurt. I used to think that way, but I've been in a relationship for almost 2 years now with this guy that I'm in love with and we have had a threesome with this girl that we met on tinder. It was a great experience and ever since that I've wanted to do it again. However, we made some rules when we decided that we're gonna have threesomes with girls and here they are: 1. We can't have a 3some with a close friend or someone we know, we can only do it with a random stranger who we will never see again. 2. If either of us starts feeling like they aren't up for it anymore, we can give up at any moment. 3. Everyone needs to be involved, there can't be two people fucking while the other one watches. So those are the rules. However... we did kinda break one rule. Basically, I was in a relationship with this one girl a long time ago. We were together for a while and then we kept breaking up and making up, which eventually led to us being friends with benefits and then just friends. Anyways, a few nights ago, my boyfriend, she and I were at his house just hanging out and stuff. And then things started getting a little freaky. We blindfolded my boyfriend and then each of us would suck his dick and he had to guess which one of us did it. And oh boy... I got really turned on by watching her suck his dick. Even though this was my best friend and MY boyfriend and even though this was basically breaking one of our threesome rules, I still got really turned on by it and I wanted it really bad. However, we didn't really do anything else. After this, she was watching smth on youtube and I sucked him off untill he came. Anyways.. I want to have a threesome with her and my boyfriend, but I'm not 100% sure it's a good idea. What are your opinions?

[ksoma]

Can you trust her?
That's the big issue.

As long as you can trust her, and him, and he can trust her and you, then it should be ok.

I mean, if she was down, and you both trust her to know what this is (a shared friendship with sex) and trust her to know what it isn't (a three way romantic relationship) then you could sort of make her a friends with benefits to you both.

Whether that means you can both freely fool around with her, so long as you admit it to each other and never get sneaky (or romantic) with her, or whether it means things only happen in a threesome situation... as long as you trust her to not try to "win you back" from him?
Trust him to not fall for her? Trust her to not fall for him?

Then it could work. It just requires some trust all around, communicating honestly with each other, and maturity and self control, to keep your selves in check.

And if you and he enjoy threesome occasionally anyways without jealousy or other issues, you very well could be able to do this, and if vigilant, stay happy and successful as a couple.
I tend to think sexual monogamy is best for most people, but if you have the trust, temperament, and libido to invite in a third person, my gut tells me that a known, mutually desired, trusted and trustworthy third person, is better than a stranger from tinder.

[Asker]

I believe I can trust them both. I'm just a little scared because I've heard so many stories about these kinds of things that didn't end well. But, knowing him and knowing her I think everything should be fine, I trust them fully. Love your answer by the way

[ksoma]

Well, I hope the answer does help, and that you're happy with any choice ultimately made. I always recommend communication. Just sitting and talking to them about it... on the surface, it makes it seem less spontaneous... less sexy. But it also really helps make sure the air is clear. Everyone can speak, no judgement, and when a decision is made, you all know where everyone stands, and what was agreed on.

[Asker]

Yeah, right now she is in a relationship and she we made an agreement that If they break up she's gonna have a threesome with us. And so we constantly talk about it making sure everyone knows the rules and stuff. So I think it should be good ^^

[ksoma]

Good. I hope that if it happens, you all have a blast. Thanks for MHO

[Berethor]

Why the rule that it need to be a a random stranger is there in the first place? did you considered polyamory? I mean you okay with him having sex with other girl anyway.

[nothingtosee]

Go for it! But, before you, tell him what you just told us. Tell him how much it turned you on. Ask him what he thinks.

I love the premise of you two blindfolding him and then taking turns sucking his cock and he has to guess who did it first. I think it should be a contest. If he guesses correctly, she has to suck him off AND swallow it, ALL of it. If he guesses wrong, he has to allow one of you to suck him off and let her French kiss him afterwards, with a mouthful of cum! Oh and, maybe you should video it too. That way you could blackmail him at a later date so that he HAS to do something kinky like that again. lol

[Sevenpointfive]

Don't do it. You broke a rule. Sure it was fun, but it won't be fun after it happens for the 6th time. Something will happen and you will be sorry you broke your rule.

[Asker]

I'm mostly afraid of him catching feelings for her and then cheating on me with her, even though I HIGHLY doubt that will happen, cuz I know him well enough, otherwise I wouldn't have had a threesome. But the fear is still there for some reason xD

[Sevenpointfive]

It's there for good reason. He or she will get feelings, or maybe he'll want it too often and he'll lose some intimacy with you. He may cheat behind your back just because she's available. She may be a crazy bitch in a situation like this. Are you bringing any guys into these threesomes? It seems one-sided.

[Berethor]

@Asker cheating on you with her, by doing with her the same as he already did? :)

[Sevenpointfive]

@Berethor Even though she broke a rule, she did say another of her rules was she had to be involved in the threesome, so yeah, that's cheating.

[nothingtosee]

That's always a possibility. Suggestion, don't let him have her telephone number. Have a rule where only YOU can call her and only YOU can invite her over for a threesome. If he won't cheat on you, then he should be perfectly happy with only you having her number.

[DaveTHENX]

Dafuq

[dragonslayer1516]

If you want to do it then go for it

[Firefox94]

Why don't you both knell in front of him and suckling him off together? You could kiss each other when he had cummed

[CubaPirate]

Go for it if it's what you all want. Start with tongues and toys only before letting your guy use his dick

[Asker]

Interesting, why before he uses his dick?

[CubaPirate]

It's all about a bit of teasing for youall

[AlainP]

the real bad idea is not to do something you really want to do! it only leads to frustrations

[Asker]

That's true..

[yesnomaybeone985]

Once you go pink you will never go back

[Seppelson]

If you didn't get jealous while she sucked him it's not a bad Idea.

[Asker]

Yeah, I thought I wouls be jealous, but I feel like maybe because I was in a relationship with her a while ago, myb because of that it just feels so natural to me.

[Seppelson]

Ok your guy is very lucky

[Berethor]

@Seppelson he sure is, he have a girlfriend who okay with sharing him with girl.

[Asker]

It benefits me too hahah I'm bisexual and sometimes I miss pussy

[Seppelson]

Yes of course but he can have two pussys ^^

[Asker]

That's true hahahah

[Berethor]

@Seppelson well that why many guys want to date a bisexual girl in the first place. ;)

tvtropes.org/.../GirlOnGirlIsHot

[Seppelson]

Of course :) my girlfriend is BI too but she is too jealous to have another girl in bed doing things with me or even see me naked

[Asker]

Yeah it depends on the person

[Seppelson]

Unfortunately ^^

[Berethor]

@Seppelson your girlfriend didn't unlocked her true bisexual potential. :D

[Seppelson]

She was in relationships with girls and guys but she is not willing to share it with me :(

[Seppelson]

How can I unlock her? She said she is much more demanding with girls and I realy want to see her eating a girl out or dildoing her but I guess I will never experience that :(

[Berethor]

@Seppelson she was in a relationships with girls and guys at the same time?

[Seppelson]

No she just experienced both

[bilhawk1]

Go for it. Enjoy life.

[crazylife12344]

It's good to have 3some. Nothing wrong

[Anonymous]

suurrreeeeeee ur 3 consenting adults.