Difference between overweight girl and thin in tightness?

[Anonymous]

I'm looking for new positions it seems from my experience that all the thin girls I've been (115-145) with are vaginally smaller and the bigger girls I've been with are loose/wide. Currently, I have 2 friends with benefits (for months) both know that neither is exclusive. Generally, I try to get into a position for better depth for them and I . Usually girl on top. However, I really don't get turned on with heavy girls on top fat rolls cover top of pu$$y and breasts droop it's not that attractive.Even in reverse there's a huge spread. Doggie style does seem to help but it feels like I go from 7 inches to 5 from the thickness of the girls backside. What positions do you find best for larger girls? Forget telling me to look at big girl p*rn hard to even see a d$$$ with those butt cheeks. Thanks

[Anonymous]

Okay.

Let's think about this for a second. The vagina is a muscular but elastic organ. What makes a vagina tight or loose is the amount of elasticity in the vagina and/or the strength of the muscles. The amount of fat you have on your body is not going to change the elasticity of your vagina, nor is it going to change the strength of your muscles. Are you following me?

This is why having a baby may cause a woman's vagina to feel looser (it might loose some of its elasticity), and doing exercises like kegels may make a woman's vagina feel tighter (it strengthens and gives her better control of her PC muscles).

If a woman goes from weighing 100 lbs to weighing 200 lbs, the size/tightness of her vagina is not going to change. Nor will it change if a woman goes from weighing 200 lbs to 100 lbs.

As a nurse with some experience in both gynecology and labour and delivery/post-partum, I likely have more experience with vaginas than you. I can tell you for a fact that weight is not a determining factor for vaginal tightness.

My advice is the same as goflipaburger's. Don't have sex with people you aren't attracted to. To me, having sex with someone that you aren't attracted to is a sign that you're just using these girls to get off... and by the sounds of it, unsuccessfully. Do both yourself and these ladies a favour and stop having sex with them if you aren't attracted to them.

[nevergivinguponu]

Well as a woman I hate to say it but when I was 90lbs heavier my ass was huge and I clearly couldn't get him in as deep missionary style as other positions. In fact heavy people will use pillows to tighten up and give more depth. He was talking about a lot of things. Dude don't tell this lady friend to do kegels. He's trying to ask guys(which is funny girls us girls keep answering) how he "can make it better" FWB is F buddies meaning mutual to both.she gets a benefit too.

[Jinmetsu_Rasetsu]

I can't disagree with that... Btw, what did you think of my post? don't type your response there, you'd give up your identity... Just tell me here.

[goflipaburger]

nevergicinguponu, that makes sense. I think the reason why we're all responding the way we are is because he addresses it as "tightness." Upon reading the post, his main concern (according to the title and opening statements) is tightness. Now when he talks about going deeper, the only thing on my mind is him being unable to be his full size because he's so unattracted to them.

[Opinion Owner]

@nevergiveinguponu - Now, there's two different issues here. The QA suggested that larger girls have looser vaginas. No where in my post did I suggest he tell his lady friend to do kegels. I mentioned kegels to explain how the vaginal muscle works (it is a muscle, so therefore, it can be strengthened). My answer is an explanation to why the idea that bigger girls have looser vaginas is not true. The second issue is that if you have more fat around your genitals (either on your abdomen, thighs,

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butt, or mons pubis), this can make it more difficult to penetrate someone deeply (because it can prevent you from getting physically close to the person). I didn't address this because I'm not an expert on it, but obviously trying different positions/using pillows might help). I also didn't address this because I think that having sex with someone you're not attracted to is unethical. Yes, she is getting benefits too, but the reason I see this as unethical is because: If you knew that the

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person you were having sex with thought you were unattractive and you didn't turn them on, would you want to have sex with them? Personally, I wouldn't want to have sex with someone (even if it was just FWB or a ONS) if they thought I was disgusting. I'm sure a lot of women would feel the same way.

[Opinion Owner]

@Jinmetsu_Rasetsu: I reject your idea that "there are only 3 positions available with minimal risk to you if you have sex with a larger woman." Since I became sexually active, I have weighed everywhere between 140 lbs to 250 lbs. I have had sex in way more than just those positions (with partners who weighed less than me---between 130-170 lbs) and I have never had a problem, nor has it been "risky". Maybe I've been doing girl-on-top wrong all this time, but when I straddle my partner to be on

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top, the majority of my weight is being supported by my own legs, so I'm certainly not crushing him. I have never hurt a partner because of my weight. I'm not even sure what "risk" you're talking about unless you know of a sexual position where the woman would have all of her weight on the man's chest, preventing him from breathing, so maybe you'd like to elaborate on that a bit. That said, I do realize that women carry their weight in different ways, so some women may be more limited in the

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positions that both them and their partner find satisfying, but I haven't found a position yet that I couldn't do, that wasn't satisfying for my partner and I, or that my partner was not able to penetrate me deeply (i.e. reach my cervix) because "all my fat was in the way". Mind you, I recognize that when a woman is MUCH larger (for example, if a woman weighed 500 lbs), there might be more difficulties, but I suppose you'd have to define what a "larger lady" is. Also, consider that this might

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also be affected by the man being larger himself (if both people have fat coming between them).

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure I can help because last I checked vaginal tightness and weight are two mutually exclusive factors.

The only actual advice I could give you is my opinion. If you aren't attracted to her, don't do her. Even if she's just fwb, you're just making things difficult to get some sex. If you just so happen to run into two fwb, I'm sure you'll have no problem finding a new one you genuinely enjoy.

[Jinmetsu_Rasetsu]

Indeed... You are correct. I am not attracted to women bigger than myself as well... Mildly unatracted to women bigger than perhaps a size 8... Hell, the last time I (and only time) I attempted sex with a larger woman, I could not even maintain a proper erection due to my thoughts... But I don't even have E.D. But I notice I am at the peak of arousal if she is of a smaller frame, say size 2-6... Meh, I guess I judt don't do "joppa the hut..." LOL

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for agreeing, but I have to say shame on you for your condescending views on women who do not meet your criteria.

[Jinmetsu_Rasetsu]

Hey, my views are not inteded for condescent. I am just blunt and cynical... Can you blame me? I don't think I am better than anyone.

[Jinmetsu_Rasetsu]

Speaking plainly, I am not the one that have sex with people I do not find attractive. I just figured at the momen (because I was a kid of 16 at the time), she cared for me and likewise I did her... It is just the fact that I did not know I was not attracted at the time. Because I haven't the best of experiences with relationships and sexuality, I have grown cynical about it. For that matter, I have become so cynical that I don't really want sex... Moreso a person to share experiences with.

[Jinmetsu_Rasetsu]

I even haven't had sex for more than 6 years now... However, if I do ever have the urge in the future, I would like to know I am as physically attracted to the woman as is mentally. If I am mentally attracted, but not physically, then what? That is the basis of my cynicism. Especially where I live now... Not many women I find physically attractive that are available. And if there are, mentally, I am not attracted to them.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sure you didn't intend to be rude, but it was. I don't blame you for being blunt or cynical, that's your business. Regardless, it's still rude. As if women don't already fear eating too much and becoming fat, now they have to fear the thought of a guy thinking they're "joppa the hut." Again, I'm sure you didn't intend on it being seen in an offensive manner, I'm just saying that it was offensive.

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Also, I would like to add that I don't care if you don't enjoy larger women, just the wording of your statement was rude. I personally don't care what you actually think about larger women.

[Jinmetsu_Rasetsu]

I can say this... Go to any barnes and noble and get yourself books on couples loovemaking and kamasutra.

No offense to the larger ladies intended, but there are only 3 positions available with minimal risk of injury to you if you have sex with a larger woman. Missionary, Spoon or "white Tiger" (aka doggy... I hate using that term... LOL) Otherwise there is a moderate to high risk of injury any other way.

As far as tightness or whatnot, It is a mater of sexual activity. Perhaps she has been having sex with more endowed men... I have seen smaller women that are so loose that you could pop a fist in with no problem... It is just a matter of sexual activity. Less active the tighter...

[nevergivinguponu]

I agree with your statement when I was larger (fat/huge) listen I could have crushed my boyfriend at the time. Also, we did keep it to minimal positions and as per the books we were asssisted with pillows. It didn't make it bad but it was limiting.I agree with the tightness and partner thing too. I mean my girlfriend has been with a lot of different size men and she is also the only women I know who can do double penetration with two men at the same time. Listen, I would be bleeding for years. lo

[Jinmetsu_Rasetsu]

Chalk it up to my past experiences... In secret, I had my first experience with a female at the age of 12... LOL I know women that say that they won't have sex with a man unless he is endowed with the girth of say almost 5-6 inches in diameter... But then again, how many dudes are out there with that kind of girth? average is around 3.5 to 4...

[katiesmuff]

You sure are one sad dude!

[Asker]

I don't think so. This is suppose to be a reality informational site. I'm sorry you're offended but listen for a guy there is a difference between the age, size and shape of a girl and tightness. This isn't some romance novel, it's the truth. Anytime I've been with a women who has had children they are larger too. A women really wouldn't have a clue as to what I'm talking about but thanks for your comment.

[goflipaburger]

" A women really wouldn't have a clue as to what I'm talking about but thanks for your comment." No, I'm pretty sure we have the mental capacity to understand your situation. We get it you aren't attracted to larger women. That doesn't make you any less of a sad person. And the reason why I consider you a sad person is that you would bother having sex with someone you aren't attracted to and then complain and make things difficult for yourself.