Does this mean I'm "loose" or something?

[Anonymous]

I know that a vagina technically can't get loose unless you have lots of children and stuff and even then, it's not really loose. I guess I'm asking if my vagina may be bigger than normal. A few nights ago, I had sex with my boyfriend. I'm on the pill so I usually let him cum in me. After he cums in me, it immediately leaks out of me. It either leaks out while I'm still laying down or when I stand up, it's like a waterfall going down my leg. (His cum is watery, too. Does that mean he doesn't have very good orgasms with me?) Why does it leak out of me so fast? I want to have at least enough time to put underwear on without getting cum on the bed or the floor.. Does that mean that my vagina is big since I can't keep his cum inside me for more than one minute? And why is his cum watery with me? His cum is thicker and white when I give him a bj so is he not having good orgasms in my pussy? He always used to like the missionary position and he would finish in that position frequently. Now his favorite to finish in is doggy.. I've heard doggy makes the girl feel tighter so maybe I feel big in other positions to him? Everytime we have sex now, he wants to finish by cumming in doggy. Don't get me wrong, I love that position but why has he started finishing in that position everytime? And lastly, sometimes he won't go down on me. He has never complained of a bad smell or taste, but sometimes he just won't. He says i actually smell and taste really good, but when he goes down on me, his dick is less hard than it was before he started. :( Does this mean he doesn't like giving me oral? He swears it turns him on and he swears it is enjoyable, but I don't believe him because his dick kind of goes down when his head is between my legs.. I feel crazy but could someone help me with all of this please? Thank you in advance.

[Anonymous]

So first I will address the watery cum. The more often a male orgasms, the more watery his cum gets. Semen has two main parts, sperm and seminal fluid. It takes the body a longer time to make sperm than it takes to make seminal fluid. So if a male orgasms too frequently, then he uses up most of his sperm supply and his semen will be mostly seminal fluid. If his cum is watery then you two have either been having a lot of sex recently, or he has been masturbating a lot.

As for the leaking issue, that is also a two parter. Sperm makes semen thick and more viscous. When the sperm count is low and the seminal fluid is high, the semen will "run" easier and flow more like a waterfall as you described it.

The second part of the leaking issue involves your pelvic muscles. You know that feeling when you try to hold in a pee? When you do that you are contracting your pelvic muscles. People can train themselves to make their pelvic muscles stronger by performing kegel exercises, which are basically just repeatedly contracting and holding your pelvic muscles as if you were holding a pee in. Having stronger pelvic muscles would allow for you to hold in the semen easier.

[Asker]

Does this mean my pelvic floor muscles aren't very strong so. therefore I don't feel as good to my boyfriend?:(

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think so, vagina tightness in relation to pelvic floor muscles is a highly contentious subject. Some sources claim that it affects tightness while others claim that it is a myth. The good news at least, is that kegels are an easy exercise that can be done basically anywhere at any time. If you are really concerned then you can google proper techniques for doing kegels and start doing them daily. A couple months of that and there will be a remarkable difference in the strength of your pelvic floor muscles. All that being said, I wouldn't worry so much about tightness if I were you. He will be happy just to get any sex at all, the tightness isn't something to complain about.

[Asker]

So. does pelvic floor strength affect the way my vagina feels to my boyfriend?

[Opinion Owner]

I can't give you a definitive answer on that. I have found a lot of sources claiming it does, but I also found some sources claiming that it is a myth. I do know from experience that your vagina will feel tighter if you contract your pelvic floor muscles during intercourse. But I would advise against that unless you are going to hold that contraction the entire time. (and stop if your boyfriend says anything about being "too tight") My girlfriend would "pulse", as in contract then relax repeatedly. That ended up hurting my member.

[Asker]

And I can't make him cum by riding him. I thought it was easy for. girls to make guys cum by riding them.. Is there just more room in my vagina when I'm on top so therefore he just can't get enough stimulation from me riding him?

[Opinion Owner]

You are probably riding him wrong, it is an extremely common mistake among girls. Many girls end up grinding when they are on top because that is more pleasurable for them. But for the guy, his dick is just getting yanked back and forth. Not only does this not provide much stimulation, but it also actually hurts. When you ride your boyfriend you want to make sure that there is a thrusting motion. Your vagina should be sliding up and down the shaft of his penis. If he is fully inserted (balls deep) the entire time, then you are doing it wrong. To help picture it, think about how guys masturbate. They don't just firmly grab the shaft in a single spot and then shake their hand wildly. Instead they slide their hand up and down the shaft of the penis.

[Asker]

I do. That. I slide up. and down. I don't grind. And he seems extremely pleasured by it. His eyes roll back, his toes curl. up, he moans, etc. But I just can't get him over the edge. Is it because I'm not tight enough?

[Asker]

I. dont see what other problem it could be unless it is my vagina. I have done it hard, soft, fast, slow, etc. I slide up and down his entire length. I don't grind. He seems to enjoy it because of the sounds he makes and his eyes roll back and close and he seems to get close, but but he can't finish. He just flips me over and does. doggy instead. Could it be that my vagina is big?

[Opinion Owner]

I really don't think that is the issue. It might be stamina related. You could either be switching positions too soon and/or you could be thrusting too slowly. To build a guy up to an orgasm you need to maintain the thrusting motion for a while. Think of achieving the male orgasm as filling a cup that has a hole in the bottom with water. The water is stimulation of the penis and getting the water to the top of the cup is the man achieving orgasm. You need to pour water in at a faster rate than it drains. If you go too slow then the cup will never get full. If you stop pouring water right before the cup gets full, then it will quickly drain and reset to where you started. So it could be that you are either going too slow, or you start slowing down/taking a break before you were able to stimulate him enough to reach orgasm.

[TadCurious]

All I can report is that, with my cum, it turns from thick to watery pretty quickly also. So for me that's normal, and I suspect it is for other guys as well. I don't think there's anything wrong with your vagina. And it's not unusual for his erection to subside somewhat when he's busy focusing on giving you oral.

[Asker]

It doesn't mean he's not turned on by giving me oral if he kind of loses his erection when he does it? And his favorite position to finish in is doggy. I don't know if it's just because he really likes it or if it's because i don't feel as tight in other positions besides doggy. I literally can't make him cum by riding him and I feel like it's because my vagina is too big.. :(

[TadCurious]

No, it doesn't mean he's not turned on by giving you oral if his erection goes down somewhat. I know that's hard to understand but it's true, at least for me. I think it's because giving good oral to a girl requires a lot of focus and attention to what you're doing.

[Asker]

And I cannot make him cum by riding him. I've never been able to. Is this caused by an issue with my tightness when I'm on top? He can get close in this position and his toes curl and he moans and his eyes roll back and all that, but I just cannot get him over the edge by riding him. Is this my vaginas fault?

[TadCurious]

No. No offense, but it's silly to place any kind of "fault" on your vagina. The whole thing that's talked about so much these days about girls being "tight" or "loose" is mostly based on myth, and not on a proper understanding of how the vagina actually is and how it reacts and changes during sexual arousal. When I girl is aroused, her vagina actually lengthens and expands somewhat to allow penetration. That's normal and it's how it's supposed to work. But that doesn't mean the girl is "loose." Whether or when your boyfriend cums has to do with him and not your body.

[Asker]

Yeah but I'm worried that my vagina doesn't grip him as good as it should. Why can't he cum when I'm riding him? He seems to really enjoy it but he can't finish when I do it, so he flips me over and switches to doggy. I can't help but feel like it is a tightness issue. I can't help but feel. like my vagina isn't very good to him..

[TadCurious]

It's harder for a guy to thrust when the girl is on top. But that doesn't mean it doesn't feel good. That's an amazing position for a guy for other reasons, and a lot of that has to do with what he's able to see when the girl is on top and facing him. I just really wouldn't worry that your boyfriend doesn't cum when you're riding him. That's actually a good thing if it gives you the time you need to cum by riding him and grinding your clit against his pubic bone.

[Asker]

Yeah but since he can't cum in this position, is it because there's extra room in vagina and so it doesn't feel good enough for him?

[TadCurious]

I don't think there's anything wrong with your vagina. And unless your gynecologist has told you there's a problem with it, I don't think you should think there is either.

[Asker]

It's usually easy for girls to. make guys cum by riding.. Why can't I make my guy cum by riding him? It must be that my vagina is too big when I'm on top.. I try as hard as I can but my vagina is just not. good enough..

[Jenny4455]

I wouldn't worry honey. As to him softening when giving you oral it could be the lack of stimulation for him have you tried 69ing?

[Asker]

Yes and he doesn't go soft when we 69

[Asker]

And since his cum drips. out so fast, could that mean that I'm bigger than normal down there?

[Jenny4455]

You sure it's his cum not yours? I wouldn't worry, I always have stuff dripping out after it just happens. There you go he just needs the stimulation himself

[Asker]

Yes it's his cum. My cum isn't that watery and his cum. smells a bit like bleach. So yeah, it's his. When I give him a handjob, his cum is thick and white. But when he cums in me, it's clear. It makes me feel like his orgasms in my pussy aren't quite as good..

[Jenny4455]

Orgasms don't affect it's consistency. I know a guy who is pre-orgasmic! Is he wanting before sex to last longer during?

[Jenny4455]

Wanking *

[Asker]

No. He doesn't cum before sex. He doesn't usually last very long but he tries to for me. And I've noticed that he used to like cumming in missionary and in other positions but now he always wants to finish in doggy. I've heard doggy makes a girl feel tighter so maybe this is the reason he always wants to finish in that position?

[Jenny4455]

Your sure he doesn't? Some guys do do that. Guys like doggy, it's dominating. It does feel different for them, from what I've figured tighter isn't the right description. They're entering at an inverted position from missionary with different points of contact that are generally more stimulating for guys plus it's deeper penetration

[Asker]

So. it doesn't really have anything to do. with me feeling loose in other positions?

[Jenny4455]

I doubt it, doggy involves less effort for guys, they can go deeper, harder. It's all round a win for them

[Asker]

And I cannot make. him cum by riding him. I've done everything. I've done it slow, fast, hard, soft, etc and it he will not cum. He gets close and he moans and his toes curl up and he seems to be into it, but I just cannot get him over the edge. I feel like it's because I'm not tight enough and maybe his dick isn't getting enough stimulation in this position..

[Jenny4455]

If you keep telling yourself your body is the problem you'll start believing it eventually. If you keep telling him he will eventually believe it to

[Asker]

I just don't understand why I can't make him cum by riding him.. do you think it's because he feels extra room in my vagina when I'm on top? I can't talk to him about it. He gets mad at me when I try..

[Jenny4455]

How does your v feel when you masturbate? How many fingers do you use?

[Asker]

I use one. It's harder to fit two. It can be done however. My boyfriend has gotten three fingers in me before but that wasn't to finger me, it was just to see if he could do. it. Lol my boyfriend usually just uses one finger to pleasure me but he can fit two fingers in comfortably. He says that when he uses two fingers, it's harder for his fingers to move around.

[Jenny4455]

So you know how tight you are then

[Asker]

I don't feel like that's very tight. And when he's in me, I feel like I may feel loose on him.

[Asker]

If he has been able to fit three fingers inside, is that big?

[TheAli]

Vaginas according to human anatomy can vary, person to person, so it's possible that you've a roomy vagina through your genetics, but there's not much you can do about it except for surgery..

[BigRob420]

Sounds like a medical issue.

[Asker]

A medical. issue with me or. with him?

[BigRob420]

With him.

[dragonslayer1516]

Have you tried doing kegal exersieses to tighten your pussy? And to as why the difference in consistency in his cum between a bj and a cream pie is probably several different things and it’s not your fault

[Asker]

Is that why it drips out so easily? Because I'm not tight enough?

[dragonslayer1516]

I’m not sure but you might want to try them and see what happens

[Asker]

I. already do. them when i. can remember to. I've never even had kids so I don't know why I'm so big down there..

[dragonslayer1516]

Girls are just like guys, some are bigger then others

[Asker]

So I'm probably less pleasurable to my boyfriend than another girl probably was?

[dragonslayer1516]

I can’t say

[Hugemoth]

No u good

[jmstarling]

If you don't have an orgasm, the cum is more likely to leak out.

[IsMayoAnInstrument]

I'd ask a gynecologist.

[Anonymous]

You're fine... really.

[Anonymous]

Some women are just born particularly loose or tight, its no big deal.

[Asker]

Since his cum drips. out so fast, could that mean I'm bigger than average there? Also, why does he prefer to finish in doggy now instead of other positions? Could I really feel too big for him?

[Opinion Owner]

With the one woman I had sex with who had a loose vagina, I found that the most consistently fun way to fuck her was in doggy. To be honest, yeah it sounds like it.

[Asker]

I mean, he says I'm tight and he only uses one finger to finger me most of the time. Sometimes two, but he says when he uses two, there's not much room to move his fingers around.. maybe he's just trying to make me feel better though. :(

[Asker]

And he gets close to cumming in other positions. But he really wants to finish in doggy everytime.. I don't know. what this means..

[Opinion Owner]

I mean maybe, I feel like that's the male equivalent of white lies women tell about a mans penis size. However I don't know, that woman had many children and she was older by several years. If you're this young its a lot less likely. Maybe he just loves doggy style.

[Asker]

I'm only 18 and have never had children. I do kegels when i can remember to. He says doggy is his favorite position but we've been together for two years and he used to really like missionary. He still acts like he enjoys missionary and he can still. cum like that, but he likes doggy a lot and finishes in doggy everytime now. I feel really bad about my vagina..

[Opinion Owner]

I think maybe you should just chill you're young and doing kegels, there's not a ton more you could even do. He's still with you.

[Asker]

I literally can't make him cum while. im on top. I feel like my vagina is big and awful.. :(

[Opinion Owner]

Oh that's probably not true.

[Asker]

Why can't I make him cum by riding him? Every girl brags about how fast their guy cums when they're riding him and i. can't get my guy to. cum while. im. riding. May be my vagina Is actually bigger than an average females..

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know maybe try harder next time. Like I said, he's with you so it clearly isn't that much of an issue.

[Asker]

I. try as hard as I can.. maybe it is a tightness issue.

[Opinion Owner]

Jesus, go talk to him about this then This isn't going to do anything but help you spiral down

[Asker]

He won't talk to me. He says everything is good and then gets mad at me for trying to talk. about it.

[Opinion Owner]

Well then go fuck with someone who respects you more.