Why are older women like 30s and up more sluttier than the younger ones?

[massb]

Just wondering because I went on dating websites and the younger ones all day looking for a relationship, maybe 1/10 will want sex but not a lot. But most of the older ones are I’m just wondering why that is?

[Anonymous]

All this time is running out is bs.

Perhaps for some it may be the case but I doubt it’s a high percent.. probably in the minority’s and it’s just an assumption people make..

From what I experienced...
I truly believe in general girls don’t want or desire a lot of sex at younger age.. we want it, sure but not soooo much and eventually become almost addicted to it... and want it a lot...

For example.. I never once thought about sex when I was younger... like I liked guys and stuff and thought about them and fell in love but sex never crossed my mind...

and one day I remember my friend that I considered my boyfriend lol but we were not “official” told me he wanted to be inside me or something like that.. and I was like 😯😯😯😯 whaaa? ... and I was about 22 at the time.. that’s kind of old already considering at what age kids are having sex today... anyway! It never crossed my mind until he said it... and told me that every time we talk, he wants to... 😯.. I was really like wow!
and there I was without a Clue! Lol I just felt love 💕 happiness and loved to talk to him! But ever since then, after that, I started thinking more about it... like suddenly I just wanted sex! A lot!
BUT! It does NOT compare to how much I want it now lol

I’m still with the same guy! Lol
I don’t feel old...
I don’t feel a ticking time clock or whatever...
I’m not in a hurry or desperate...

Just want a lot of fucking sex!
Like a lot!! lol
He says I’m a sex machine! And that I’m gonna kill him lol with too much sex! It’s funny but I tell him it’s his fault! I was soooo clueless back then and never even thought bout it before until he said this to me and woke something up in me and led us to here! We can break the bed 😯😇😛!!

Perhaps women in general tend to have more sexual desires at around this Age? That’s what I can conclude... And not because of what all the bitter guys think that it’s cause we’re getting old.. I truly believe it is an assumption, and hose guys just feel bitter to have been rejected a lot and when they suddenly see these girls that rejected them, wanting a lot of sex, they automatically assume it’s because they feel old or something... it’s all bs... at least to me because it’s not even that at alll.
. like I said I don’t even feel Old and I still get a lot of guys asking me out but I’m taken! And super happy! And I dint even look 20! Much less 30! Lol and I still want more sex than I did back then.. my body and mind just desire it more.

[massb]

Damn lol have fun and your completely right

[Kimrav1988]

I don’t think it has anything to do with age, but more to do with the individual. Speaking from a girls perspective I’ve seen the opposite. Girls under 25ish are just looking to have a bit of fun and not ready to settle down, however when they get closer to 30 they start looking for something a bit more meaningful.

[massb]

Yea I guess it just depends on the person

[Kimrav1988]

It depends on what you’re looking for? Are you looking for something casual? If you are then go for the slutty ones if not then take your time to find someone who you can actually see a future with.

[massb]

Yea I wasn’t really looking for anything I was just checking the app out but I wouldn’t mind. And I was just wondering why

[ak667]

In my opinion you got all sorts of things going there.

1) I don't want to offend the younger girls but sex isn't always that pleasurable to younger women. They might have had some bad experiences, a painful first time, and haven't always learned how to really enjoy sex just yet. You tend to find more starfishes the younger you go. Of course that's not always true but usually as women get older and generally, on average, more experienced, they're going to find sex increasingly pleasurable and not painful or uncomfortable and they're going to learn more how to enjoy sex without strings attached.

2) There might be some element of biological clock there, as a woman in her 30s is already working her way towards reduced fertility. By 35 she's going to start working towards infertility very rapidly. I don't think that's necessarily a conscious realization but there might be something subconscious there that fuels some desperation to find a mate.

3) For both guys and girls, we start to just kind of get the hang of not giving AF about what others think. When we're younger we tend to be a bit more self-conscious, a bit more concerned about our reputation and how we're perceived to others. A young woman might be more concerned with being perceived like a slut. As we get older, both guys and girls I think start to give less of a damn.

[ak667]

For the first point, for us guys it's like we're already "sexually experienced women" if I put it in that crude and kind of odd way (but I'll come to a point). We can usually have sex without strings attached right from the beginning and it's generally not a painful experience. It could be awkward but it's generally pretty exciting and we usually come out of it wanting more of that ASAP. Whereas with girls for their first time, it could an uncomfortable if not outright painful experience, they might feel like they need so much trust and an emotional bond, etc. So there's a much gradual process there, I think, for most women to be able to learn to really enjoy sex to its full potential. Whereas with guys we might have a lot to learn in terms of skill and comfort in the bedroom and how to please the woman, but as far as having sex left and right freely without strings and emotions attached, I think most of us are already prepared from the start.

[ak667]

Like when I was a teenager, I was a raging bull. I didn't need to trust a woman to have sex with her. I didn't feel any pain. I didn't even need to know the woman. Just give me a naked lady bent over and I was ready to go. And that's not the case for most young women in their first time as far as I know. It takes a lot more sexual experience usually for them to get to that sort of point in life. I was a "slut" right from the beginning and already by puberty.

[ak667]

I imagine that's true for most guys. I see guys saying they need an emotional connection to have sex with a woman and I'm a bit incredulous. Like, "Really? If you see an attractive naked woman bent over in front of you and telling you she wants you inside of her, you're going to be like, 'I'm sorry, but I need to get to know you first?'" That doesn't make much sense to me for most guys. I would have been all over that even by puberty. So I was kind of born a "slut", as in not very discriminating about sexual partners, and I think that's generally the case for most guys. Whereas with most women, I don't think they're born that way, and some may never become that way to the point where they want to jump on a dick the first time they see some naked guy with an erection.

[massb]

Yea man your right on point and thanks for the analysis. And breaking it down

[ak667]

Cheers. I think this also makes sense from a biological standpoint, since there's hardly a fitness cost for guys to reproduce. They can impregnate women left and right with little cost to themselves, whereas women have the burden of pregnancy. And that's not the case with modern birth control and we also have sexually-transmitted infections to deal with now, but it wasn't like our evolutionary programming took contraception and STIs into account. So there's not really much biological incentive for guys to discriminate sexually. There might be more social reasons if we choose lifelong partners to discriminate a lot, but not in a raw sexual context. Meanwhile with females there's all sorts of biological reasons to discriminate, since they're going to bear the offspring of the biological father, and it's to their advantage to pick a good one. But as their fertility starts to decline (which is usually around 30s onward), that desire to discriminate might be overriden by just the [...]

[ak667]

[...] desire to reproduce via any means possible. Of course consciously we might still use contraception and not think about any of this biological stuff, but I imagine it still influences our behavior a whole lot.

[ak667]

Same with the slut/slut distinction, however unfair and inappropriate it might be in a modern society with birth control, is probably born from the biological reproductive differences between males and females. Males do not bear much of a fitness cost to reproduce. Females, historically, were jeopardizing their lives and future through reproduction. So there was a stronger biological pressure for females to discriminate towards their sexual partners before birth control, and I think social pressure reflected that.

[massb]

Lol it’s not when they call themselves a slut

[ak667]

Definitely not. :-D But I think that phenomena started to occur around the 1960s and onward, and that there were to very prominent things in that period, and that was the development of more reliable and modern forms of birth control and the sexual revolution. A lot of the ideas behind "sexual equality" of that period was trying to eliminate that stud/slut distinction. But I think the reasons those distinctions are a bit stubborn is still rooted in biology. At least I like to use biology as a way to try to explain social phenomena. Not to justify them as "right" or "wrong" like some bigots, but just in a scientific sort of way to say, "So that's why we tend to do this." I'm not really concerned with right/wrong so much as trying to just figure things out as they are now and explain them as best I can.

[ak667]

[...] and [then] there were [two] very prominent things in that period [...]

[ak667]

One of the reasons is because I think some sociologists blatantly ignore biology. My sociology professor was that way and said males and females are "nearly identical behaviorally and functionally". And that's such a loaded statement absent any context. It's like give me female reproductive organs, menstrual cycles, menopause later in life, female hormones, different hormone fluctuations during sex, etc, and that's already going to almost certainly lead me down a completely different path in life when simulated over an entire lifetime. Those differences, however "minor" we call it, are going to lead to whopping differences over a lifetime. Even just giving an individual allergies and resimulating their life could lead down a completely different social, education, and career path. So I don't think it's trivial difference whatsoever, and I think so much more social phenomena could be understood if it incorporated what we learned from biology.

[partydelights]

For one: not all girls in their 30s are slutty.

But for those who are, I think it's because they feel that it's the best method to get a guy and hope that could lead to a relationship.

In short: she feels insecure because (just stating a fact) most girls in their 30s have lost their youthful luster.

This contributes to their behavior which you called "slutty".

[Itsjustvic]

I understand what you are asking.. maybe many of them are newly single and just want to feel sexy and have a fling bc they recently were in a long term situation and didn't do that when they were younger.. it does all come down to the individual plus it is a fact that women sexual peak is in their 40s.

[massb]

Oo I thought it was there 30s when did you peak , I’m just asking for knowledge

[Itsjustvic]

lol I just googled it and it varies from article to article I guess most proving it is probably based on individual but one article said ages 28-45.

[ericclayton]

It's all subjective. What does "peak" mean, anyway? Just platitudes.

[MrNameless]

I think generally older women are more desperate for a serious relationship if anything. But anyway, older women are more experienced and they know what they want, so they may not be as prude as younger women.

[OldDad]

If you ain't getting play now, dont expect the pussy fairy to just start throwing it at you. You still have to work for and earn it.

[Lance1965]

Time is running out for them so they are trying to have as much fun as possible with the good years they have left.

[massb]

Oo shit that’s sad but I guess true

[DiegoO]

Women hit their sexual peack in their 30s.

[Anonymous]

Maybe they suffered set backs and disappointments and don't give a damn if they want sex.

[massb]

Nothing wrong with it I’m sure most people like sex

[Anonymous]

Perhaps for the same reason 26 yo men are stupider than the rest.

[massb]

Lol what’s wrong with you

[Anonymous]

Younger ones are prettier with more to offer. The older ones aren't as marketable

[massb]

Makes sense

[Anonymous]

Don't call women who love sex slutty, it doesn't make a woman slutty to love sex. it's just a personal pleasure. You are disgusting as hell.

[massb]

Lol it’s not the wanting of sex that’s fine, but them posting half naked pics and the things they say 🤔

[Opinion Owner]

OK , DOES THIS MATTER TO YOU? IF SO WHICH PART? THEY AREN'T YOUR GIRLFRIENDS. THEY CAN DO WHATEVER THEY WANT. YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO CALL THEM BITCH. DON'T ANNOY ME AND BE INTERESTED IN YOUR OWN LIFE.

[massb]

😂😂😂look I’m not bashing them I’m just asking why I don’t care what they do. If you see guys showing their abs and their dick out saying they want to fuck girls what would you say. And almost every guy in that age criteria are suing that and the older ones aren’t wouldn’t you wonder why to?

[SilverRain92]

This guy has a point

[massb]

Lool thank you and I don't know why she’s mad when they were calling themselves sluts and that they wanted to be fucked

[SilverRain92]

There can be many reasons. Maybe she also likes exposing her body and think that the word "slut" restricts her doing it. Or maybe she hates the word "slut", because unfortunately nowadays some guys tend to use it for insulting almost every girl regardless of whether she acts slutty or not. Or maybe she just demonstrates solidarity with girls you called slutty without thinking much about your question

[massb]

Yea because she’s thinking with emotion and not logic which a lot of women do not all but a lot do

[Anonymous]

Declining SMV = over compensation.

[massb]

What’s smv?

[Opinion Owner]

Sexual market value.

[massb]

Yea your right

[Opinion Owner]

This is why the older ones will pursue more, make more effort, and be more sexual. I had one ask me out, tell me she planned to seduce me, and talk about how good she thought I'd be at sex... she wasn't my type though. She tried everything to get me to change my mind though.

[massb]

Damn wow I didn’t know it was like that

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sure it varies, but when they are younger, they don't need to do anything, guys just come running. Problem is they instinctively take this for granted and when they get older, suddenly things are different.

[massb]

Yea that’s makes a lot of sense, and yea some of them are just nieve

[Anonymous]

Their desperate

[massb]

Yea probably true lol maybe their time is running out

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly