What is "cant take D***" and why is it so bad?

[Anonymous]

So I saw a facebook post that said is it worse if a woman can't suck d, can't take d, just lies there, or won't arch her back. And a lot of men said "Can't take D". And I wasn't neccesarily offended but I remember how hard it was at times to adjust to having my ex boyfriend inside of me. It hurt! I couldnt stop it from hurting no matter what. It also felt good, and it was pain mixed with pleasure. I enjoyed sex and initiated it. I wouldn't run from the D so much as I would tell him he was hurting me or to slow down whenever it got too much to take. Sometimes I wouldn't even try to stop him even if it hurt, I would just moan and say "owww" at the same time. Sometimes before he put it in I would tell him to be gentle and not to be rough. Sometimes when riding or when he was behind me It would feel like he was hitting my cervix bug I would still arch my back and I would still ride him. It just seems unfair to say a woman isn't good at sex if a mans penis hurts her. What are we suppose to do about that? I honestly think if anything I could tske it and was taking it, but I reminded my ex at times that it hurt sometimes because it fucking did. I dont want to lie there in pain while he is having the time of his life that isn't fair. Also, to be honest I enjoyed sex with him like I said it was pain and pleasure. I wanted to have sex with him and I liked having sex with him and he clearly liked having sex with me or else we wouldn't have had sex so often, so many times a night. But still, would I fall into the category of not being able to take dick?

[Adrian12345]

Like they say, it's not the size but how you use it. Maybe he wasn't doing it right. A lot of guys learn about having sex from another guy and let's face it, a lot of guys don't have a clue.

It shouldn't be painful for you. If the guy makes it a pleasant experience for the woman, she'll possibly want to have sex more often, so it's to a man's advantage to learn to do it right (so a woman will want to take D).
Or if he won't learn (and you want to invest your time and energy in teaching him - if he'll stick around), maybe you can learn and then teach him. But you may only want to do that if he's a keeper. Otherwise he may just take what you've taught him and some other woman will benefit from your time and effort. 😉

[MrKinktastic]

Can't take the D just means that the girl has trouble having sex for one reason or another. In your case it would be because it hurt you as your partner was likely a bit big. You did seem to enjoy it though so i wouldn't have said you couldn't take it, just can't handle rough stuff with a guy that big.

I've been with women I legitimately couldn't have sex with for that reason, we just did other stuff and skipped penetration. It would be a problem for a serious romantic interest though as I really do enjoy penetrative sex. Its one reason I more or less skip Asians now, I find them attractive but we broke my dick once and now I'm scared :P

[Tdieseler]

Its not that big a deal.. its just shit said by egotistical dudes... but i just enjoyed the education.

[MuscleWizard]

Sounds like he had a huge dick/you guys didn't foreplay enough so you weren't lubed up enough so it hurt like hell.

Either way, most of the time that I've seen guys talking about a girl not being able to 'take a dick' is in reference to her being a 'dead fish', i. e. she doesn't provide any feedback at all. Believe it or not, but guys actually want their partners to like sex, who knew? So guys hate it when she doesn't seem like she is enjoying herself whatsoever. If she actually isn't enjoying herself then they should not be doing what they're doing, she should tell him that she wants to try something else.

[bacca400]

> What are we suppose to do about that?

You either use lube, if that's the problem, or get a dilation kit, if that's the problem. Figure out the problem, and find a solution.

[Berethor]

You realize that not all women have that problem? and yes I think that they right, if a woman "can't take D" it's worse from among the options there.

[Princerahul123]

Look dont be sad I know it hurts , my ex used to tell me the same , and i did as per my which during the first few kilometer then the train got faster and faster and she enjoyed a lot too and i felt that, but at first our train was very slow and steady , as we had frequent tours so it was habituated then we used to start at full throttle from the first kilometer.

[Harsh_Ch]

I wouldn't want to be with a prudish, frigid piece of meat that thinks sex is a chore and just lies down to get it over with

[Weapon6]

After being single for a very long time and hating having to always to change sexual partners, I finally find a woman that isn't sleeping with every man in 5 mile radius, isn't a pathological liar or batshit crazy... but she can't take dick. Ow. She can do okay sometimes but usually I have to remind her to relax. Prior to me she barely had sexual orgasms now she is experiencing up to four. Now I can understand sensitivity after orgasm and if she is experiencing discomfort take a break and go back to foreplay. In my case I am the biggest she has had and she wasn't very sexually active and is enjoying the thought of sez more with me than she had in the past. But mostly the issue is mental and lately I have been getting frustrated and I am not sure it will last but for now I am trying to be supportive and not think about hitting the eject button.