Should I get her pregnant?

Question

I am pretty insecure about my girlfriend and myself in general. I'm a good lookimg guy and have had girls before but my girlfriend is so gorgeous.
She's an amazing girl and she's drop dead gorgeous. I cannot keep my eyes off her and we have a good relationship.
The problem is I am quite insecure about her and our relationship.
I feel really jealous whenever she talks to other men and nearly all the men I see, seem to find her pretty and even if they dont know her, they start saying hello to her.

I know she loves and adores me and she's never given me any reason to feel insecure but I can't digest this. I haven't been so possessive until now.

My exes were free to talk to guys, hang out with them or go to their presentations but I can't bear the thought of this if it concerns her.

I'm planning on getting her pregnant so that we have our baby and she can't go anywhere. We have sex regularly so its not like she's going to be surprised by her pregnancy.
However , is this the right thing to do?

ciitruskiwi · Accepted Answer

Wow. You are seriously asking if it's right for you to secretly get your girlfriend pregnant so you can trap in the relationship. How stupid are exactly?

First off, she can still go somewhere. She can still dump your ass, which she should if you think like this. In this day and age a woman doesn't necessarily need a man to raise a kid.

Second, going back to you being stupid. Do you really that a kid is going to solve anything? A kid isn't a magical love potion that makes everything okay. You are still going to have your insecurities and this time there is just going to be a poor kid that sees all of it. It's not going to make any difference. You need to get help for your insecurities. It's not right or healthy to feel possessive and bringing a kid into this type of relationship is just wrong on a whole another level.

MountainstoSea · Accepted Answer

Are you serious? Just reading the first line alone says you’re not ready to be a parent. And you’re considering planning this to try and trap your girlfriend? Can you think for one minute about someone other than yourself? Like the child that you may bring in this world that you will be obligated to for life (if she stays and allows this) or the girlfriend you don’t want to lose and claim you have feelings for. Newsflash.. you DONT OWN HER. A pregnancy will not change that. Try a healthier way to communicate your concerns with your partner.

worldscolide · Accepted Answer

this is just as bad as a woman trying to trap a man with a pregnancy Dont do it. She will resent you.. If you feel like you want to have a child with her, Have a discussion with her about it, Dont just hall off and do it. Additionally if you're that insecure about the relationship, Have a discussion with her about it. You will be surprise how far communication can go.

Logorithim · Accepted Answer

Trying to trap someone never really works out in the long term. Truth is, guys are going to notice her and find her attractive no matter what, so what you are saying is that you don't trust her and, in Addition, that you can't Keep her happy. No relationship can last when one Partner has those insecurities, so you Need to fix that.

PunKin93 · Answer

That won't stop her. If she was ever going to leave you in the 1st place. You need some help, it sounds like your love has taken a dark turn towards possessive and obsessive.

ZambieMouse · Answer

No. Never, ever trap someone, or that poor child, like that. Don't even consider it. It is NEVER the right thing to do and you're going to mess up that poor child for life and ruin your relationship beyond repair. Don't you dare bring a poor, innocent child into a relationship as a fucking prison for your partner.

MlleCake · Answer

You're a sociopath.

ragequeen · Answer

You sound really possessive of her and that`s not good. A healthy relationship is trust, security, and freedom. If you feel like you have to get her pregnant only to keep her away from the market, that`s a huge issue.

madhatters4 · Answer

because no woman with a baby has ever left her partner or cheated right? this is terrible idea. please work on your jealousy rather than permanently altering 3 lives for the sake of your insecurity

azzntittiz · Answer

You're an a hole, you sound abusive and evil.

jellyroo · Answer

Oh yeah, intentionally getting your girlfriend pregnant without her knowing or agreeing to it is the hallmark of love, everybody knows that. Nothing psychotic about it at all, no sirrrr.

txcountrygirl · Answer

ABSOLUTELY NOT! Don't think that by her to g her preganat she will stay regardless. This is not a reason to Bri g another life into this world. Please rethink your decision.

mattdzz · Answer

Trap here my dude

EmmaMary · Answer

You need to get your insecurities sorted first.

AnonAT_ · Answer

Sort yourself out.

WalterRadio · Answer

No, not unless you are married, have a great job, 6 months of salary saved as cash, and a house.

boggboss · Answer

At 25 At least u are a idiot if u think this is how you will keep her from talking to other guys or cheating if she wanted to

slatyb · Answer

Definitely not the right thing to do -- you would be using the child as a means to another end. Go to a therapist and get over your insecurity and jealousy.