My partner is in to my 21 year old niece, why is he so hungry for her, knowing he’s gonna loose me and never gonna get to her?

I’m going to start By saying that
i don’t want some crazy opinion of saying that it’s a normal thing man do. Because I think it’s very disrespectful to woman seeing your man wanting to get into your own family member or desire them, and this can be for woman too.
I’ve been struggling with my partner for long, I’ve been through so many things, I’ve seen things or acts that don’t sound or look for it to be ok or normal or mentally healthy. Like I can understand when man stares at beautiful woman, because I have done it too, and I don’t see that as a threat or wrong, I mean we have eyes, iam not blind, but one thing from an other it’s totally different with a morbid look, or more then just a simple look... i don’t know if i’m making any sense of my point is. Not too long ago I had asked him
why are you looking at my niece that kind away. Of course he denied it, and I felt he’s dick getting excited, but he got it under control for me not to notice, he’s not dumb either and how Do I know , because he was holding my feet against him, or close enough but not completely on top, but not to a point where ya can say he was getting horny because of my feet where I top of him. No that was not the case.
He only stared to contract or getting excited when I asked him about her. When her name came up. What does he thinks or imagine of her makes him excited. I mean yeah she’s beautiful and everything, but she’s my niece like a daughter to me, why would he ever look at her that kind of way, where’s the respect i desirve and her.
There no way in me, can say that it’s normal or ok, And when he sees her at a family reunion he just can’t get his eyes off her, He will try so hard to look for a way to be staring at her, but for me not to catch him on the act. So many time I’ve seen him, iam already tire of this kind of behavior.
Any advice. Stay and work out or move out. Please be honest.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • It’s one thing to find your girlfriend’s niece attractive. That is perfectly normal. It’s quite another to obsess over her so much and so obviously that it puts your relationship with the aunt in danger! This isn’t normal at all. If I were you, I’d end the relationship. It’s not even about his attraction to her; it’s that he clearly doesn’t care about what you think about his awful behavior.

    • In some arguments I have told him, you like my niece and he reply’s, ufff she’s not hot or beautiful to me, he keeps saying or denying She’s pretty. or worse that’s he likes her.

    • Yes, but as you know, his actions speak louder than words.

    • Thank you for MHO. Best of luck for your future.

  • You already know the answer. Respect an Trust are very important in a real relationship. Just re read what you wrote. Your answer is written by you. If & when you have a family. What would you think you would teach your kids. Self Respect starts with you. You got this !!

    • Yes your right , I have my own answer, or been haveing a answer, I just need to confirm that, iam right and he’s just so wrong. He keeps saying that, by looking at her it’s not bad, that bad is if he took her to a hotel and boner. Am like ohhh I have to wait around intill you decide to make worse mistakes... Haha loser hell no. It’s already bad enough.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I put this question to you are willing to put up with this behavior if not then you know what you need to do. people can give advise from their own perspective of things ultimately you are the one who has to make a choice if he is worth you time and effort.

  • Oh no find the courage to leave him. This is a very toxic behaviour. No need to even have a discussion about it

    • Yessss I need A lot of courage. I just need a job to regain my independence and do it all by myself and our son. I think my money situation has hold me down, but it’s just got to a point where I can’t let this happen again

    • Maybe he knows he has this power over you. What he is doing is ugly so you can choose to stop loving him, start to plan some actions and pray a lot about the life you deserve. This happens to many women, you are not alone and trust me once one decides to changer her life, it takes focus and self love to make thing shift back to some thing better than this. You will be alright

    • Thank you 🙏 so much for advice

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  • I'd leave

  • He clearly don't care if u see him doing it so the answer Is yours if u stay or go as he has shown u the respect he thinks u deserve

  • This guy has some problems That are not going away or at least not now. It is disrespectful to you but also very stupid on his part. This kind of behavior is never normal. If he is your age it is just worse for him. he sounds like he is making her some kind of mental sex object. He has some maturity problems as well as a lack of class. Say good bye.

  • Leave him

  • Because he's thinking with his penis. Just throw him away.

  • No, that kind of behavior shouldn't be tolerated. The last thing you want is an incident before it's too late. My ex and her sister were touched by an uncle when they were younger and when their dad found out, he pretty much disappeared from their lives

  • I think you need to calm down. Even your writing mistakes are showing it. You should stay and work it out. I think you need to observe and wait at least some more.
    There is no proof at this point that he has bad intentions or he values her over you

    • I don’t think he wants her over me, because he knows that’s never gonna happen , but what it bores me it’s that, he actually makes so obvious he likes her. And I think it’s not right. I mean why would ever ever put your eyes on your wife, girlfriend family member. Like just why. don’t him have enough with me... ugh, but now I understand he’s just trash... I need to get ride off.

    • Wait, you are jumping to conclusions. Please think for a minute, you are just angry right now. Take some time to talk to him about this in a polite manner.

    • No conclusion, he likes her. This is NOT THE FIRST TIME he does it, it’s ever time. Iam just done. But thanks for your opinion.

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  • It's normal for a man to do. Playa gotta play... that's what attracted you to him in the first place, right? He's a playa... be honest and own your decision

  • Thats clearly out of bounds. You should end it and all contact with him.

    • I still have to contact with him, because our baby. that’s really frustrating Trying to move out, but then again make arrangements for him to see the baby.

    • He needs to show respect for everyones sake. Split up but he needs to be in the kids life

    • Thanks

  • You can help set them up after breaking up with him

    • Uhhhh yeah right he can be grandpa to her she’s only 21 he’s 52 ewww no... it’s like no offense to no one , but come on iam 33 and I still get a lot of my family and friends he’s way to old for me. But what can you do.. when love hits you. 🤷‍♀️

    • He must be probably rich

    • Baby nooo. Maybe in a whole need world... not on this one. Lol. He drives a 06 Honda Accord. He is the cheapest man ever. And Not because of the car

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  • Wow I'd dump his ass.

  • Why are you staying with him?

    • Because he makes think that iam crazy and makeing this up,

    • Like I’ve even asked my self iam really exaggerating. But the again it happens again.

    • If you have heard him Express an interest in your younger niece multiple times to the point where you are this confident in your conclusion and you've discussed these feelings with him you are crazy for staying with him

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  • He obviously is lusting after your niece. Why? Because it feels good, and because if gives him fantasies to repeat in his mind, which again, are enjoyable. Why your niece? I sounds like there may be incest issues with him. Not because he finds your niece good looking, but because he seems to be making a sexual object of her, and she is your daughter.

    • Them, that hurts, but it’s true.

  • Sometimes you gotta let him get his nuts elsewhere as log as he comes back to you

    • Mmhhh 🤭😔

    • Wow. Did you really say let him get his nuts off as long he comes back. Wow. If I was dating someone an my partner didn’t have what it took to keep me loyal an giving me the respect I’d like to teach others by example- well. Then it’s better to be single. But then again. I’m old an opinionated

    • @MovingForward2day this anonymous girl thinks just like him. That it’s ok to miss round, breaking hearts. How sad.

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