Girlfriend gave a blowjob to male stripper at bachelorette/hen party. Is that a deal breaker & should I break up with her?

Question

So my girlfriend went to her friend's bachelorette party about a week ago. I must admit I was a bit anxious about her going, but I couldn't exactly say 'no' and stop her from going to her friend of 10+ years' hen party. Plus she insisted that there wasn't going to be any strippers or anything dodgy. Apparently it was just some drinks and a laugh with some of the girl's friends.

Well a few days after the incident, a guy that I know (not personally) reached out to me and told me that his WIFE had given a male stripper a blowjob at the hen party, and that my girlfriend had also done the same. This was the first I heard about the whole incident, and I refused to believe it until he sent me Watsapp pictures and a video of my girlfriend and his wife giving a male stripper oral and they were both jerking him off as well, along with about 10 other girls.

Another 5-6 girls were sat in the foreground, refusing to take part. I'm guessing the ones sat at the back were the ones that remained faithful to their partners. I was quite surprised at the number of girl's getting involved in the act, and how easily they were being coaxed in by the other girls and the stripper. A few of the women have got in trouble with their partners because of pics/videos circulating, and I know at least one of them has been dumped.

I think I should probably break up with her and end the relationship because it is still cheating. And I know she would do the same if I got off with a female stripper at a bachelor/stag party. The guy that contacted me is still with his wife though, as far as I know, and said he would talk to her about it, but might just forgive her. I don't know if I can do the same. Should I end the relationship, or forgive her under the circumstances? I understand that it was most probably a one-off, and she was coerced into it by the other girls, but I'm not sure what to do? Should I end it?

AmeerX · Accepted Answer

This is clear cut cheating, I am surprised why you even wanted opinion on this matter.
Look at this story. There was a pimp in a village who went to the villages lord for his daughters hand in marriage. The lord felt outrageously offended and asked his squires to beat the pimp brutally. In the end the pimp before exiting the lord's house once again asks, "does it mean no to the proposal?"

Similar seems to be your situation. You may choose to deny it but this is the cold hard truth. Her only defense is that she is a condemned unheard. So best ask her to tell about it if it makes it easy to break it off

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's simple. If you are a simp, stay with her. If you aren't a simp, break up.

'' and she was coerced into it by the other girls''

Just another one of the lies we tell ourselves because the truth is too painful.

''I understand that it was most probably a one-off''

See above...

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If I was a guy, I would break up with her without hesitating. You can never be “forced” into giving someone a blowjob. You can always say no or walk away. You deserve someone better because you deserve to be happy with a woman that will respect you and not cheat on you. There are plenty of other women out there that would be happy to date you.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It is cheating while under the influence of the demon drink. Under similar circumstances, it might well happen again, or even go further.

If my guy did something similar, he would be an ex in less than 10 seconds! Cheaters get one chance, not two!

sodaa_popp · Answer

If you have any self-respect, you'll move on. She already showed he doesn't respect you by cheating, and then keeping it from you. She'll respect you even less if you stay with her.

Logorithim · Answer

Talk to her before you break up with her. Even if the other women coerced her into it, she is responsible for her Actions (and I doubt there was coercion, since most of the women did not suck the strippper's dick).

ponchoboy42088 · Answer

Give someone an inch and they'll take a mile. Id say your done with her. But if you forgive her dont come back on here later complaining she s fucked someone too

Jupitermoonsquest · Answer

It's cheating, I'm surprised you didn't end it.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

I... Have never heard of a male stripper that would even allow that. What the fuck.

Blondemaureen · Answer

Really not a big deal. Sounds like most bachelorette parties I’ve been too. I’ve done the same and I’m married. It’s not like she’s gonna run away with the stripper. Just let it go and be thankful you have a fun girl.

HighValue · Answer

She cheated. Leave her. Being under the influence of alcohol is no excuse for anything.

She is immoral. The women in the comments that said they did the same are also immoral. Those are exactly the type of women that you want to avoid being with ever if you are a good person. And that is another reason to either never get married, or insist on a prenuptial agreement.

billmunch · Answer

it's fine

Sarahplus2 · Answer

She cheated on you

Grprouty · Answer

I don’t think you should end it just because of that. It’s not like she had sex with him and yeah I’ll admit that must not make you feel good but I’d talk with her about it. Just get a feel of the situation before you do anything you might regret.

Alexz0 · Answer

No. That's what happens at them. Don't worry about it.

Huhni · Answer

yeah i guess you should

Samxahl · Answer

Only read the title but yes

Jack_L_andTurn · Answer

If she blows some random dude she is not faithful. Dump her.

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

Is this a serious post? I notice you aren't replying to anyone's commentary.

headoncrash · Answer

I would have dumped her and I am curious about the guy being so forthcoming about the info.

Marharaya · Answer

Yea... only god forgives you we dont...

TheFlak38 · Answer

Usual things. You shouldn't expect a woman to stay loyal when she tells you not to worry. Of course she's gonna cheat. She can resist her urge to get banged by someone else. Now you don't have to dump her immediately. Just keep banging her until you had enough of her. After all you know very well that she can't be trusted and she definitely can't be the mother of your potential children. So fuck as much as you can.