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Husband has no sexual desire for me but does for his phone.. why?

My husband acts very strange some nights.. ill dress up all sexy in lingerie (sometimes even just naked) and be flirty & kinky, kissing on him and rubbing him... he won't even look away from his smartphone to glance at me (watching porn) I don't understand.. I thought he would want me, a real in person woman, than some ho on his phone screen.. we've been together a Little over 2 years & are trying to get pregnant.. but I don't see this happening until he stops what he is doing.. he'll even pretend to fall asleep sometimes so I will lay down & fall asleep myself so he can get back on his phone and masturbate.. ever since he started doing that he hasn't wanted me at all.. the 1st year or so he couldn't keep from getting hard and wanting me just from looking at me.. I don't understand what has happened.. did he quit being attracted to me? Or is he just so addicted to porn that that's all he wants or needs? Someone PLEASE help me & explain to me why he is acting this way... thank you guys..
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Porn has it's place, but when it becomes an obsession as in your husband's case, like all obsessions, it leaves no time for anything else. At the moment his focus is totally on porn. What he's doing to you is wrong. It will build resentment on your part. It is neglect, it's disrespectful, it's demeaning.
    He didn't quit being attracted to you, he got obsessed with porn.
    This must be killing your attraction to him, your desire. If it hasn't killed your need, or want, then play him at his own game.
    Still dress up, get noisy, get loud, get dirty. If he doesn't take notice, then the only course of action is counselling, together, both of you.
    Otherwise, the relationship will die.

  • He is completely now into getting his pleasure from watching porn than doing real sex. You have the right to ask him about this and even the law wouldn't be able to stop you if you decide to leave him.
    If you are reluctant to leave him then you should curb him down from watching porn and also from masturbating. Practicing nofap is the best solution for him, because literally he is draining down his semen which would have been useful in getting you pregnant. If you could change him well and good for both of you.
    If still he won't change, then it's high time you leave him and look for someone who genuinely is interested in you.

Most Helpful Girls

  • This is why we should not watch porn.
    I would leave him tbh. Maybe it is fun to believe people will change but realistically its not probable. I would hurry up and get out b4 you get pregnant.

    • Yeah take this 14 year Olds advice.

    • @LordSnuggles Only a fool will base intelligence off age.

    • @LordSnuggles That comment shows you haven't the mind of a child.

  • Tell him to go fuck himself. You don’t deserve that.

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  • Not healthy or normal. It definitely sounds like addiction.

  • In order to better understand, post one of the picture of you in lingerie all sexied up. I'll take a good look and let you know if I see anything wrong. Make sure the photo is detailed and revealing. This is for your husband and the sake of your mutual sex lives, so be sure to give it your all. of course, if you feel more comfortable you can message me several (from different angles and poses) so I have a decent idea.

  • Sounds like porn addiction. You should confront him and insist he change his ways. If he refuses then you need to move on while your still young and can find what you're looking for.

  • Why is not important. What's important is that you feel neglected because you are. Have you told him how you feel? What did he say?

    If he's unwilling to rejoin the marriage then you may have to change your address (leave). You certainly can't continue like this for the next 50 years. Good luck.

  • Thats awful, and that is porn addiction for you, really bad porn addiction. He needs some serious help and id suggest avoiding getting pregnant until he gets the help he needs

  • porn girls ALWAYS will be hotter than average women. sorry

    • You couldnt be more wrong. Women in porn are ugly fake pieces of shit. The only reason they may look okay in porn is the absurd amount of makeup they put on, the plastic surgery they get, and the digital editing they get done on them. you're an idiot if you dont know that

    • @Malita55 Nah, still hotter.

  • Try talking with him, but he seems like a dumbass. Choosing porn over a girl next to him.

    Husband has no sexual desire for me but does for his phone.. why?

  • I might be able you help you I do the same thing if you want to talk and get some tips you can message me on face book

  • Sorry that's so bad. i think that it is the time to talk him about that and if hi doesn't change speak to his family.

  • Gee that's awful. Tbh he might just not be attracted to you anymore, or is addicted to porn

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